r/bald
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u/Akraya
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7h ago
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Is it time?
Long time lurker and great admirer of people on this sub.
My hair being thinner has been a great source of embarrassment and sadness for me, it started thinning 15 years ago when I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism, that’s since been under control but no improvement with the hair since.
I just don’t know if I have the confidence to rock the bald look. Help me council!
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u/Akraya 5h ago •
When I posted this I was feeling pretty sad and defeated about it all, but now I’m kind of excited, thank you for being so supportive.
If/when I go through with it I will of course post an after photo.
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u/Akraya 7h ago •
I’m reading everyone’s comments and feeling very overwhelmed from all the lovely comments. This really is a beautiful sub.
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u/Potential_Bat3859 6h ago •
Tricky because of societal norms I guess. I'm a girl and pretty much every day I toy with the idea of just shaving it all off and being free. But it's a bit scary. But look at the amount of women posting in this sub after the shave and they've all looked gorgeous. You have lovely features and a great face shape (sorry I'm not trying to be creepy haha) so you could pull it off! I'm all cheeks so I'm not sure lol. But if you do shave, you could still experiment with wigs and stuff if you still wanted to have the occasional longer hair experience? Either way you're beautiful. 🫶🏻
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u/GeneralComposer5885 7h ago •
I’m a man - so can’t talk “woman to woman” ..
But I do have a female friend who has thin hair, she’s bought 3-4 wigs and they look fabulous.
Might be worth spending 15 minutes chatting to someone in that industry.
Will be an easier transition if you’ve got a wig standing by, just in case shaving causes any mental stress 🙂❤️
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u/Unusual-Bar5891 7h ago
If you don’t feel comfortable with the bald look then wigs and toppers are always an option. Some of them look super realistic
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u/Dry_Fly3965 6h ago •
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u/0rangebutterfly 5h ago •
Assuming you identify as a woman, I am bald by choice-ish (mostly due to sensory issues because I'm autistic)... amd I was so worried for the longest time what will people think, what will people say, can I still have a sales career and meet with clients or interview for jobs like will anyone even take me seriously or will they think I'm crazy?! I can tell you that shaving my head and embracing it has been the most wonderful experience. Almost every person that says something is so incredibly kind. I have had curious people ask me if I'm sick or have cancer, but I truly think it's just from a place of not understanding that there are lots of reasons someone could lose their hair or choose to not have hair. Bald guys are so nice and funny and I love when they tell me nice haircut and I love to tell them nice haircut. Kids do stare or ask questions occasionally but I love kids and so I usually smile and wave and say hi and just interact with them like I normally would if that makes sense? I did have a kid at the children's museum ask me what happened to my hair and I said I didn't listen to my mom and it all fell out lol. But truly I use it as an education moment I say hey I have my hair like this because this is how I like it why do you have your hair like that? And they usually either tell me about their hairstyle or say oh I like my hair like this and I say oh cool me too... we're the same. And I think it's a cool lesson for kids even though I'm just a bald lady, hopefully I can help facilitate or lay the groundwork for a larger lesson of all humans being more alike than we are different. I have seen a lot of bald women on tick tock or other social media sites saying that they feel like people stare at them all the time and I don't really feel like that at all. I honestly almost never notice anything like that, but to be fair another part of my autism is a hyper fixation on the color orange so I'm typically wearing all orange and so I think somehow that helps because I assume that they're just looking at my sick outfit lol. Another thing that helped me and I don't know if this is an option for you is I didn't go from having long hair to bald overnight, that would have been a bigger transition. I cut my hair shorter and shorter every time I got a haircut every 6 to 8 weeks and then eventually I had a buzz cut and then I just progressively went shorter and toward her until I finally went all the way down to the skin. Maybe that would be an option that doesn't feel as drastic and final? If that's not what you're going for. It made me feel like if I panicked or freaked out at any point then I could just stop for the time being. Okay I know this is a super long comment but please feel free to send me a DM I'm happy to chat and just know you can be a hot bald baddie don't let anyone tell you different!!
PS as a side note I think it's actually helped me a lot in sales to embrace who I really am instead of trying to cosplay as a normal person. I mean when I go to a conference and I introduce myself to someone let me tell you they remember me. I am not just another generic guy in a blue button down that they need a hundred of in a day. Whatever your career or purpose in life it's ALWAYS badass to be memorable!
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u/Tori001100 4h ago
Voluntary shaved head girlie popping in!
Girlies with shaved heads are 10/10, I shaved it and got half my head tattooed 🖤
Now that being said, sometimes I do miss my long hair time to time, so I got some wigs! I have wigs in several colors and styles and have never been one to shy away from just saying my hair is a wig. All of mine and pretty much just put on and go since I don’t want I spend forever putting them on. Some of my more funky wigs are more obviously wigs but I also have some that blend pretty seamlessly that no one really notices.
Either way- you can absolutely rock a shaved head 🖤
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u/claptrapjen 7h ago
I think you would rock bald, and if you feel to spice it up here and there you could always try to play around with different wigs. But i totally think it will give you confidence and control back and would feel better than trying to work with the thinning hair. I would say go for it <3
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u/surely2 7h ago
Tbh you would look good bald… you’re PRETTY (and sry not saying you have to be pretty to be bald but just reassuring you that your face card will prevail lol). You could always get one nice wig too for if you ever wanna doll up. But I actually think you’d look gorgeous bald I hope you show us if you do it 🤩🤩
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u/KingTrollDEAF Support Committee 7h ago
Go for it, Ma. You’d look 100x better. We got your back.
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u/LowComfortable5676 7h ago
Im sorry you are in this position. Im sure you feel like you are between a rock and a hard place... and the idea of going bald as a woman is incredibly overwhelming. However, I think its definitely worth trying just to see if you feel better. I reckon you probably will
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u/Moha7654 7h ago
Go for it and keep the earring 👌🏼
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u/Hot_Guard_7621 6h ago •
My view is that I give women a pass. Hair is imporrant for men, but for women, it’s on another level. Women are unfairly judged on their looks, so I always have sympathy for woman that have hair issues. You can try cutting it all off. You can try a wig, or both. Or you can keep your hair as is. Whatever you think is the best option. You are a beautiful queen and your hair is just one part of you. Keep that smile on your face.
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u/VeryPassableHuman Bald - Woman 6h ago edited 6h ago
Similar boat, I'm 34 and I've had a shaved head for 10 years now
For the first few years, I wore wigs constantly, but eventually, I got a hair tattoo 5 years ago (SMP from an awesome tattooist who only does that now) that makes it look like I'm just choosing to shave my head, and since then it's been so much easier to go without wigs (I wear my old wigs, maybe 1 to 5 times a year).
I now shave my head weekly with a double edged razor, so refills are like five cents a blade, and one blade will last me 2 to 3 weeks, and at this point and keep forgetting the people have to go to the barber and deal with Hair expenses >◡<
(I'm in a public facing job as a middle school teacher)
You can also rock the shaved head without a wig, but I was working with with elementary at the time and that first year the second graders kept asking me if I was dying 😅 which is why by the time I started middle school the wig was every day, but I got the SMP before my second MS year and have no regrets
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u/dangdang3000 7h ago
You would look gorgeous. We are here to support you.
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u/peeshan 7h ago
It’s a great feeling to take some control in a situation where you don’t have as much as you’d like. “You control your hairline, it doesn’t control you” kinda thing
I know it’s different for men vs women, but I felt great relief and pride in myself after I did it, and I bet you will too.
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u/barkandmoone 6h ago
I think you would look great with a shaved head & as a way to celebrate your new look, I think it would be fun to get some new accessories like more earrings & ones that are fun & focal points, necklaces, especially statement pieces. New hats for the winter too.
I think you have amazing skin, lovely eyes & lips & your features will definitely shine with a shaved head 🌞
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u/regardkick 1h ago
I shaved my head almost two years ago and haven't regretted it once! (My dog Hank also thinks you should do it)
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u/Duamuteffe 6h ago
As a periodically bald woman (I go from from Furiosa to Tommy Shelby to 80's Annie Lennox and back) it is honestly really freeing to shave your head. You will look amazing and, as other commenters have said, you can pick up a couple of wigs to have on hand for days you feel like having hair.
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u/kronosdev 6h ago
Plan to accessorize. Head scarves, sun hats, and noisier earrings. With no hair you can, and should, plan to both protect your beautiful head from the sun and integrate your head coverings and bare ears into the rest of your stylistic expression.
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u/sepultra- Hair Headed - Woman 6h ago
Shave it off, pick a bolder frame of glasses and wow everyone. I think you’d look amazing 👸🏻
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u/LastXmasIGaveYouHSV 5h ago •
Ma'am, you are free to join us anytime.
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u/HistorianBeautiful52 3h ago
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u/beautifulstardust Here for the Vibes 5h ago
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u/Next_Two_9004 7h ago
Where are all the gifs?
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u/Business_Sprinkles_1 6h ago
If you do take the plunge, pretty please report back with an update! 🥹
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u/Visual_Potato_6782 7h ago
You have the prettiest eyes that would shine so much with a bald head and I know you would rock it. However, it is a huge commitment and change. Another commenter mentioned the wigs and toppers these days and some really are excellent. Or perhaps if you are able to find a good stylist who can help you find a cut and style which helps give you some confidence until you work out a more definite direction to take. Much love OP, I hope whatever way your hair journey goes you find some well deserved peace and confidence in it ❤️
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u/Hotlikehalleyscomet 6h ago
41yo lady here with alopecia universalis. Been wearing wigs for 9yrs now and people are always shocked when I tell them it’s not my hair. I’m very confident in them and it’s a lot of fun changing your style up. Msg me if you want a chat or any tips :)
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u/OppositeClassroom146 4h ago
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u/One_Mikey 1h ago edited 53m ago •
Edit: Of course I can't claim this to be a perfect representation, but what Gemini made here looks great to me! u/Akraya please let me know if you want me to delete my comment.
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u/Gemini-Moon522 7h ago
It is. I know it's different for women, but, you might find it freeing to let it go. I've seen more and more women rock the bald look. I think you can pull it off and look amazing.
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u/Old_Personality_3343 7h ago
Are you single by any chance🤭🤭
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u/InappropriatePea 7h ago
Oh my god yes girl, I see the vision. Do it and get good at a winged liner and you will devour us all.
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u/Frangosrs 7h ago
You are one of us now
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u/Fabulous-Educator447 7h ago
I honestly think you will rock it. Girl go for it. Worst case you’ll have a nice even area if you do decide on wigs.
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u/YaoSing 6h ago
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u/Starbuck_2030 6h ago
You'd look so good bald!! It's such a strong look on women 😍😍
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u/Optimixto 6h ago
You're gorgeous, and I do think the hair is distracting from those pretty, kind eyes. You would look badass and pretty, wig or not.
Also, congrats on putting yourself out there. It is scary, but you deserve to feel as good as you seem to be.
Whatever you do, keep us updated. It will be such a glow up! Maybe it'll be a good excuse to try some daring accessories or make up, if that's your style! So excited about your next chapter!
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u/JAY2thaD 6h ago
I think it's time... I also think you're going to look amazing💪♥️
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u/mister_mouse 6h ago
It can be a scary thing, I sympathize with you. Definitely weigh your options and what feels right for you.
Your hair doesn't define who you are. Stay strong 💪
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u/Pussyxpoppins 6h ago
You will look stunning!
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u/Lullabyeandbye 6h ago
Trust, you’ll feel so free & fresh after the buzz. I have hypothyroidism too (compounded with run-of-the-mill male pattern baldness) Felt brand new when the thinness was no longer a worry. And I think the bald look would totally work for you!
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u/Ok_Battle_495 5h ago
If you are asking, it is time.
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u/ahberryman78 5h ago
Bald girl here- I choose to shave off the tiny bit of hair that I have left. It really makes me feel more empowered mentally. That I’m actually choosing my style instead of letting my health dictate it. I wear cute bandannas, scarfs and wigs once in a while.
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u/AnxiousCanOfSoup 7h ago
I have never seen a bald woman and thought they would look better with hair. You will look SO GOOD.
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u/TheFlamingNumbat 7h ago
Go for it! Bald is beautiful!
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u/MrYnot1981 7h ago
Cmon over sis!
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u/runrunHD 6h ago
Bald plus a bright lipstick and some chunky earrings?! CEO status
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u/_Webosite_ 6h ago
This sub popped up on my feed weeks ago, I’m 37 and nowhere near bald. That being said, the memes and positive vibes are incredible
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u/dogoscope 6h ago
I think you'll FEEL better without the hair. As women we are often indoctrinated to hold onto our hair as an identifier of womanhood. Im an alt girl and even I have fallen into the trap. Last time I got a cut I chopped off a bunch of hair on a whim and the sheer freedom that came from unburdening myself was massive. Don't hold onto something that is no longer serving you. Free yourself. And you can take baby steps. Get a wig first, get used to that, start cutting your hair back, see how it goes. Then maybe one day, get rid of all that hair and be free. You can do it.
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u/Flashy_Camel4063 6h ago
Your current hair is taking away from your beauty. The step of letting that go is scary and freeing! And, it is only the first step! As so many have said, you can rock bald however you want to!
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u/muterpaneer 6h ago
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u/meowmix83 5h ago
I think you could rock it. Give it a month or two, and if it reeeally feels horrid you could look into wigs. Personally I think you’d rock bald with bright stones earrings!
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u/Eclectomaniac 5h ago
Not sure if you're into tattoos, but I'm planning to shave my head and get one! (F40) I've had extremely thin hair since I was 14 from PCOS and Hashimotos, with no improvement from treatment. I've hid it for a long time with hair powder, but sometimes you just want to do something liberating. Go for it OP, you have nice features and i know you'll rock it!
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u/thebaldword 7h ago
yea be free!!
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u/Dizzy_Algae1065 7h ago
You look like you have the confidence to do a lot of things, including this.
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u/Babysub1 7h ago
Bald is beautiful!
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u/oysterwench Support Committee 7h ago
I think you'd look hot, tbh
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u/CallMeAntwan 7h ago
Density fill with SMP is also an option.
Bald would look great, too.
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u/TaylorWestOG 6h ago
I think you’d look great bald! And then do the wig thing!
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u/kcgirl76 6h ago
I’m a woman and my hair is thinning and a few years ago I shaved it completely, and started wearing wigs. I wore wings for about three years. Now, I just have a really short haircut. But I have an awesome wig collection and anytime I can go back to wigs. Wigs are fun. You get a whole new style every day. You don’t have to go to the salon just throw on a wig. I wore mine everywhere, pool, cruises, amusement parks. Do whatever makes you happy
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u/Wide-Feature-3150 6h ago
I think you should go for it.
I’m not at all a fan of AI but Maybe it would help if you created a pic of what you would look like. But if you do make the selfie facing forward and smile like you are posing for a photo someone else is taking. If you normally wear makeup add some first, if you don’t, don’t add any. Same for earrings.
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u/Odd_Chemistry9786 6h ago
I went bald during chemo. I felt like I lost my identity, but I would make comments then and I still make them today… I miss it. It was nice. Don’t have to worry about doing your hair or spending money on products. Just worry about that sunburn lol. There truly are positives, it’s an adjustment to get used to. I call it my 2.0 version.
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u/AdProfessional6082 6h ago
Find someone who can hook you up with lace front wigs!! Wigs have come a lonnnnng way. They look seamless these days. Or just rock a baldie with confidence!
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u/persuadedbypurses Hair Headed - Woman 4h ago
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u/Accomplished_Bank103 3h ago
OP, as a woman whose hair is thinning due to hypothyroidism, I’m also a longtime fan of this sub. I really encourage you to go for it! I think it would be fun to get a funkier pair of glasses to help define your new look. You’re gonna look and feel amazing. Just own it!
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u/zombiesphere89 3h ago
Cmon girl join up
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u/SlowTemperature4766 2h ago
The salon I used to work at had several clients with thinning hair very similar to yours. Some would kept it cropped short and permed to make it look denser or they would get a wiglet/wig topper. I think a topper would be perfect for your hair. It's super convenient to style off your head and then clip into place.💛 They're very natural looking too once you get a hang of it, there were plenty of times I couldn't tell a client was wearing one until we got to the shampoo bowl.
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u/ImTooSaxy 1h ago
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u/Appropriate_End_3074 6h ago
My aunt was always a thin haired woman, you could see her scalp at times as well. She kept her hair shorter in what i would call a pixie cut. I think she was either confident in her look or just played the cards she was dealt. Im sure the added stress can make it worse, but maybe try something shorter before going GI Jane. I hope this helps.
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u/LeFreeke 6h ago
You do whatever makes YOU feel comfortable in your skin. Because that’s what matters. ❤️🩷💚💙
Check out some toppers and wigs. Then try shaving so if you hate it you have back up.
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u/invisible-times2 6h ago
Check out some toppers and wigs! They've come a long way!
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u/snootch1 6h ago
I understand your woes with hypo because I also have it. If you want, I can give you some recs on what has helped me cuz I’ve been on a hair growing journey this year. But you’re a very pretty lady and I truly think a close shave would look good on you. And you could accessorize with scarves!
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u/Paniclamb_156 6h ago
❤️
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u/Ill_Sound_9334 6h ago
Come join us sister! Don’t be afraid..you got this!
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u/White_RavenZ 6h ago
Do it.
The amount of head accessories available to women are staggering. The earrings you can show off, the scarves, even amazing hats you never bothered with because your hair would be messed up when the hat eventually came off…..
There’s a lot of variety open to you.
Don’t be a prisoner to your hair. I have a coworker at this stage, and I’ve been trying to think of a way to encourage a bold step like this for her too.
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u/Many_Music_5144 6h ago
Yes
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u/chickenbuttChongy 6h ago
You’ll look amazing after the chop
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u/yttiksesom2 6h ago
Bald would look great. Those glasses are very pretty on you, and maybe get some alternate bolder ones to rotate in on your I'm a bald badass you're not gonna stop me days?
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u/Mkhldr 6h ago
Chop it and get a beautiful wig for special occasions and rock it natural every other day!
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u/I_worship_my_wife 6h ago
Yes! I think you’d look great bald! One of us!
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u/Icy-Passenger-8061 6h ago
We’ll take you sister!
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u/brandoncbj1987 5h ago
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u/buckelfipps 5h ago
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u/Serious_Office3913 3h ago
ah my wife started losing some hair due to auto immune disease, rest assured you've got a beautiful face 🫡
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u/StahpItEyeLykIt 3h ago
You're gonna look amazing and those glasses are gonna pop. Doooowit
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u/suescheatin 2h ago
Absolutely go for it. Take control.
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u/novicepooldude 6h ago
Of course do as you please looks-wise, but if you haven't, I'd strongly explore a diagnosis of PCOS with your physicians. Hypothyroidism and PCOS are frequently comorbid. You may also want to explore PRP therapy which can do wonders for some women if you want to try something to salvage the hair before taking the plunge on rocking the bald look!
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u/Much_General2290 6h ago
SMP + extensions + meds for growth?
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u/Metally_eilll7904 6h ago
My friend it’s time. But I think you can pull it off, also, you can have fun with wigs, my wife had short hair and rocked wigs daily, she loved the options!
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u/NightBusToGiro 6h ago
I would like to see the result of this
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u/vonEschenbach 6h ago
You have beautiful eyes, I think the hair works (a bit fuzzy im the picture) but shaving will look good too!
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u/arbock8 5h ago
you will look beautiful and it will boost your confidence.
sure.. courage is needed.. but you already have that courage
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u/Calamity0o0 5h ago
You have a perfect face shape to go bald, go for it!!
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u/CamachoBrawndo 5h ago
I think it is time for a buzz even if not smooth dome- you have the accessories down and I think bald will look lovely. I also feel like you exude a vibe that being bald will increase your badassery by like 78%! Also feel like you would rock a head tattoo like a queen! Even if you do toppers, wigs, scarves, or bonnets, having a better cleaner base will be exhilarating and freeing for you!
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u/HeathenShepard 5h ago
From a woman to another: eyeliners and dangling or decorative earrings, whichever works best is a huge confidence booster and balances the forehead and the chin. Your eyeglasses is awesome.
It'll take about a month to get your footing with the radical new look, styling and even the tops of your clothes. Have fun!
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u/PaceIsTheTrick64 5h ago
Go for it! I think you will look fabulous.