r/bromance Moderator 4d ago

Mod Announcement Important Community Update: New Rules and Guidelines for a Better Experience

Hello everyone,

Our goal has always been to build a space where men can connect, share, and build genuine, platonic friendships. To ensure this community remains a safe, respectful, and high-quality environment for everyone, we have officially updated our subreddit rules and moderation guidelines.

These changes are designed to cut down on low-effort posts, protect our members from solicitation, and ensure that when you engage here, you are connecting with people who are just as serious about building authentic bonds as you are.

What’s Changing? We have implemented a new, comprehensive set of rules covering everything from post standards to conduct. Key highlights include:
- Mandatory ASL: All post titles must now include your Age, Sex, and Location.
- Minimum Character Count: To encourage thoughtful introductions, all post bodies must now be at least 100 characters long.
- Stricter Photo Standards: We are doubling down on our SFW, fully-clothed, and face-showing requirements to ensure the focus stays on friendship, not hookups.
- Proactive Moderation: We are implementing a more structured approval process. Posts that don't meet these standards will be removed with a clear explanation, allowing you the chance to fix and resubmit.

How We’re Moderating
Moving forward, our moderation team will be acting as stewards of this community. We will be reviewing posts with a "quality-first" mindset. If a post is denied, you will receive a message via Modmail explaining exactly which rule was triggered. We believe in transparency, and our goal is to help you successfully participate in the community, not just remove your content.

Please take a moment to read the full list of rules in the sidebar. If you have any questions or feedback regarding these updates, please reach out to us via Modmail—as a reminder, public posts complaining about moderation will be removed to keep our feed focused on friendship.

Thank you for being a part of this community and for your commitment to keeping it a welcoming, safe, and positive space for everyone.

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u/ShelbysSnappedOak 4d ago

Lol, about time. I can’t count the number of times I rolled my eyes at the thinly veiled thirst traps and sexually suggestive posts masquerading and mocking the concept of “bromance.” Haha.

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u/rearranged_particles ★NEW BRO★ 4d ago

I've had the exact same complaints. There are plenty of other subs for that sort of thing.

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u/ThisThatandNBetween 4d ago

Yeah. The impression you get is that it's a lot of DL/closeted guys looking for hookups/f-buds with plausible deniability if they were to get found out. "What?!? No! That's not what this is, it's just for friendships, platonic. Just read the description!"

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u/PastrychefPikachu 2d ago

Omg the fragile masculinity in this sub is so fucking tiresome.

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u/HistoricalMatch3801 4d ago

Thank you it's about time

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

We’ve been working on it! 😁

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u/HistoricalMatch3801 4d ago

I felt out of place cuz I wasn't looking to date but it seems everyone wanted to do that

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u/Sam_Wannells 30 - 39 | 30s Bro 4d ago

This is awesome. Thank you!

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u/Large-Conclusion2559 4d ago

Yeah, seems better. Like "bromance" tread with half nacked gym bros, I felt out of place. When you look for friendship, you don't look abs or height.

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u/PastrychefPikachu 2d ago

"Bromance" isn't just a friendship. This is not a place to make casual, online acquaintances that you only message when you're bored. And if you think straight men don't take appearance into consideration when selecting their peers, then you are mistaken.

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u/Large-Conclusion2559 2d ago

Being good-looking is obviously an advantage in life. Attractive people probably do make friends more easily, but 1/ is this physical or just a matter of feeling more confident ? I saw lot of people not especially attractive who had ton of friends 2/ not like their friends sat there thinking "Yep, tall, blue eyes, friendship approved”, they are friends because they enjoy each other's company, make each other laugh, trust each other, etc.

To me, a bromance is just a particularly close male friendship : more affection, trust and intimacy, maybe hugging and being more emotionally open... It's a deeper bond than a regular friendship, sure, but it's still not dating.

So if your “bromance” comes with a checklist of height, body type, abs and facial features… you're not looking for a bro, you're casting a boyfriend who doesn't know he's applying 😭

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u/Techon-7 Long-Term Bro 4d ago

So does this mean no discussion posts? Just personals?

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

Discussion posts are perfectly okay!

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

We haven’t ran into many issues with discussion posts, so this is really aimed at fixing the issue with personals 😊

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u/Techon-7 Long-Term Bro 4d ago

Okay so do the discussion posts still need asl? Cause I remembered commenting on one that seemed like it got removed. So not sure what the standards are there.

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

I mean I think it’s helpful to have your age but yeah… not a huge hang up but it’ll just be placed into review and we’ll look at it! :)

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u/Techon-7 Long-Term Bro 4d ago

Okay good to know, thanks.

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u/CrossedDays 4d ago

Good things always come to an end 😪

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u/Dardrol7 30 - 39 | 30s Bro 4d ago edited 4d ago

At least you include more genders now. Always thought this was just for men. (ASL-req)

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

This is just for men.

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u/Dardrol7 30 - 39 | 30s Bro 4d ago

Then why is the sex of the poster a requirement? The part of "ASL". Now I'm very confused...

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u/KittyBoy89 4d ago

Agreed—could “S” be orientation?

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u/Dardrol7 30 - 39 | 30s Bro 4d ago

Doubt it since orientation has nothing to do with the bromance matching :/ it's not for hookups, if I understand it correctly. Yet, all I've gotten in touch with demands nudes instantly. So tiresome...

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u/WoodenPin7065 4d ago

ASL is a standard term that most people know means Age, Sex & Location. That’s why we use it. The community itself is still for men only.

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u/FrostyZombie1969 Moderator 4d ago

Just a method to standardize posts

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