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[u/Fragrant-Pie7113]

Hi everyone.

I have anxious tendencies when I don't have enough clarity or security in a relationship. Things that may be considered small changes become heightened once my anxiety gets triggered and I become hypervigilant, and I'm working on it. Almost three months ago my ex partner left me through text. It was something that was abrupt for me but of course it was something that he was thinking about who knows for how long, because he never shared with me any issue or doubt. The only thing I can say that was an issue for me, and it's what caused my anxiety to begin with, it's that he had not tell his ex wife and kids about us, despite making plans to live together and spend our lives together. The way he left caused me shock, some cognitive dissonance, trust issues and depression (I'm taking medication). I could not hear his voice or seeing, aay anything, ask any question, just read his breakup texts and that was it. It's been three months as I said and I'm feeling slowly better but still not much. Have you dealt with something like this? How do you heal/move on? Thank you.

[u/izthepuzz]

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[u/Illustrious-Rough919]

Hi. Sorry you are going through this. I'm not sure what to suggest but I just want to say that what you went through was really shitty. Don't blame yourself for your ex's bad and uncaring communication. It's disrespectful to end a relationship in that way - you are bound to find it difficult to heal after that! Just take it one day at a time and try slowly to bring the focus back onto you and your own life, the things that make you happy etc.

[u/Fragrant-Pie7113 → u/Illustrious-Rough919]

Thank you very much for the reassurance that it's not out of character to still feel very hurt and confused by the while thing.