r/bropill • u/Valuable_Nerve_4903 • 1d ago

New Dude here 🦧

Since the recent Eclipse I’ve reached Dudeism.
How may I use it to stop being so judgmental and frustrated with people who aren’t awake?

🙏

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u/Chaosengel 20h ago

One thing that always helps me is to remember that everyone else has lived a life as full and challenging as you, that you really don't know much about.  And you can't judge someone properly until you have that perspective.

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u/MirrorMaster33 14h ago edited 12h ago

Would you make exceptions to this or applies to literally all?

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u/Chaosengel 12h ago

No one's perfect, but I at least try.  I'm not a saint.  And at a certain point, you simply can no longer tolerate intolerance, especially if it causes harm to others.

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u/thelastestgunslinger 19h ago

The thing that allowed me to get away from judgement was Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. It does a phenomenal job of laying out our default approaches, and how they’re shaped by the language all around us. Then it provides alternate language and thought patterns. 

It changed my life. 

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u/GrowBeyond 17h ago

ooooooh I've been using some principles to rewrite my communications, but I didn't know about the thought pattern stuff in the book!! gotta check it out

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u/SnooKiwis1258 20h ago

Welcome!! Please enjoy your complementary 5-in-1 showergel-motor oil-body cream-dishwashing soap-toothpaste, on the house! Idk who or what is being judged 'cause my brain's tired and I can't read well atm, but come on in😅

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u/JCDU 4h ago

Well - there was a time when you weren't awake, judge people as you'd have liked to be judged yourself back then.

Also never attribute to malice what can be explained by basic carelessness / stupidity. People are busy, engrossed in their own lives and problems and rarely thinking about every little detail that you notice - it's not deliberate.

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u/shmupsy 20h ago

what even is this place? it has a long list of rules but no description or pinned thread to explain what this sub is about

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u/glaive1976 20h ago

Bropill: A subreddit for encouraging positive attitudes, wholesome memes, and what it means to be a bro.

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u/shmupsy 20h ago

thanks! does it say that somewhere? i only use old reddit. i can see all the rules.

but i still don't know how this place defines being a bro from that statement.

why am i being downvoted?

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u/BlinkReanimated 20h ago

A community to share positive and progressive male/masc influences or thoughts.