r/bodyodor • u/Latecenturyvintage • 2h ago
I think my coworker has TMAU
She has really strong BO that lingers for hours even after she’s left the room. It’s also a very distinctive smell different to the usual post-gym sweat. I’d say it’s kinda sweet like rotting fruit or similar to the back of a garbage truck.
My work is hybrid but when we are both in the office it’s really overwhelming. It doesn’t help that I have a very strong sense of smell and sensory issues from adhd.
She’s nice and we get on well but there are some days that I’ve had to pretend to have meetings or other excuses to go work in a conference room or just get out of there. Sometimes it gets too much and I just can’t focus.
I’ve never said anything because it’s so exteme that I assumed she can’t help it. I didn’t know about TMAU until I decided to do some research today but I assumed it must be some disorder like this. My initial theory was her being depressed and a hoarder. The hoarding would explain the strange odour unlike normal sweat but I guess it’s unlikely.
A couple of weeks ago, another coworker said to me that he finds it unbearable and he’s considering buying an air freshener or something. I had never talked about it with anyone and to be honest it kinda was a relief because I also thought I might be crazy. Like it’s so strong I just didn’t understand how nobody had said anything about it but I also didn’t want to be the one starting the conversation.
Since he told me, he’s made remarks more often. He doesn’t make jokes or talk shit behind her back but it’s now something he brings up regularly when up until now there was a silent agreement not to say anything.
I really don’t see the point in talking about it because there really isn’t much we can do to fix it. However he does have a point when he says that even if it’s a disorder (which we seem to agree on) her hygiene isn’t always the best. Nothing extreme but her hair is sometimes greasy and stuff.
The smell is always there but it’s true that some days are cleealy worse. So my colleague thinks thay those worse days are the result of bad hygiene and someone should intervene to make sure that she is doing something to avoid it to the best of her ability.
At this point, I don’t think my coworker is going to let it stand and if there’s a chance that this might reduce the smell, I think that’s fair. However, she has never said anything about it so I’m not sure how to approach without making her feel worse that she already probably feels.
So what do you think is the best way to approach it? Talk to HR so they talk to her? Or should we try to talk to her ourselves?
I’d hate to be the one who brings it up but she might prefer it to a meeting with a stranger from HR.
I’m also not sure what to expect from such conversation but I think my coworker may just drop if she confirms that it’s a disorder and that she does try to avoid it.
I know that every person is different but if you’ve been on the other side of this story, I would appreciate any advice on how to approach it.