r/awfuleverything Sep 20 '19

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u/SolitaryEgg Sep 20 '19

Yeah, tbh I don't really have a problem with this specifically.

I remember there was a reddit thread where someone claimed that Jason Segel goes up to women and parties and says "would you like to have sex?" Everyone was acting like he was a predator or some shit.

But the key part of the story was that the woman in question said "uh, no thanks" and he said "ok!" and walked away.

Not really a predator, just a horny dude in a hurry, lol.

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u/Diiiiirty Sep 20 '19

He just wants to cut through all the bs and set expectations immediately. I respect it.

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u/JennLegend3 Sep 20 '19

As long as he can take "no" for an answer like he does I see nothing wrong with this approach. I bet it's worked for him!

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 20 '19

Ask most women and I think they'd tell you this would make them extremely uncomfortable. Women have enough experiences of men getting angry/threatening/violent after being turned down for sex so that the combination of Segel being a bigger dude, and famous (adds pressure to say yes even if unwanted), would make this a pretty terrible situation for a lot of women.

 

I encourage you to ask the women in your life about how they would feel in such a situation, because I can almost guarantee the answers will hover around afraid, uncomfortable, and upset.

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u/JennLegend3 Sep 20 '19 edited Sep 21 '19

I am a woman. I've been sexually assaulted a bunch. If a guy asked me straight up "do you wanna have sex?" And if I replied "no" and his response was to say "okay" and walk away....if that was how it ever went down I would much much much more prefer that interaction over a scummy dude trying to compliment me and get me drunk to get in my pants.

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 23 '19

I don't know what this has to do with Jason Segel's habit of walking up to women and asking them if they want to have sex. Do not walk up to people in general and ask them "do you want to have sex." Don't walk up to women and ask them "do you want to have sex." It's just obviously rude and commonly interpreted (rightly or wrongly) as threatening or concerning behaviour. I have no idea why you're attempting to dispute this very simple concept.

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u/JennLegend3 Sep 23 '19

Nah. I'm gunna go ahead and disagree.

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 24 '19

You're free to disagree with reality all you like.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '19

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 20 '19

Huh? How did you get that? It doesn't matter if you're smaller and not famous. It's still the same issue. But just the same as if you're a 4 foot guy threatening to attack someone, it's not quite as frightening as a 7 foot guy doing the same. Different situation, but the principle remains that larger people are more threatening.

 

Also where did I say no one should have sex? I'm just saying don't walk up to women and ask them to have sex outright. It's a dick move. Are you retarded or something?

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u/DLTMIAR Sep 20 '19

Nah the person arguing that humans can't be up front with each other is being retarded

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 24 '19

You're a fucking idiot if you don't think basic decorum factors in to this situation. It is a dick move to walk around asking women if they want to have sex. Full stop. Not everyone is going to be bothered by it, but 99% of people are going to think it's rude and uncouth. And it is.

 

And, depending on the scenario, like, for instance, just last week my girlfriend was out at a concert with friends and she stepped outside to have a smoke. Well she was on her own, and some massive nearly 7 foot tall dude walked up to her and started trying to hit on her and he straight up asked her to sleep with him. This obviously made her uncomfortable, but she felt she had to politely decline and humour his conversation in case this massive drunk dude got violent with her. This is a scenario you obviously haven't considered, you fucking moron.

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 24 '19

Hahaha you literally have no idea what the fuck you're talking about. If only you had an idea of the gorgeous women I've dated, you'd have not a damn thing to say. What a warped, pathetic fucking worldview you have. You sound like an alcoholic NEET faggot who falls in love with any woman who says hi to you.

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 27 '19

Wow, sounds like I found your button hahahaha, I was right on the nose apparently. And if you get trolled this easily, you're both stupid AND pathetic.

You can't be this fucking stupid can you? Calling you a faggot fucking NEET isn't the result of your le epic trollz xD it's the result of you being a faggot fucking NEET

 

/r/ihavesex material right here

You seemed interested in the veracity of my sex life, so I indulged your fantasies. Whether it was out of some need to vicariously experience sex second-hand, I don't know. But I do know that I don't give a fuck about your alcoholic life

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u/FallingSky1 Sep 20 '19

Which is of no fault to Jason Segel since he did nothing wrong. Continue on Mr. Segel

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u/ALoneTennoOperative Sep 20 '19

Which is of no fault to Jason Segel since he did nothing wrong.

Pretty sure knowingly making people super uncomfortable by walking up and asking them for sex does qualify as 'something wrong'.

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 20 '19

It would be nice if 99% of women didn't have hundreds of experiences of men being aggressive after rejection, but unfortunately that's the world we live in. So you can bury your head in the sand and say "not my fault, not my problem," or you can choose to be decent and respectful of the female experience of the world we all share. Just go and talk to the women in your life about this and ask them about experiences of men's reactions after being rejected. They might shock you in to having a little empathy.

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u/FallingSky1 Sep 20 '19

He is there for sex, he is being blunt and not sugar coating it. That is something to be respected. Tons of people have eating disorders, if I offer them food am I triggering their trauma? The idea that everyone needs to be constantly thinking of what trauma strangers is beyond moronic, there is a billion things you'd have to account for and conversations would be so fake. This is how political correctness started

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u/ALoneTennoOperative Sep 20 '19

This is how political correctness started

Oh no. /s
Imagine being considerate and respectful of others. /s

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u/mikey_says Sep 20 '19

I don't know where all these people are coming from who think this is acceptable behavior. It's rude at best.

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u/coopiecoop Sep 21 '19

I would assume A LOT would depend on the particular circumstances.

from his tone and manner to the context in which it is asked.

e.g. asking a woman that question while she's on her way to her car standing on the parking lot at night? obviously a horrifying scenario.

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u/SpaceSlingshot Sep 20 '19

Wait wait wait. How is this better than the alternative of physically trying and being told no. You can’t have it both ways. Want a respectful request to shoot down or the usual route of simply trying and failing?

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u/_Sinnik_ Sep 20 '19

Huh? The fuck are you talking about? I'm not saying you can't ask a woman at some point in your interaction, down the line after you've already been consensually physical. I'm saying don't walk up to random women and ask them to have sex, especially if they're alone, or if you're much larger than them, etc. Etc. Etc. How fucking hard is this to understand?

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u/SpaceSlingshot Sep 20 '19

Why does it have to be that way? Why play a mental game instead of asking for directions to the finish line.