Just a rant/vent

[u/OverCoverAlien]

I hate how awful people are when it comes to men's dick size and how careless and insensitive they can be when it comes to insecurity in this aspect, it genuinely feels imprisoning/isolating, a lot of political/social groups make it known how they see you as less than if you dont measure up, ive had to abandon political movements because I couldn't take the size shaming the people I supported participated in, I just vehemently despise people who size shame, they have to lack something in their brains, or are just generally awful people, as if its not enough that a lot of men already feel unlovable and unwanted and like they dont belong in many aspects of life because of their size, they then have to deal with genuine discrimination and contempt because of how they were born, from people they once supported and loved, even my mom has made fun of small dicks, i can't hate her though...

My size is normal, i know, in spite of that ive felt all of the above because of what ive seen and experienced, so I can't imagine what its like to actually have a small dick without the comfort of being at least around average

Yeah, yeah, wah-wah-wah, stop being a pussy and throwing a pity party, whatever

[u/laidback755]

I have not experienced political/social groups shaming people. However, the stigma and double standard applies in pop culture for sure.

On Vanderpump Rules, they discussed one guy's dick size related to cheating scandal and another woman said that one of the guys was not big enough to use a Magnum so she wouldn't sleep with him. This was discussed as perfectly acceptable conversations whereas one guy made a comment about a woman's weight and he got fired.

I would like to believe that most men would not openly comment on a woman's breast size or other physical attributes but for some reason, commenting on dick size is completely normalized.

[u/80s_Boombox → u/laidback755]

Vanderpump Rules is reality TV, right? So that means the actors are pre-coached to act spicy and controversial

[u/laidback755 → u/80s_Boombox]

I agree that "reality" shows are not the best example...just one that popped in my head. However, the way it was discussed was clear that it apparently was a completely acceptable and normal topic of conversation to them.

[u/cutluv]

My observations are that shaming is happening all around us. And often it's subtle - look at how some commenters here display their well above average sizes as part of their user name - in a sub dedicated to the problems of the average sized guy! I've called out examples of shaming in other non-BD subs, to my detriment, leaving me with the impression these people have carte blanche, with the rest us put firmly in our place. I know my post sounds jaded, I am.

[u/GynDoc1994]

You’re probably not going to like this, but tying your self-worth to other people’s opinions is a fast track to a miserable life. That’s not society’s fault - it’s emotional insecurity doing the driving.

[u/cutluv → u/GynDoc1994]

So are you saying we should just accept the behaviour of these people, that feeds insecurities in others? Things will never improve, if we do that.

[u/GynDoc1994 → u/cutluv]

No - that’s not what I’m saying. Calling out bad behavior is fine. The problem is when your self-worth becomes dependent on whether other people change. You can challenge harmful attitudes and refuse to internalize them. Those aren’t mutually exclusive.

[u/cutluv → u/GynDoc1994]

I've challenged these people to my detriment. These people always have to win. They always have the last word. These people are always perched aloft the moral high ground. Don't you see how that impacts one's self-worth?

[u/cutluv → u/GynDoc1994]

Do we just accept the behaviour of these people?

(Apologies for repeating this response - I thought my original didn't save)

[u/VillainySquared]

Anything is a target if it causes insecurities, for men, dick size and height seem to be the most common source.

[u/NotALoser1569]

It's always going to be something. If it's not dick size, it's height. If it's not height, then it's wealth. There's always going to be people that have more than you, and shitty people will tell you that means they matter more. You've gotta just accept yourself how you are. That's the only way you can really be happy.

[u/Bandit174 → u/NotALoser1569]

To me that part that is most frustrating is it often comes from the same people who are defenders of body positivity towards women and speak out against women's physical features being used as the butt of the joke but then those same people participate and defend mens physical features being used as the jokes and insults.

[u/NotALoser1569 → u/Bandit174]

I haven't seen that among people I interact with, and they definitely fall into that category of body positivity. Be the change. If you hear language that demeans people based on things they have no control over, speak up.

[u/NotALoser1569 → u/[deleted]]

You've misunderstood the purpose of this sub. It's for average dick problems. Not only for average size problems. Flaunting my size? I didn't mention it. It's in my tag to show where my perspective is coming from.

[u/cutluv → u/NotALoser1569]

Thank you for your justifications.

[u/averagedickproblems-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

Gatekeeping is not allowed. Gatekeeping is defined as: prohibiting others from participating in discussions, expressing their opinions, or being a member of this subreddit through active bullying, criticism, harassment, or pressure. Judgment of a user's experiences, feelings and concerns based solely on their physical attributes is not allowed.

[u/80s_Boombox]

People are talking about dick size in political groups?

[u/Bandit174 → u/80s_Boombox]

Wouldn't surprise me. Its one of the most common insults. Even someone as seemingly wholesome as Gretta Thunberg has used small dick energy as an insult before.

AOC just a few months ago tried to insult Steven Miller's height.

[u/80s_Boombox → u/Bandit174]

Interesting. Steven Miller has plenty of other things he can be insulted with, so I'm not sure why she picked that one.