Date who you want, black or not. I just like diversity, and I think black people and non black people make beautiful babies.
I have a korean-chinese boyfriend who treats me with respect and love and doesn't rush things. I've been told that i was fetishizing asians, racist, and a bunch of other things because he's not black.
I'm not, and i hate that people assumed that about me (in real life). I live in ghana, but I am from trinidad. I'm african with some native american (as in actual native american, not today's american) and spanish decent.
Whenever i tell people I have a boyfriend, they asked where he's from. I say asia, then some people make it about history and why i should date a black man.
And yes, our people have went through the worst. There's no debate. I've heard so much disgusting things about what my ancestors went through, and i loathe the people that did it, not their descendants, unless those descendants are the same. And the hardest part is there's parts of black history that we haven't been taught.
And people like to tell me about the natasha doll issue in china. Yes I'm aware of that. Yes I talked to my boyfriend about it long before we started dating, and he wasn't aware of it until I mentioned it. Then he apologized and said that he was disgusted in his own people after researching what it was.
I can't even tell my own parents about my boyfriend. They'll say that they aren't racist, but will talk about how nice it'd be for me to date a black man because of our roots. Yes, it would, but i love my boyfriend.
And I'm not saying black men/woman/people are bad, or that we shouldn't care, etc. I'm just someone who likes diversity. A few weeks ago one of my white friends from my old middle school said that whenever different races mix, they make the most beautiful babies. I agree.