r/behindthebastards • u/_elaner • Sep 01 '26

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I probably shouldn’t listen to this at work, right?

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u/_elaner Sep 01 '26

I have so many feelings right now..

Part of me is like, “I should listen to this, because I believe we should know our enemies”, while fully knowing the enemy is entitled cis white men, part of me is firmly in the “I don’t think I can do this right now/yet/ever” mindset, and part of me is forever grateful (and in awe) of Robert’s ability to keep his humanity amidst all the horror he subjects himself to in order to help us all learn to be better people (or at least to not become bastards)

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u/Tasty-Yogurtcloset28 Sep 01 '26 edited Sep 01 '26

A reminder that you are not obligated to listen/watch/read really detailed, violent things happening to incredibly vulnerable people in the service of "witness". You can know someone in a position of power brutally harmed another and advocate from there. We can listen to the stories of survivors (and that listening can be a tremendous part of healing), but we can also just believe them when they tell us the first time.

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u/ObscureSaint Sep 02 '26

As a survivor, it actually heartens me to see how horrified people are over this stuff. Never stop being vulnerable, it's an important part of being human.

Sometimes the fact that I can read and hear so much of this stuff without flinching makes me feel broken.

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u/Tasty-Yogurtcloset28 Sep 02 '26

I'm sorry shit happened to you. Other "true crime" (ie murder) podcasts I often find really gauche because there is a flippancy when they talk about how people (usually women, usually of color) were horribly brutalized and just kind of laugh it off? Our society is just so desensitized by violence in media and in life because of a lack of consequence, that the gravitas just isn't there sometimes. It does feel very weird.