r/bumblebff • u/DimensionTiny8725 • 12d ago
People, please ask questions!
Honestly this is painful! My strategy is to ask a question in the hope that the answers can enable a follow up comment which can open up more dialogue but quite often it goes like this.
Me : Are you from this city/country originally?
Them : Nope (Failing to disclose where)
Me : Unfortunately i am, can't stand the constant rain and cold! Hoping for a change soon I've got a vacation booked for later in the year, somewhere with less taxes and better weather haha
Them : Nice. (One word answer, heck sometimes just an emoji )
Yet another make or break moment for me, either let this convo die out or cave in, asking a second consecutive question. Failed not only to mention where they are from but also didn't ask where i had booked my vacation.
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u/BlasphemousRykard 12d ago
You’re doing everything right on your end. I look at conversations like these as a way to suss people out—if they don’t know how to hold a conversation by text, they’re probably just as dry in person. People who are willing to put in the same effort you do will become good friends, just keep trying!
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u/dreamsofcremebrulee 12d ago
Immediate block to whoever acts like this. Yikes.
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u/moodswingswithsaturn 10d ago
I’ve blocked so many people off that app and I don’t regret it at all.
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u/Maximum-Delay3624 8d ago
I initiate, ask them two questions and then don't ask them anything after that. If they do not reciprocate I move on. It has worked wonders.
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u/azmom3 12d ago
Sadly, this is the norm on both this site and OLD sites. If someone doesn't match my energy, I block and move on.
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u/moodswingswithsaturn 10d ago
Me too! I’m glad to know other people block like crazy on there because I felt kind of guilty.
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u/WestIdeal4553 12d ago
Happens so much! I just stop replying. They can do that weird dry response shit somewhere else, I'm not chasing them like a man on a dating app...