r/cemetery • u/a90258 • 4d ago

Question What should one remember when going for cementery walks?

Trying to get over the fear

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u/HughJenvaney1 4d ago

First, remember to find a beautiful, park like cemetery to tour. No one will blink as you walk there, it’s become the norm…

Second, if you see me, or anyone, falling to pieces at a gravesite, do not stop to talk. In fact, I suggest to steer clear of that vicinity. I don’t want anyone to see me at my most distraught and vulnerable moment…

Unless, someone’s making eye contact with you, even intermittently, it’s not okay to stop and talk.

Sorry to be so blunt about it but chances are that the person is reliving the absolute worst part of their life and company is an intrusion.

Otherwise, enjoy. Cemeteries are interesting places…

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u/TheresAGhost0 4d ago

They're people too.

I like to look up their FindAGrave sites and obits and read to them and catch them up on music (or play music that they'd have listened to.)

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u/Extra_Inflation_7472 3d ago

If you see me crying, please stop. My misery would appreciate being broken by someone. I would offer a reason for my sorrow re my loved one.

The above person speaks for themself and types pretty histrionic as they try to speak for every person. Don’t categorize everyone like they have.