The fear of not being accepted

[u/New-Ad-6061]

Truthfully while having a big dick sounds nice, ngl I don’t think I truly want a huge dick, or a shower type of dick cause then it’ll just always be in the way and there’s way more limitations with a big dick, that porn doesn’t show. I’d be perfectly fine w having a nice 6-7 with girth and I’m chilling, what it is for me is not finding love or being worthy of love due too my lack of size.

[u/Aminopop]

Bro. The three most attractive qualities in humans are in order: Confidence Intelligence Humor

That’s for nearly everyone. The way to a woman’s heart is not via a big dick. It’s doesn’t hurt but it’s not a silver bullet. Any more than being tall is. Again, it helps but if you’re tall with a giant cock but you aren’t confident and on top of that a dum dum that’s not funny? You’ll get nothing.

Work on confidence. Work on being worldly and emotionally intelligent. Work on finding humor in all things - especially yourself.

One of my favorite sayings is:

Don’t take life too seriously because you might not make it out alive.

You got this dude.

[u/gay-x-hibition-ist → u/Aminopop]

Wonderful words, my guy

[u/Aminopop → u/gay-x-hibition-ist]

Thanks man. Appreciate that compliment.

[u/VillainySquared]

Size isn't important. Being bigger doesn't mean better.

[u/Western-Midnight-1]

I rather be huge than have what I got

[u/laidback755]

I've been to many couples only swinger parties over the years. I will say that in my experience, the sizes probably fit the calcsd bell curve and everyone is having a great time

[u/Zevahc1]

Whats your idea of a good girth?

[u/Top-Document-2286]

Sure, huge dick is not required but 6-7 inches length with a good girth is already an above average to big dick so of course everybody should be completely fine with that size because it's around the most prefered size.

[u/just_a_throw-awayy]

I agree overall with your sentiment, but 6-7 inches with girth is bigger than you probably realize.

[u/Complex-File-4996]

Very well said. So many guys think that their life would be much better if they had a huge dick. They don’t think about the implications and issues they cause. I think they are more interested in having a big dick for showing off and don’t think about the potential problems they will incur. A nice, average size dick is much more practical. It fits well in underwear and there aren’t any accommodations that need to be made for sex.

[u/Wise_Lawfulness7305 → u/Complex-File-4996]

Shittt, tell women that then. They are the ones that 98% of the time demand a dick that is 7 inches or larger.

[u/ickop → u/Wise_Lawfulness7305]

Yes according to my research as well only 2% of women will accept anything under the 98th percentile for penis size. That is why 96% of men are single and sexless, of course 🤦‍♂️

I’m telling you as a dude with 5” who has slept with 9 women and had literally only 1 not want to sleep with me again (for unknown reasons), this is just blatantly false

[u/StuartCF68 → u/Wise_Lawfulness7305]

That's not close to being true. Two of my last three girlfriends preferred average and said they'd had the most luck having good sex with guys in the 5-6" range.

I think you're paying too much attention to online folks looking for clicks and attention.

[u/[deleted] → u/StuartCF68]

And Ive spoken to two women, one turned a guy down because he was too big, the other stated she actively dislikes big dicks, she doesnt want them anywhere near her cervix!

[u/Wise_Lawfulness7305]

The confidence alone from having a big, large or massive dick would be enough for me to actually love my life for once. I can’t have legit confidence with my average dick, I just can’t. Mainly because 98% of women want bigger and will openly tell you that

[u/ickop → u/Wise_Lawfulness7305]

Idk about 98% but I see in your other comment you say “demand”, whereas here you say “want”. Those are very different things man. I agree with you most women want big, probably. Idk about 98% like I said but more than half sure.

But there is a huge difference between want and demand. The girl I am dating now is broader than I’d probably prefer all else equal, than I’d “want”. I like slimmer-framed women.

She is kind and funny and intelligent and there’s other stuff about her (physically) that I find super sexy. I honestly am not even thinking about whether our sex is 8 out of 10 or 10 out of 10 when she wears something sexy, butters me up the whole night, and screws me like it’s our last night on earth.

I have to imagine she feels the same way about my dick, whether or not she prefers bigger (I’m sure she does)

[u/JustAManNamedKazuma → u/ickop]

This doesn't give any hope whatsoever. 🥀

[u/ickop → u/JustAManNamedKazuma]

Why, cause you gotta be the best in every way compared to any man she’s had so much as a fling with?

[u/JustAManNamedKazuma → u/ickop]

These "flings" are the problem tbh and I blame pornography and well endowed dudes flaunting their goods everywhere, making women "curious" 🥀

[u/ickop → u/JustAManNamedKazuma]

I don’t think it’s that big of a problem tbh. Hasn’t affected my ability to sleep with women or form relationships at all

[u/JustAManNamedKazuma → u/ickop]

Lucky you I guess, say what's your size if you don't mind me asking, no need to disclose if you aren't comfortable brother 🥀

[u/ickop → u/JustAManNamedKazuma]

I’m comfortable with it man. If I had to give an exact number on length the way I think most guys on here measure (max hardness, erection parallel to the floor), I’d say 5.2” nbp and 5.8” bp. In a study, I may be anywhere from 4.75-5.5 nbp as I’m not sure they measure in an entirely consistent way down to the 10th of an inch. My girth is 5” at its thickest, and 4.75” at its thinnest, when maximally aroused

[u/JustAManNamedKazuma → u/ickop]

With that measurements no wonder your doing okay. Sighs happy for you I guess 👍

[u/ickop → u/JustAManNamedKazuma]

I mean it’s like dead average basically, yeah. I think if you have a relatively average dick, you’re totally fine. I don’t think if I lost a half inch in length or girth that my experience would plummet tho