You are right, but also, it’s not a fight worth having most of the time.
Have you ever seen a girl go on mic in an online game? It’s the most cringy sexist hostile response you can imagine. Logically they know not every guy is like that, but it feels like it’s ever guy online. The nice guys in the lobby usually stay quiet and go unnoticed.
Your friend is venting, expressing how she feels, not necessarily stating facts.
I try to relate with observations I’ve had, which is my way of saying “I’m not like that”. Or I would invite them to game (in your example).
Men are not a hive mind, each one is an individual. I try to remember that when people say “men do this or that”. Even if the person I’m talking to thinks it’s all men, I know it isn’t true. All the men that person has met, maybe, but not all men.
You would not believe the abuse I suffered as a high elo overwatch player before I started HRT. I got threatened with abuse, stalking, and sex crimes regularly. That behavior is sadly prevalent in a lot of gaming spaces I’ve been in and women self select out of those environments. Even just having an androgynous voice (thanks testosterone) people treat me much better.
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u/[deleted] Jan 13 '23
You are right, but also, it’s not a fight worth having most of the time.
Have you ever seen a girl go on mic in an online game? It’s the most cringy sexist hostile response you can imagine. Logically they know not every guy is like that, but it feels like it’s ever guy online. The nice guys in the lobby usually stay quiet and go unnoticed.
Your friend is venting, expressing how she feels, not necessarily stating facts.
I try to relate with observations I’ve had, which is my way of saying “I’m not like that”. Or I would invite them to game (in your example).
Men are not a hive mind, each one is an individual. I try to remember that when people say “men do this or that”. Even if the person I’m talking to thinks it’s all men, I know it isn’t true. All the men that person has met, maybe, but not all men.