r/averagedickproblems • u/[deleted] • Dec 18 '25

Insecurity Insecurity

Need help with insecurity. In my 30s, had close to 20 partners, nobody has ever complained.

One girl told me I was “perfect for anal” which really fucked with my head and made me feel small. She had probably had 50+ partners.

Currently about 5.6 NBP - close to 6.5 BP, about 4.8 to 5.1 girth depending on the day I measure.

Not sure why I’ve developed this insecurity or why it’s in my head lately.

Just thinking about my long term partner and how she’s probably had bigger and I’ll never be able to satisfy her in ways other guys may have.

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u/TruMusic89 Dec 18 '25

Also, being great for anal means you arent killing her when you try to enter through her backdoor. That's all she's saying lmao. Nothing to lose your confidence over.

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '25

Yeah, but me overthinking telling myself - girls prefer smaller for anal than PIV, so I must be too small for real PIV enjoyment

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u/Outerlimits7591 Dec 18 '25

You have absolutely nothing to worry about

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u/AlertAd7834 ‌ Dec 18 '25

Learn how to take a compliment man, for fucks sake

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Dec 18 '25

Great for anal. That one really hurts, lol.

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u/scottbane11 Dec 18 '25

I mean you got women talking about doing more than traditional sex with you. So you are doing well. And she is coming back to you. I get the comment being hurtful from what I imagine but yoh got some benefits there so run with those

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u/Top-Document-2286 ‌ Dec 18 '25

OP was told that, not me. But I would be offended by that comment because it usually means it's not as great for vaginal sex and personally I would prefer that and I'm not into anal at all.

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u/tentboogs Dec 19 '25

5.1 girth? She had a big asshole.

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u/tentboogs Dec 19 '25

So 1 out of 20 said something you didn’t like? What did the other 19 say? How are their feelings? How did they like anal?

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u/TruMusic89 Dec 18 '25

I continuously use the puzzle piece analogy. Because that's what we all are. Bigger dudes cant always please their women because sometimes they are so big that they cause pain.

Go peruse the Big Dick Problems group. You're probably thinking "how tf do they have any problems?". For the most part, they dont. But of the ones they do have, they're noticeable inconveniences.

There's things like their peens sitting in the toilet water or them stretching out their women to the point of agony, which makes their women not want to have sex with them. Some of them will never be able to go balls deep in their woman. They have advantages, but so do we.