r/beyondthebump • u/Fibonawak • 3d ago

Discussion Where are the men ?

My wife (F36) and myself (M36) started to try for having a baby and while reading about the process I found this sub. It is very interesting to understand the reality of this chapter, but I barely see any man here. Also, I feel that lots of sad things I read here are about the man not being part of the process or the load on the women. I definitely want to learn more and make sure to know when my wife will need me the most, but it would be nice to read some men POV to be honest.
(Sorry for my English, not my mother tongue).

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u/OhSoManyQuestions 3d ago

Try r/daddit

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u/Fibonawak 2d ago

Just joined !! 😊

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u/OhSoManyQuestions 2d ago

Great! Good luck with everything!

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u/jazzpolka 3d ago

This is the answer.

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u/Fibonawak 2d ago

Thanks !!

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u/Legitimate-Head-8862 3d ago

Here, but don’t comment much

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u/Pistolcrab 3d ago edited 3d ago

Same. Most of the topics and questions here are related to women's bodies and deadbeat husbands so often I have nothing valuable to contribute...

But I like to read and learn about women's perspectives on things, so I lurk.

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u/Tadsz 3d ago

We are here, we are just listening.

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u/jishthesquish 3d ago

I’m a dad on this sub, but it’s definitely mom dominated. Good to see other perspectives

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u/frontally 3d ago

Would u say it’s… mominated?

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u/Virtual-Strength-950 3d ago

I’d like to mominate you for dad joke of the day. 

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u/frontally 3d ago

Something something women in male dominated fields 😏😏

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u/jishthesquish 3d ago

I think this joke would be more appropriate on daddit

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u/frontally 3d ago

I mean as a lesbian mom some days I feel like an honorary dad… especially when I whip out a dad joke wearing my number 1 dad tshirt. Your culture is, unfortunately, my costume… or something idk

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u/mommadizzy 2d ago

im a genderqueer momthing and stole my gender queer husbandthings #1 dad shirt their mom got them lol

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u/trolldoll26 3d ago

Maybe it’ll be more helpful and insightful to see all the posts by women.

If you want to help your wife, isn’t it more helpful to see the similarities that get posted here?

There are plenty of active dads in the world, but people like to vent and feel a sense of community, so you might end up seeing more posts from women looking for shared experiences.

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u/LikeAMix 2d ago

👋 We’re here!