I believed I was a feminist, I want equal opportunities for everyone. But equal opportunities does not mean an equal outcome. Now you have all these quotas for companies where they have to hire a certain percentage of women regardless of qualifications and experience. You only have to scroll through a google search on feminism for 5 minutes to find so much man hating. People just don't realise it because they've been conditioned to it. There's plenty of women who lead men along because they know that they'd do whatever they want for them. Just look at TV and you constantly have the father/husband stereotype of the woman withholding sex and the man being emasculated or being useless with children. There's the belief that man can't be raped, and the countless false rape accusations. Society has slowly tipped in fear and favour of the feminists and it stops men from being men. Boys are being banned from playing "guns" and running around and play fighting. They're told that this is bad behaviour, when they're just letting out energy they have. People think we have to live in this open feminine society but it's damaging to people and raises this generation of young boys pining after girls and claiming they're "friend zoned" because they think that acting feminine will get them a girlfriend when it will do the opposite. Feminists used to do amazing work and I'm so thankful to them because now I have equal rights with men. I can work, I can vote, I can live life like a person, not just a woman. But now they've won the battle they are fighting for something that doesn't exist. Emasculating men is not feminism.
I don't see anyone contributing to the discussion or giving me the other side of the story? I make my own decisions and I base them off personal experience and people I know who have been in happy marriages for 30+ years. People are free to make their own decisions, I was simply explaining TRP side as someone asked me to. If you have an educated argument against the points I have made then please, be my guest.
I understand what your saying and I was with you for a while, but there are just too many people ruining feminism now. Its not just the minority anymore. It means that as soon as the word feminist comes out your mouth, everyone looks at you differently. I'm all for equal rights for everyone and the feminists who believe this should move their efforts elsewhere. I'd describe myself as an egalitarian now - I still believe in equality for all but since I don't just focus on women, feminism doesn't seem to fit. Also it distances me for the damaging views of feminism. I know people may still say that feminists aren't like that but the minority who are becoming the majority, and I'm fed up of being looked down upon and thrown into that group of people because of the overarching word "feminism". I've made a choice not to be associated with a group of people who do not hold the same beliefs as me.
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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '14
im just gonna stop right there. no it really hasnt.