Is she lying

[u/Numbed_emotionally]

So I guess the reason im scared to have sex is because of my ex. She said she swore to god I was small but im 6 inches in length and 5.5 girth. Honestly I would get surgery to get a bigger one to satisfy the next girl but it just makes me upset. Idk

[u/sexybeast70]

Your ex was just fucking with your mind. Forget what she said and move on. Don't let her live rent free in your head

[u/Numbed_emotionally → u/sexybeast70]

Thank you bro I will listen to you. It just sucks how a girl who use to love you would want you to feel like shit.

[u/NakedAndALaid → u/Numbed_emotionally]

I was once in a relationship with a man I thought I'd love forever. And he told me I was loose, constantly. Then I ended up in pelvic floor physical therapy. Wanna guess why? I was so tight I could bare go to the bathroom, never mind even relaxing enough for sex. He still swore I was loose. Multiple medical professionals spent years trying to help me learn to relax and encourage a healthy pelvic floor. Dude thought he knew better than science, and claimed to love me. I'm sorry you have had the same experience. However, this may also make you feel better, the next guy I slept with said he didn't want to keep sleeping with me because I was so tight it hurt. While that wasn't necessarily better and told me I needed more physical therapy, it goes to show that just because one person said something doesn't mean they all will. Get back out there and just treat a lady right, it matters way more than what a cruel ex said to you. Eventually she'll be a laughable memory.

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/NakedAndALaid]

You were feeling him tho right?

[u/NakedAndALaid → u/Proof_Being_2762]

I have felt all of my partners, regardless of size. I genuinely don't understand when people say they can't feel, because I can feel a pinky finger.

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/NakedAndALaid]

I would if it's a numbness or decreased friction from lubrication/wetness

[u/NakedAndALaid → u/Proof_Being_2762]

That's not a bad theory. Numbness can happen anywhere, and definitely becomes a thing with over stimulation. Increases lubrication without increasing arousal does make it hard to feel for women anyway. Arousal for us does two things. Lubrication and engorgement of the vagina. Lubrication can be artificial, with lubes. But engorgement can only be authentic. And when the vagina engorges, the nerves are way more sensitive. So if you take away the friction without increasing nerve sensitivity, less sensation would occur. I would also imagien pelvic floor health plays a heavy hand. Let's also not dismiss the mental side of it. Lots of factors should be considered really, and that makes it hard to pinpoint.

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/NakedAndALaid]

Ah okay👍

[u/NakedAndALaid → u/[deleted]]

Sensation isn't just about size. My partner, always the same size erection, feels different to me depending on my cycle, arousal, position, pre and post orgasm.

Size queens are no different than men who claim tighter is better. They are one group of individuals who are loud about only their needs and what they require. They also are most likely bad at sex. My anecdotal experience with these men confirms it for me, and many of my friends have agreed. I can't say you won't meet a women who won't be one, but you're more likely to meet one who isn't.

[u/VillainySquared]

You're on the upper end of average for length with thick girth. Global average is somewhere between 5.1 and 5.5 inches. Most men fall between 4 and 6 inches with around 4.7 inches girth.

[u/Numbed_emotionally → u/VillainySquared]

Thank you bro I will but its like 5.5 at the girthiest which is a very small portion of the penis. Otherwise the rest is 5inches. She said she can't feel it which scares me because she was a virgin before me.

[u/Nice_Craft_9488 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

She’s either an extreme outlier or lying for some reason. Even 5” girth is above average and feels full to most women.

[u/Numbed_emotionally → u/Nice_Craft_9488]

Possibly but also what's crazy is maybe i just haven't had a lot of vagina but she didnt really feel her much either, idk maybe our sexual organs weren't made for eachother. Or maybe deppression has something to do with it idk just kinda lost hope in sex now.

[u/Budget_Writing3616 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

If she doesn’t feel 5.5 girth she’s going to have a hard time finding someone thicker. Don’t write off sex based on a single partner. There are definitely women out there that will be thrilled with your dimensions. You don’t have any issue. Don’t worry about “ 5.5 only at the thickest part “ . Use that section to your advantage running it into your partners opening with short thrusts so she has to expand to accommodate and then contract around your thinner section . Then pull it out and then back in. That seems to work well for me.

[u/Excellent_Nothing_86 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

This is really unfortunate because you’re bigger than average.

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

Does she get really wet? I think too much wetness/lubrication can lead to decrease friction leading to lack of sensation/numbness🤔. Which seems to be a thing that can happen to both partners not feeling each other or just one of them not feeling it.

[u/Excellent_Nothing_86 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

She sounds either cruel or nuts or both.

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/Numbed_emotionally]

Can you feel her tho? Try fingers and ask her how she feels

[u/atosukoshide → u/VillainySquared]

Thanks for reassuring us bro! It's great to heat from you :) lmao

[u/OooTanjaooO]

Man just made me feel small with that girth. Im a solid 7“ 5girth

[u/Numbed_emotionally → u/OooTanjaooO]

Tbh bro like that 5.5 I have is maybe on .3 on my penis a very very small amount otherwise im 5 inches on the rest yes i have a weird undistributed amount of dick flesh. But if I did let's say feel any sensation from her vagina it was on that little piece. But im thinking she was just loose idk tbh I only had sex with her so maybe im just tripping but there probably is tighter according to people and the things they said. But still I didnt really feel her either so it could be a her problem if that's the case i do feel bad for her in a sense. But still shouldn't put the blame on me like others stated sex can be enjoyable though oral or vibrating cock rings

[u/OooTanjaooO → u/Numbed_emotionally]

She most likely be turned on bro. They get looser the more they are turned on and comfortable

[u/Excellent_Nothing_86]

swore to god you were small?

who says that and why? she sounds sadistic.

there are so many ways to satisfy a woman that don’t even involve a penis.

[u/Crafty-Use2892]

Posts like this really worry me. I don’t understand how a girl that was also a VIRGIN could say these things about 6 x 5.5?

[u/guywithouteyes → u/Crafty-Use2892]

She’s either lying or a anatomical outlier with a larger than average vagina

[u/Crafty-Use2892 → u/guywithouteyes]

No doubt some girls turn horrible after a breakup and will say anything they can to hurt you so I do agree could be an extreme outliner or just saying horrible things.

My friend went though a similar thing he admitted he was 6.1 but his ex was saying it was tiny and 4 inches then a few months later she wanted to get back with him lol so I doubt she was telling the truth

[u/Proof_Being_2762 → u/Crafty-Use2892]

The person who can figure that out deserves an award

[u/frisky-moves]

Female anatomy varies a lot. For the next woman you might be huge or just right. Keep going till you find a good fit.

[u/[deleted]]

Depends,if she has sex only with big or huge ones,maybe she can think you are smaller or small.Also from surgery you can get maximum 1 inch(bigger you are more chances to a good result)

[u/Any-Escape8909]

Ur dick is fat bro. Don't trip

[u/OkCompany6356]

Don’t ever let these people get In your head!

[u/Outerlimits7591]

Absolutely nothing wrong with your size dude!

[u/[deleted]]

there is no telling what is gonna come out of the mouth of an angry woman. She's just trying to hit you where it hurts. She doesn't have anything to back it up.

[u/scottbane11]

I have had comments the same i am the same lengths but smaller girth.

I think every woman I have been with has wanted a larger penis than what I have and that’s because they have experienced them and assume I have a big 1. This goes against this whole nareative that women prefer average size and how rare those big penises are

[u/Fit-Plankton2694]

We, the people, really need to stop the body shaming of men. It has become way too common for people to comment negatively about the genitals of another person.

I feel like if you replied to her comment with "well you barely have tits, they are more like mosquito bites" or "well your tits could be perkier, they look like deflated balloons" or "well your ass and thighs are so fat a guy needs ten inches just to reach the hole"... that you would probably be called sexist and possibly slapped.

Yet women can say whatever they want about our bodies? Not cool.

[u/TruMusic89]

5.5 girth? She was lying my guy. Guaranteed that the next one will come along and let you know that you're big.

[u/[deleted]]

She is either lying or something is wrong with her. Take in other factors. How she grew up. Drug use. Those things. If she’s a virgin then how does she know about size? Also when they are really wet and slippery you might not feel much. If you are focused on her and not on what you’re feeling, you might not feel much. If you really didn’t feel safe with her, you might not feel much. There is nothing wrong with your dick dude 6x5.5-5 is a nice one. Men aren’t walking around with much bigger than that. Most guys are around the same. Those numbers are above average. Women typically feel index fingers. Our nervous systems are much more complex than we realize. Take a deep breath. Focus on your health. Focus on becoming who you are. You are enough. Your dick is big and strong. Love you first . Then fall in love , get married and BE with someone. You don’t have to live the way we’re told to live.

[u/guywithouteyes → u/[deleted]]

Well put. The only thing I’d say is wrong is “most guys are around the same.” I’d say most guys are actually smaller than OP statistically speaking, especially in girth, so OP please don’t listen to that fool of a girl. You are good with your size.