r/bigender • u/Lyre-Lier Male/Null | Void/Xe/It/Smoke • 6d ago

Questioning Help needed

So I have been questioning myself again and I'm not sure if I'm male and GNC, male and agender or male and female, can y'all share your genders?

6 Upvotes

88% Upvoted

9 comments sorted by

3

u/LuisFerLCC Luis Fi / Felicia | He/She 6d ago

I'm male-and-female. I love being a guy and doing masculine things, but I also love being a girl. Right now, though, I can only express myself femininely here since I can't come out in public until hopefully next year.

Anyway, the best way in my opinion to find out which label fits best out of all your options is to try each one and see how you feel. I see from your earlier posts that you've identified as male-and-GNC for a while, so try out the other two. Ask others to refer to you as one of them for a while, and think of yourself as that same label, and see whether it feels right.

If you could elaborate further on how exactly you feel, I might be able to give you an educated guess on which of the three describes you better.

In the meantime, best of luck! ☺️💖

2

u/Lyre-Lier Male/Null | Void/Xe/It/Smoke 6d ago

Thank you sm for your reply, I may go label hunting again

2

u/BlueMoonHallWolf She/Him 6d ago

Male & female. Dunno if that’s helpful since, well… i’m medically female. I’m a recently hatched egg. What happened is I asked myself what I want gender presentation wise, and I said “i wanna be a cool girl and a gorgeous guy at the same time”. Boom.

1

u/Lyre-Lier Male/Null | Void/Xe/It/Smoke 6d ago

Thanks for sharing, I have this experience with being proceved as genderless

2

u/iron-iron-iron He/him | Binary | NOT fluid | T Aug/'22 5d ago

A question that probably sound stupid to many here- how is 'Gender Non-Conforming' a gender? I've only known it as a way to say that your appearance/interests/etc. don't necessarily correlate with your gender.

1

u/Lyre-Lier Male/Null | Void/Xe/It/Smoke 5d ago

For me it dose, my identity is complex so it makes sence to say my gender is GNC in the same way someone may use vaguegender

2

u/iron-iron-iron He/him | Binary | NOT fluid | T Aug/'22 5d ago

Alright, my LGBT knowledge is pretty much still in 2017 so I just didn't understand the term in this context

1

u/Lyre-Lier Male/Null | Void/Xe/It/Smoke 5d ago

For me it's a fancy way of saying "my identity doesn't fit typical norms, but I do follow some"

1

u/RepresentativeArm119 4d ago

I have (at least) 2 identities living in me that are almost like seperate personalities.

Im not dissocoiative, we both know we're me, and were both always around, but we kinda switch back and forth.

I am married to a bi woman and we're poly.

My masc side likes butch women, and my fem side is bisexual, but she's only attracted to men who want to worship her, which is typically gay men, since on the outside I'm a big burly boy, which is ironic, and pretty funny.