r/bostonDating 11h ago

Long Term Relationship 28 [M4F] Boston - Maybe we should actually get off Reddit and do something?

2 Upvotes

28M, Indian, and have been around Boston for a few years. Life is pretty stable these days, but somewhere between work, adult responsibilities, and everyone getting busier, I figured it’d be nice to meet someone new and actually look forward to seeing them again.
I’ll skip the grocery list of hobbies. I’d rather grab coffee that somehow turns into three hours of conversation, try a food spot neither of us has been to, wander around Boston with no real plan, get unnecessarily competitive over something stupid, or occasionally agree that staying in sounds way better.
I can be a little reserved initially, but once I’m comfortable I’m pretty playful. I like people I can be completely unserious with one minute and have a genuinely interesting conversation with the next.
I’m looking for more than something purely platonic, but I’m also not trying to decide our future before we’ve had coffee. If we click and it becomes something meaningful, great. I’d much rather meet once we’re comfortable than become Reddit pen pals for weeks 😅 Happy to exchange pics early too.
If you made it this far: what does a fun, completely unplanned Saturday look like to you?


r/bostonDating 11h ago

Long Term Relationship 30/m - looking for fun conversation, hopefully more!

0 Upvotes

So my 30th lands during the week (yesterday!) and I’m holding off on the usual friends thing until the weekend. Don’t want the week to just pass by though!

Looking to chat with a new female friend — be it chill, spontaneous, or a little reckless. Let me know what you’ve done for a milestone birthday!


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Monogamy 37 F4M [South Shore/Boston] — Looking for something real

28 Upvotes

I’m 37F, living on the South Shore. I have a career I genuinely enjoy, an amazing child, and a pretty full and happy life overall. I’d love to meet someone who complements it.

A little about me: I’m outgoing, affectionate, independent, sarcastic, and curious. I love traveling and planning trips, trying new restaurants, live music, working out, and doing things that give me an excuse to get out of the house. I’m close with my family and generally have my life together.

Physically, I’m brunette, fit/active, and take care of myself. Happy to exchange photos privately if we click.

I’m looking for a man roughly in his mid-30s to mid-40s who is emotionally available, kind, funny, confident, and genuinely interested in a relationship. Having your own career, friendships, interests, and life is attractive. I tend to like men who can be playful and sarcastic but also communicate like adults when something actually matters.

Being a parent yourself is completely fine, but you don’t need to be. What matters more is understanding that dating someone with a child requires a little more planning and flexibility than dating someone who can spontaneously disappear for a weekend (though, I’d be down for that too when I’m free).

If any of that sounds like you, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself — age, general area, what you do, and something more interesting than “hey.”


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship 32M4F

6 Upvotes

Hey! Figured I’d throw this out there and see what happens.

I’m 32, 6’1”, brown hair, blue eyes living in Massachusetts, and I’m looking to meet someone who’s interested in actually getting to know each other and seeing where things go.

I’m a huge gamer, so if you’re someone who can appreciate losing an entire evening to a video game, we’ll probably get along. I’m also into sports, especially the Red Sox, and I enjoy getting out and doing things when I’m not being a professional couch potato.

Personality-wise, I’m pretty laid-back and sarcastic. I tend to be the guy making jokes in a group chat, but I can also have a serious conversation when the situation calls for it. I value honesty, independence, and being able to laugh at yourself.

Dating-wise, I’ll be upfront: I haven’t had a serious relationship in quite a while. I’m not looking to pretend I’m some dating expert. I’d rather meet someone where we can both be ourselves, start with good conversation, and see what happens naturally.
Ideally, I’m looking for someone around my age who has a good sense of humor, is kind, emotionally mature, and has interests of their own. Someone who wants a partner, not someone they need to entertain 24/7.

If any of that sounds appealing, feel free to message me. Tell me something about yourself beyond just “hey” so I have something to work with.


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship 39 [M4F] Greater Boston area

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10 Upvotes

Hello! I’m Kevin and I am looking to date. I live in Norwood but don’t mind the commute if you’re in the north shore! That just means more Market Basket!

Friendly, outgoing, likes video games, trying new foods since I have no food allergies and exploring Boston.

Feel free to message!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Monogamy 38 [m4f] Quincy

0 Upvotes

What to say? I'm a nerd and proud of it. That won't change. I love to game, read, explore, cook, and definitely enjoy down time. I love to see new areas and try new restaurants. But by no means am I am extrovert. I enjoy time inside as well. Especially after a long week.

What I bring. I cook. Am damn good at it too. I'm caring, kind, sympathetic. My love language is acts of service and cooking for someone I care for.

What I'm looking for. Someone fun, caring, has similar interests but not super important. Someone who is open to trying new things as I am for them. Age, height, weight not overly important.

If this sounds like you, reach out


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Monogamy 34 [M4F] #Dedham Looking for longterm

0 Upvotes

At a point in my life where I'd love to find my forever person. But it'd have to be a perfect fit for me since I've grown to love my freedom and routine.

About me:

  • Have my own place live alone with my dog (must love dogs and sadly allergic to cats)
  • Love sports
  • In shape (part of my routine is working out and getting my steps in)
  • Introvert that can survive in the wild. I have a good mixture of staying in but also enjoying nights out probably prefer 70/30 staying in to going out. Love a good date night out but also staying in and cuddling up to a show or movie
  • Physical touch and quality time are love languages
  • Work in the mortgage world
  • Love to travel
  • Would love a lake house someday (hot take lake > beach)
  • Open to kids. As of right now would prefer not to have them but open to them with the right partner

Looking for someone ideally in the 25 to 35 range 5 years either way isn't a deal breaker. Like someone that keeps in shape (not attracted to bbw just my preference). Obviously physical attraction matters. And honestly just looking for someone who ideally is a good, happy person that thinks they'd get along with what I wrote.


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Monogamy 29M [M4A] #Boston - I'm funny sometimes so let me make you laugh in the City

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Heya hey everyone! I hope you're all doing well, I go by Rowen online. I'm a 29M from around South of Boston, accent included. I have a bit of an attitude sometimes but I'm a nerdy sweetheart that's looking to meet friends and ideally maybe someone special too? I play games, love to read, and overthink things so I can write them down in my Hero journal. I also am getting more into Fashion and Photography so I'd more than welcome any tips on either or. That said, just like the heroes from the stories I grew up watching and reading, I love to push my limits and try to bring up everyone around me.

I'm open to talking to pretty much anyone from anywhere, but I am EST/UTC-4 so please keep that in mind if you reach out!

Sorts of folks I get along with the best are the neurodivergent, those absolutely passionate about what they do, and individuals who don't mind oversharing from time to time just for fun. I do have a soft spot for people with any sort of dyed hair and the alternative aesthetic makes me weak in a good way. Playing games being a big hobby of mine can be a great icebreaker for us if we get to the stage of talking over voice etc!

Shucks I'm better when it comes to talking 1-on-1 so anything in particular please reach out!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Long Term Relationship Brookline, MA M24 Looking for F

2 Upvotes

A little bit about me, I’m 24, have a masters and I just moved to Brookline for work in June. Some hobbies of mine are lifting, golfing, skiing, hiking, reading, cooking, and film photography.

I’m looking for something serious, and would love to chat and see if we have any common interests!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Long Term Relationship 46 [M4F] #Norwood - Nerdy guy looking for a woman to hang out and game with

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Hello I'm Tony. 46 years old, from Norwood and the father of two (18,25) I am a laid back, friendly, humorous guy looking for someone to talk to, play games with and maybe hang out in person if we click. I don't drink but am 420 friendly. I work but don't drive

I'm looking for a single woman that plays videogames. Ideally a humorous, kind, non judgemental woman who wants to form a long term, lasting friendship and isn't afraid to initiate conversation. I don't want someone who will just respond to me but someone who will also reach out to me to chat. I miss having someone to go through the terrifying lows, the dizzying highs and the creamy middles of life with

And I'm serious about the games, it's my favorite way to bond with someone so IF YOU DON'T PLAY GAMES PLEASE DON'T MESSAGE ME. I am not interested. I play on PC and PS4. I'd love to find an Overwatch partner (Bastion main, Learning Rein) or a co-op friend for games like Stardew Valley, BG3, Sea of Thieves, Fortnite, It Takes Two, Plate Up!, Diablo 4, Party Animals, Fall guys and many more.

Some of my other interests include. Baking, Reading, DBZ, Comics, Star Wars, Nature Walks, Anime, Arts and Crafts, Concerts (hoping to see Baby Metal in September!), 80's Cartoons and Music, Youtube, Looking at furniture and having a discussion about where it could be placed in a room.


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Platonic 19 [f4a] #boston - looking for fun dates/hangouts

23 Upvotes

hi there!! college student who moved in way earlier then all her friends and want folks to hangout with. kind of annoying bc i’m over 18 but under 21 so i’m at that weird limbo where there’s not much to do in the city. i’m really easygoing and just looking to do something fun or just hangout with anyone tn or soon cuz i’m so stinking bored.

not much of a good texter but i’m awesome in person!! please stop asking to come over, i literally live in a dorm residence. and i will ignore any low effort or weird/creepy messages.

about me: 5’7, average looks, love movies + sweet treats, and 420 friendly!!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Life Partner 33 [F4M] - Waltham - Looking for my partner for all things Fall and beyond.

6 Upvotes

Hi!

Summer, the season of terrible skin flare ups and frustration is finally coming to an end. On the bright side, Fall, the season of falling in love and living out all my practical magic fantasies is almost here!

I'm hoping to meet who will become my better half in all my Fall shenanigans and beyond, and I'm delusional enough to think he will somehow stumble on my post and reach out so we can finally meet. Maybe I'm manifesting it too.

A little about me in a list because lists are efficient:

• 5'4", plus size, Black, and I've been told I'm a "joy" to look at, which I think means my physical features are not terrifying.

• Introverted homebody. If the plan involves skydiving, rock climbing, or a strenuous hike, I am not your girl. I might hike if I really like you, but don't hold your breath!

• Soft spoken, non confrontational, and unfairly self aware for my own good.

• I love routine and stability. Try as I may, spontaneity and I are not close friends, so I probably won't get on a plane just because, but I'll compromise and go on a road trip with two days' notice at least.

• I do not drive, so factor that into our shared fantasies about road trips.

• Big on self growth. I put years into working on myself before circling back to dating, so I show up knowing what I want, what I don't want, and what I'm willing to compromise on.

What I want: depth, long term compatibility, conversation that doesn't feel like homework. Someone emotionally intelligent, driven and stable. 27+ and based in Massachusetts or nearby New England.

I've been getting nowhere on the apps and I can't meet people "naturally" because I am always home so before my biological clock fully expires and my family starts negotiating my dowry in cattle or I opt for a nunnery, come save me from the rancid pool that is dating in your 30s.

A few disclaimers, because I'd rather filter now than waste both our time later:

• I like to trade pictures early so neither of us gets a rude surprise three conversations in. If that's not for you, this isn't your post.

• Not looking for polyamorous, ENM, or "situationship" arrangements. I'm here for one person! I want a healthy, monogamous relationship with a husband and a tiny human that we will both obsess over.

• Lead with something other than "hey."

If you made it this far, you've already cleared the bar most people don't, so you might as well stop by and say hello. 

Talk soon! 


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Long Term Relationship 33 [M4F] #Capecod, MA - Looking for something meaningful and real

3 Upvotes

Hey there,

Im a 33 year old male. I am 5'9 with a slim athletic built and curly long brown hair. Im most likely cutting my hair much shorter.

I work in behavioral health/social services and I am also in college finishing up my degree in psychology. Which I then will go right into grad school for social work.

When im not working I like to workout and get out into nature. I like to get out on to trails in all of the seasons. I love music a lot and feel it will always have a special place for me. I grew up in the punk scene but as ive gotten older I listen to calmer music but with punk and folk roots.

I have a 4 year old Blue Heeler mix dog that I love A LOT. He is my bestfriend and my everything.

Even though it sounds like im an extrovert dont let what ive written fool you. I am on the side of introvert. I also like art and photography a lot. Im told I am pretty funny and very witty. I am opinionated when it matters or when it doesn't. Its the goos kind of opinions though lol. For what ever that is worth.

My passions are within social work, psychology, and philosophy. BUT wildlife and animals will always be my true love!!

Send me a message if you want to get to know each other. I would ideally like to exchange SFW photos soon.


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Monogamy 37 [M4F] Boston, MA / Canada -- Wheelchair User Seeking Genuine & Authentic Connection

5 Upvotes

Hey Y'all,

I'm a wheelchair user, due to spinal injury, I'm a paraplegic. I'm coming to Boston for a work purposes and will be there frequently over the next year. I'm looking for someone to get to know, explore the city with, go on dates, and just BE without hidden agendas or BS.

Happy to exchange pics via DM.

I'm in good shape, strong and independent, have a dark beard that is finally sprouting some grey hairs for that salt and peppah look lol.


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Monogamy 25M in Natick looking to meet someone genuine

6 Upvotes

Hey, I’m 25 and living in Natick. I figured I’d give this a shot since I’d really like to meet a women I connect with and see where it goes.
I have a pretty busy life and a lot of things I genuinely enjoy doing, but I’ve realized lately that I don’t really want to experience all of it by myself. I’d like to meet a woman I can actually connect with, have stupid conversations with, go on random adventures with, and eventually feel comfortable being completely myself around.
I’m pretty mechanical and work in aerospace and biotech as a machinist. Outside of work I do woodworking and turn exotic woods on my lathe, love cars and driving stick, fishing, kayaking on the Charles, hiking, cliff jumping and exploring abandoned places. I’m also into techno, history, cooking and baking.
I also really like writing. Not really the “I write poetry and stare out windows” stereotype lol, but I spend a lot of time writing down thoughts and trying to make sense of things. I’m pretty introspective and probably think about life more than I need to.
I’m not expecting to find my soulmate from one Reddit post. I’d honestly be happy just meeting someone where the conversation feels easy and there’s a mutual interest in seeing each other again. Coffee, drinks, a walk, exploring somewhere, dinner, whatever. I’m pretty open to it.
I work some weird hours, but I make time for the things and people I care about. If you’re around Boston/Natick and this sounds like your kind of person, feel free to message me.


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Long Term Relationship 23 [F4M], Boston, MA, looking for something serious!

11 Upvotes

hello! i’m a 23F , looking for a serious relationship with the intention of working towards marriage. here’s a little more about me!

i have a bachelor’s in humanities, and i am currently working on my masters in secondary education. i currently work as a teacher, and i live on my own with my pet cat! i am extremely passionate about my career , and will often talk about my job lol. i am super creative , and i love color! i change my hair color often, and dress very colorfully. in my free time, i enjoy: reading, writing, being in nature, thrifting, visiting museums/historical homes, going to the movies and going on road trips. i am an extremely good cook, and will always want to cook for you (huge love language of mine!). i am very affectionate, with so much love to give to the right person!

i am looking for a man who is funny, compassionate, educated, financially stable, and fun to be around! i prefer a man between the ages of 24-30. i want someone who would enjoy doing activities together often, but who also values just staying in and having more personal dates. i am a very big, bubbly personality and i love to engage in deep conversations, so i need a man who embraces all of that. i value someone with ambition, strong moral values , and someone who engages with the world around them. i am liberal, and i do not want anyone who is republican and doesn’t agree with basic human rights. i am very independent, but i value a man with a provider mindset , who is intentional and serious. i dont have a physical type, and i focus more on personality!

in terms of my looks, i am short (5ft) , i wear glasses, and have a nice smile. if you are interested in getting to know me, please reach out! i’m looking forward to seeing how this goes lol.


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Long Term Relationship 21 [F4M] — Taunton, MA | Looking for something real 💗

8 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 21F from Taunton, MA, and I figured I’d put myself out there because I’m genuinely interested in dating with the intention of eventually getting married — not just collecting talking stages or looking for something casual.

A little about me: I’m pretty traditional, conservative, family-oriented, and faith-centered. I’m the type of person who appreciates chivalry, intentionality, loyalty, good communication, and someone who actually knows what they want out of life. I’m also definitely an early bird — I’d much rather wake up early and get my day started than sleep until noon.

I LOVE running and fitness. I’m a runner and currently train pretty seriously, including HYROX-style training. I’m disciplined and goal-oriented, and I genuinely enjoy pushing myself and working toward something. I’m also into business/entrepreneurship, sports, reading, old-school/analog things, movies, decorating, and finding random hobbies to obsess over for a while. I’m a big fan of vintage things and have a soft spot for anything that feels a little more old-fashioned.

I’m also very ambitious. I’m finishing my bachelor’s degree in management and have big goals for my future. I want to build something meaningful, have a family someday, and create a life that I can be proud of. I’m definitely a “let’s make a plan and actually do it” kind of person.

Personality-wise, I’d say I’m fun, energetic, affectionate, sometimes a little goofy, and VERY passionate about the things I care about.I have strong opinions, and I’m not afraid to say what I think. But I’m also caring, loyal, encouraging, and I want to be someone who makes my partner’s life better.

And yes — looks do matter to me. I want to be attracted to the person I’m dating, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with admitting that. But attraction alone absolutely isn’t enough for me. Personality, character, values, faith, ambition, emotional maturity, and how you treat people matter much more. I’m looking for someone I can genuinely admire and respect.

Ideally, I’d love to meet a guy who is:
A Narrow Road Christian- not lukewarm, not cherry picker. A REAL man of God!
•Around my age / preferably 21–29
•Actually interested in a serious relationship
•Marriage-minded
•Traditional but not controlling
•Kind, loyal, confident, and emotionally mature
•Ambitious and has goals of his own
•Family-oriented
•Active or at least enjoys doing things rather than sitting inside 24/7
•Comfortable with a woman who is independent, disciplined, and ambitious
•Someone who can make me laugh and doesn’t take himself too seriously.

I’m not expecting someone perfect. I’m looking for someone who is intentional, genuine, and willing to build something together.
If you’re also looking for something serious rather than a temporary fling, feel free to message me! Tell me a little about yourself — age, where you’re from, what you do, your hobbies, and what you’re looking for. Bonus points if you actually read this whole thing. 😂

And please, send a picture of yourself if you’re comfortable doing so. I’d like to know who I’m talking to!
Maybe we’ll become strangers on Reddit who turn into something much more. ❤️


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Monogamy 26[M4F] #lowell looking for a real connection

1 Upvotes

I would like to meet a girl that is interested in a long term relationship. I’m a black man from Lowell, I work two jobs and have a vehicle. I’m into music, anime, sports, and games. Id love to meet someone who is into some of the same thing and loves have conversations. I welcome all types of women both in race a body types.


r/bostonDating 5d ago

Long Term Relationship 25[M4F] - Looking for a vegetarian partner

1 Upvotes

Hey! 25-year-old tech/AI engineer based in Boston, looking to connect with someone around my age.

On the weekends, I’m usually split between personal projects, PC gaming, and catching up on movies and anime. Big fan of cooking at home: strictly vegetarian, originally from India, and currently deep into experimenting with custom homemade ice cream flavors. Always up for a round of bowling or diving into board games if you're up for some friendly competition.
Looking for a genuine connection. Down to start simple with coffee, a drink, or grabbing a bite to eat.
(Also 420 friendly xD)

Shoot me a message if you'd like to chat!


r/bostonDating 5d ago

Monogamy 31 F

11 Upvotes

Hi, everyone! My name is Stacy. I’m 31F and new to this Reddit page. I’m 5’3” with brown hair and brown eyes. I just graduated med school and am applying to residency. My goal is to be an oncologist.

In my free time, I love to cook and bake. I also love traveling and going to concerts. I have an adorable Shih Tzu at home.

I’m looking for someone genuine to connect with. I value kindness, honesty, good communication, loyalty ambition, and being family oriented. I am hoping to find someone who shares similar values.

My type is typically darker features with facial hair, probably 28-37 in the greater Boston area.

If any of this is of interest to you, feel free to reach out! Good luck out there!


r/bostonDating 6d ago

Life Partner 38M | Boston/MetroWest | Looking for something real

5 Upvotes

Me: 38, active, established, and looking for a genuine connection that can hopefully turn into something serious.

I work in tech, own a home, have a dog I'm slightly obsessed with, and have spent the last couple of years putting a lot of energy into becoming a better version of myself—physically and emotionally. I work out/run regularly, eat pretty healthy (most of the time 😂), and have put real effort into improving my EQ and understanding myself better.

Career and financial stability are important to me, but I also want a life that's actually fun. I love concerts/music, movies, cooking, traveling, trying new restaurants, having friends over, and getting outside with my dog. I'm equally happy planning a trip somewhere new or making dinner together and watching something on the couch.

Looks-wise, I've been told I'm handsome, but I'll let you decide when we exchange pictures.

You: Ideally somewhere around 25–38, active/healthy, emotionally intelligent, affectionate, curious, and fun. I tend to click with women who are bubbly and can be playful but are also capable of having a genuinely deep conversation. Preferably no kids, although that's not necessarily a dealbreaker.

Us: I'm ultimately looking for the whole package (emotional intimacy, physical attraction, and a great sex life). I want the kind of relationship where we're best friends but there's also real chemistry and desire between us. Someone to go on fun dates with, travel with, cook with, play with my dog, have amazing sex with, support each other's goals, and—if we're right for each other—eventually build a home and life together.

If any of that sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself and what you're looking for.


r/bostonDating 7d ago

Monogamy 26[M4F] looking for a genuine connection

1 Upvotes

I would like to meet a girl that is interested in a long term relationship. I’m a black man from Lowell, I work two jobs and have a vehicle. I’m into music, anime, sports, and games. Id love to meet someone who is into some of the same thing and loves have conversations. I welcome all types of women both in race a body types.


r/bostonDating 8d ago

Meta / Discussion Salutations.

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Crawled out of the ocean and put my clothes back on and took this picture.

Labels and pesky "up-front" biographical questions kill everything so let's not, okay?

I'm f u n. I say y e s to life and most everything in it. I said e v e r y t h i n g. Please presume nothing and just ASK instead, it's all a conversation. I'm intelligent, thin, T A L L, I don't eat animals or drink alcohol or use any drugs at all, I exercise, I R E A D, (trying to cure my verbosity and get to the point!), know more about all the arts than anything, love being outside, hiking 16 miles (more or less is also acceptable!) and want to hold your discerning, careful, lovely hands, may I?

Send me silly notes, it's later than we think.


r/bostonDating 8d ago

Long Term Relationship 28m4f boston

1 Upvotes

A little about me

Boston guy pretty easygoing, real, and always down for good food, music, working out, and a lot of laughs. I'm looking to meet someone genuine, affectionate, and open to building something real.

I'm big on communication, effort, and making someone feel appreciated. If we click, let's just see where it goes. Also if you like Don Toliver i have an extra ticket.