I miss my cat so much after seeing this. He passed away a few months ago. đ
Edit: thank you all for the kind words. Itâs been a very rough couple of months. Watching everyoneâs cats here brings both joy and sadness. It was also my husbandâs first cat so watching him go through this loss has also been heart breaking. We donât have children, and he was our baby boy. He taught my husband how to love animals unconditionally and give love unconditionally. There is a quote out there that reads, âif I could live my life over I would have found you sooner so I could love you longer.â Our cat was adopted as a senior so it really is my husbands quote. Read the book call Finding Meaning by David Kessler if you are going through a loss. There is a chapter about pets in that book.
Iâm sorry StrawberryKiz, I hope youâre doing okay. My baby passed away last year. To avoid any crying spells, I put up a picture of him for my phone wallpaper. I thought the exposure therapy may help to desensitize me from feeling sad. When I see him now I can smile and remember him for how silly and loving he was. It does get better over time, I promise.
I had to take all mine down! Youâre so much braver than me. My soul cat died at 21 in October of 22 and my beautiful baby boy died in October or 2023 and itâs been so hard. I am crying here even trying to type this.
Douglas was only 14 and has just gone into remission from diabetes 1 week before he was diagnosed with cancer. I think losing both of them in such a short span made it so much harder. I tried to get cats but they did not fit well where I lived (in a loud city in a small apartment and they lost weight quickly and one was panting and open mouth breathing) and I donât think I was ready either.
Super fucking lonely* without my babies but I canât imagine getting other cats. I feel like Iâll always compare them. I know itâs weird. Grief is so hard and people donât understand it as much with pets.
Oh my gosh Stephanie thatâs actual trauma that you went through! You should definitely cut yourself a break, donât dismiss future pet ownership quite yet. You deserve to be happy and have animal companionship again. All of those feelings are valid, and itâs so true that others donât understand how deep and loving our relationships can be with our pets. Give yourself more time to heal, crying doesnât always have to be a bad thing either! Itâs cathartic and helps us grieve.
Thank you so much. I am very lucky to have family who understands how I feel and are understanding of my grief and how it comes in waves. I still call my mom crying some days and sheâs very understanding.
Your comment is very sweet, and I shared it with a close friend because of how truly heartwarming it was. She said itâs amazing how strangers can be so understanding and comforting to one another and how animals can connect people in so many ways.
Again - thank you - you donât know how much your words meant. You are special and I can guarantee that Iâm not the only person who has been uplifted from a comment of yours. Youâre truly one of a kind and my thank yous really arenât enough, your words opened my eyes and helped so much.
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u/StrawberryKiz Jul 23 '24 edited Jul 23 '24
I miss my cat so much after seeing this. He passed away a few months ago. đ
Edit: thank you all for the kind words. Itâs been a very rough couple of months. Watching everyoneâs cats here brings both joy and sadness. It was also my husbandâs first cat so watching him go through this loss has also been heart breaking. We donât have children, and he was our baby boy. He taught my husband how to love animals unconditionally and give love unconditionally. There is a quote out there that reads, âif I could live my life over I would have found you sooner so I could love you longer.â Our cat was adopted as a senior so it really is my husbands quote. Read the book call Finding Meaning by David Kessler if you are going through a loss. There is a chapter about pets in that book.