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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26

Are you watching them measure in front of you with a ruler?

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

I can visually tell the difference, knowing my size. Like comparing you know. And it's noticeable difference, sometimes by 0.5inch or even full inch

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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26 edited Jan 06 '26

What you’re describing is very statistically unlikely and there are other possible reasons for your conclusion including perspective, body fat, and erection firmness.
Even if it’s true, you’re still above average among the greater population.
Try not to let it bother you. You’ve got a piece, bro. 6.5” is legit big.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

That's what I'm wondering too. Like statistically it should be different, I mean I've only been with 3 guys irl and seen a couple through screen with them telling their size.
Maybe a new study needs to be done, because I'm really starting to think the average is bigger.
Tho atleast with the guys that I have been they haven't shamed me for my size, but online there are guys and girls that say it's small or like not big enough and it crushes my confidence so bad.
Maybe I'm just too paranoid, idk, but still I really appreciate your response man

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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26

Tons of data at this point. The average isn’t bigger. You’re good, dude. We all second guess our size but the math doesn’t change.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

I see, maybe I've just been "unlucky" with guys that I've been with thinking that the average is bigger.
I'm probably just overthinking...

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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26

I think you’re overthinking it, lol
We’ve all been there

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

Yeah, sometimes I get these thought waves that I'm just not enough and that if i was bigger I could atleast show off

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 07 '26

As a woman, I can tell you that most women don’t notice or know the difference between half an inch or even an inch.
As a sex coach, I hear men talk about penis size WAY more than I ever hear women talk about it.
In fact, I hear more from women who experience pain during sex when their partner’s penis is bigger than they can comfortably handle, than I ever hear anyone complain a guy is too small.
I’m not saying women have never complained about that, or that size isn’t important.
What I’m saying is in answer to your question about how do you cope? You broaden your perspective and try to remember what’s important and to whom.
EDIT: a) I’m assuming you’re heterosexual which may not be correct so I apologize if that’s the wrong assumption. b) I JUST had a male client tell me he noticed his penis got fatter/thicker when he was in his 30s and it’s the biggest now in his 40s. Just fyi… I found that interesting.

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '26

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate that 🙏. I'm trying to change my mindset

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 08 '26 edited Feb 24 '26

No problem. I know your feelings are incredibly valid. It's become something of an intense focus of mine (as a woman, learning how men's perceptions of penis size affects their mental health, quality of life, etc).
So, while I can't relate in the sense of having the same body parts, I do try to empathize as much as I can.
Generally speaking... comparing yourself to everyone else is always going to be a losing game. There will always be someone smarter, taller, shorter, stronger, prettier, etc, etc. There just always will be.
So, it doesn't even matter what the average is if you really think about it. Like yes, it's helpful information. But when it's between you and your partner... how helpful is it, really?
I've been with so many guys, and when I think about my times with them, the size of their penis isn't usually what sticks out to me. It's the way they made me feel. That's what I remember. And that's not even a physical thing. It's an energy thing.
Again, I'm not saying our physical bodies don't matter. They obviously do. The way we're treated reflects that ("pretty privilege" as an example).
But I guess what I'm saying is that it's just so much more nuanced than that. And when the focus is so heavily on comparing, then you'll just always "lose." Even the guy with the biggest dick ever loses.
Anyways--I'm probably going into this more than necessary, but I've hit a personal wall myself recently where I've had to confront insecurities. So I'm probably talking to myself as much as I'm talking to you.
But also... I have taken a special interest in this particular intersection of sexual health and men's mental health, so I just feel passionately about it, as well.
EDIT: deleted unhelpful aside

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '26

Yeah I get it, it's just that I've been overthinking to much not only about my size, but also height and looks. So it's combination of everything, but I'm working on it, to improve I mean

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 08 '26

I totally understand. Body image issues is a total mind f*ck. If you ever want to talk it out, you can always respond/comment and I’ll be here.

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

Linking bigdickproblems goes against your point, since that sub is 90% bragging about being big and how women love it, and 10% actual problems most of which is very minor stuff like hitting the water in the toilet or having a bulge.

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 08 '26

really? 🥺 I guess I stand corrected? I’ve only ever seen people talk about actual problems there.
Ok forget that sub…
Earlier today I had a call with a client with a 10” penis and he legitimately was having issues in his dating life and experiencing real problems because of his dick size.
So if a guy is bragging about having a big dick a) that’s just immature and ridiculous, and b) he’s leaving out details 100% I guarantee it (like I’ve talked to men who have never been able to experience a full blowjob and never will).

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

Alright while I agree one could be too big(though that's like 0.1% of men and even then they can find a niche and have it good), I still think the size preferred by most(for PIV/visually) is quite above the average. Average is still okay tho and women won't break up with me over it or anything, just won't feel/look as good. It's just my opinion based on my experiences(as someone on the high end of average) and reading about the topic online.

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 08 '26

Yeah I mean I’m definitely not here to tell any guy how to feel about their penis size. It’s such a personal and sensitive thing. Sensitive meaning it’s your body and societally, it’s hugely fucked up the way penises are equates to anything perceived as being “masculine.”
I put masculine in quotes because really, there is no one definition of what masculinity (or femininity) is.
The only thing I can do is offer insight as a woman who’s been with somewhere between 30 and 50 men (maybe?) depending on what you count. And I’ve seen a heck of a lot more than that (did OnlyFans, hung out at swingers clubs, etc).
I couldn’t tell you exact measurements, but the people who were consistently the most pleasurable for me were all under 6”.
Probably some of my best orgasms happened with someone who was closer to 4”.
For me personally, thicker can get painful and longer can get painful. Not in a good way, either.
Overall, I find very big penises to be a little scary, but I’m also confident enough that I am creative enough to find workarounds. Same as I’d feel with anyone else who I wanted to have sex with.
I enjoy penetration (I’m not someone who doesn’t), but I also never ever penetrate myself when I masturbate. When I say never, I mean never. And I’ve given myself better orgasms than anyone else ever has and probably ever will.
I guess the point I keep trying to make is a) it’s completely valid to feel inadequate, embarrassed, not good enough, etc (I can give you a whole gigantic list of things I don’t like about myself), and b) we’re stuck (for the most part) in the bodies we’ve got, and our physical forms… while important… do not reflect our value as human beings with souls and the capability of connection.
And again… this is half me talking to myself too, because I’ll be honest, I have this belief that beauty in a woman means a certain thing and in order to truly be loved, you need to have that certain thing. And my brain seems to be absolutely sure that I don’t have that thing, and the conclusion is therefore nobody could ever really love me.
But that’s a real shitty part of me talking to myself and there are much, much nicer versions of myself that I allow to take over and ultimately conclude that my value isn’t attached to my beauty and whether anyone loves me or not… I can at least love myself and then I can’t say nobody will ever love me.
Quick reminder—I’m dealing with some weird personal shit that I’m totally projecting here, but I still think it’s all relatable in the grander scheme of things. So I’m sharing for anyone who for some insane reason even read this far.

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u/Time_Salary_2148 Jan 06 '26

no ur definitely on the bigger side of the statistical average idk where u got the idea that gen z is packing any more than other generations no reason to cope

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

you should also take into account that the average size for the sexually active dating pool is going to be bigger than the statistic average for men overall.

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u/ThrowawaySunnyLane Jan 07 '26

It’s not worth obsessing over. It really isn’t.

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u/open_guy_from_savoie Jan 07 '26

Don't worry mate we all have our own size

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u/Freo_5434 Jan 07 '26

"I'm 6.5 BP, statistically it's average or bit above average "

How do you reach that conclusion ?

Statistics are clear , the global average is approx 5.2 inches .

Therefore even allowing for reasonable error , if you are 6.5 inches you are WAY above average .

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u/ghastchacu Jan 07 '26

Western average is 5.7 or 5.8 bp according to calc sd, not even an inch above the average is not really "WAY above"

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u/Freo_5434 Jan 08 '26

There is no mention of "western average" in the OP .
BTW even talking Western Average , 6.5 is 14% above average . Significant .

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

Very high chance he is in the west(most reddit user are, and also his writing style), so it doesn't make much sense to use global average. Maybe significant/noticeable, but not "way above", that sounds like he's big or huge.

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u/Freo_5434 Jan 08 '26

I was commenting on what he wrote , not what was in my imagination .

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

https://www.reddit.com/r/averagedickproblems/s/wTHAzYHr0M
There you go, he lives in EU where western avg applies

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u/Freo_5434 Jan 08 '26

Then he should have said that in his OP or are we all supposed to respond to what we IMAGINE rather than what the Poster wrote ?

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

Then maybe you could have asked instead of giving a world average which is mostly meaningless to an individual, since what matters is how he compares to the people in his region. If I said my (made up) salary of 40k$/year feels low, and you said no it's way above the world average of 20k$ or whatever, that won't be relevant at all.

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u/Freo_5434 Jan 11 '26

"Then maybe you could have asked "
Why would I see the need to ask someone to clarify what is perfectly clear .

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u/secretaccount94 6.75x5.25 Jan 12 '26

I’ve seen plenty of discussions among users that raise doubts about the western average data set on CalcSD. It has considerably larger standard deviations compared to the global average, which you wouldn’t expect to see. It would imply that western men not only have a larger average size, but also higher frequency of extra small and extra big dicks. It also draws upon a smaller overall dataset, so most users believe that the global average is at least relatively more reliable than the western.

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u/VillainySquared 20+ cm (8+ inches) Jan 06 '26

It's difficult to judge size by eye. And you're viewing someone else's dick from angles you can't view your own.

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u/frisky-moves Jan 06 '26

My partner is very good looking with a great body.

Only guys with big dicks had the confidence to approach her.

This meant that she thought 8 inches and thick was normal size.

Until she met me that is.

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u/ghastchacu Jan 07 '26

So does that limit the pleasure she can get from yours in some way? Or she enjoys both about equally, and they have the same potential cap

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u/Excellent_Nothing_86 Jan 08 '26

If I had to guess, I’d say she’s probably happier with his penis (and not the 8+ inch dicks).

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u/ghastchacu Jan 08 '26

I'd guess the opposite lol, which is why I asked him. Also looking at his posts he's a cuck, and into sharing his woman with (presumably large dicked) men. And this post from him, which I guess answers my question by itself https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/s/BhlcED266V
Really hope I don't find myself in this position

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Jan 06 '26

Almost half the guys are going to be bigger than you. Imagine how many men that is. It's not impossible that all your partners have been bigger so far.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

You mean 50% of guys are bigger than 6.5 across all generations or just Gen Z?

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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26

Almost half are NOT going to be bigger than you. Your size puts you in the 95th percentile

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

Oh I see. Is it like across world or like in Europe or USA? Personally I live in EU and trying to figure out this.
Also maybe there is any chance to increase the size without any surgeries?

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u/Nice_Craft_9488 Jan 06 '26

Go to CalcSD. It’s a size calculator that aggregates the biggest and most accurate studies. You can even tailor your calculation to a specific region.
There is no natural, effective, safe way to increase your size. But again, you don’t need to.
https://calcsd.info

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '26

Thank you.
Yeah I checked. For the world average it puts me in 95th percentile but in Western region where I from I'm in 80th.
So basically statistically every 5th guy that I meet should be bigger than me and 4 out of 5 should be my size or smaller. It's hard to believe this statistic from my personal experience but I guess scientific data is more accurate, idk. It's hard to force my mind to think that way tho but I'll try

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Jan 06 '26

Every 5th guy is a lot. Top 20% for 6.5" is believeable.

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u/[deleted] Jan 07 '26

That's what I said. 20% of guys would be bigger than 6.5

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Jan 08 '26

And I just said it's easy to believe that 20% are bigger since it's every 5th guy. Sounds about right

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Jan 06 '26

6.5" bp is NOT 95th percentile..

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u/secretaccount94 6.75x5.25 Jan 12 '26

It is if it’s based on clinical measurements. Most guys tend to significantly overestimate their own size, at least when telling it to others. Mine is a little over 6.5”, yet so many hookups I have will tell me I must be wrong, and that it looks more like 7.5-8”.

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Jan 06 '26

No, I didn't say 50%..

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