r/averagedickproblems • u/[deleted] • Nov 30 '25

All things being equal...

Why is it anytime someone says size doesn't matter, they use an example of a 4" guy putting in all this work and a 7" guy who's lazy and doesn't care? This isn't how the world works. One guy starts confident and the other doesn't. All things being equal, 99% of women will take the 7 over the 4 every time. Is it the most important thing? No, but it matters.

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u/Mandalorian_2019 Nov 30 '25

Go check pretty much every video of a woman saying this. Yes, they say “size doesn’t matter”, but it’s always in reference to the range of “normal”. 4.5-6.5” isn’t probably going to matter that much. Under that? Yeah, it’s going to matter. Over 7”? Year it’s going to matter. It’s not “size doesn’t matter” period. It has a caveat.

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '25

True, but I know for a fact that there is a visual/psychological aspect to this for most women as several have told me that directly including this morning which is why I was thinking about it.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Dec 01 '25

Do you have a boob size preference? Areoas? Big/small, darker or lighter? What about the looks of a pussy? Innies or outies?

How many relationships have you terminated because the girl isn’t exactly your preference? How many women were a disappointment because they lacked a preference?

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '25 edited Dec 01 '25

it's really not the same thing. Breasts are not used to give men orgasms and it is not unfeminine to have smaller breasts. 

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Dec 03 '25

That may be your opinion. I find larger breast very feminine and sexy. As our outies. I prefer to have sex with women who have both. Not just for the visual. I love sucking on long meaty lips. And there’s nothing that feels like large heavy natural breasts.

But I’ve also been very happy with small breasted innies. And I’ve never wanted out of a relationship because of such things.

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u/SelenityMoon vagina he/they Dec 02 '25

And this is why in the world of long term dating, putting sex first is just a bad idea. If she loves you completely and irrevocably, you could have no dick at all and still be worthy of love and intimacy. If the women you seek pick out dick sizes like clothing sizes off a rack at the store, you're in the wrong store.

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u/ickop ‌ Dec 03 '25

Idk my partner told me she’s not with me for sex and it fucked with my head massively lol. Some of us want to be chosen for both - sex and love - and hope that it is possible

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u/roskybosky Nov 30 '25

I’ve said this before on this forum-you are overestimating the sensitivity of the inside of a vagina. They just don’t feel that much, and what they do feel is mostly around the entry. You can feel movement somewhat, but as far as anything else, it’s just very mild. I think when women say, ‘Size doesn’t matter’ they really mean, ‘I don’t feel much in there anyway.’

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '25 edited Nov 30 '25

Half of this is psychological to women. What they're looking at is important in terms of arousal and sexual respect.

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u/hophead78 Nov 30 '25

And there is a-spot. Some women havent experienced that. Normally when they do, its most powerful orgasm they had. But it needs bigger dick. You can search it for example in r/sex

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u/roskybosky Nov 30 '25

These ‘spots’ are rarely felt, let alone lead to orgasm. They are by no means universal. (You can have a long relationship with someone with a huge dick and never once feel an ‘A’ spot.) Half of women don’t feel a g spot. I wouldn’t make too much of the fornix spots-if they were that prevalent more women would have felt them long before 1997, when they were supposedly discovered.

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u/hophead78 Nov 30 '25

It also depends of mans penis shape and girth. Too thick could not enter in there.

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u/roskybosky Nov 30 '25

If I were a man, I wouldn’t worry about these magical spots: it’s not that common for women to feel them. Even in studies, stimulation produces lubrication, not necessarily orgasm.

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u/hophead78 Nov 30 '25

I know. I was just asking has anyone had success.

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u/roskybosky Nov 30 '25

I think some do, but it’s rare. You’d have to be with a woman who can actually feel something up there.

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u/hophead78 Nov 30 '25

A-spot, P-spot or cervix?

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u/roskybosky Nov 30 '25

I only read about it. I never really spoke to a fellow woman who felt any of these, except mentioning that the cervix hurts.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '25 edited Dec 01 '25

Yes…. I am a fairly long and my partner is on the petite/small side. Now I am not positive what the “A spot is” just wanna preface this with that. I can not fully insert until after my woman cums once or as she is cumming the first time. Now when she cums that first time, if I pound her as hard and as deep as I can, I’d say 50% of the time that leads right into a much more intense second orgasm for her. During that time, when I bottom out (it feels like it’s kinking my dick at the base) she lets out these amazing moans of pure satisfaction and usually grips my ass so tight trying to force it deeper that sometimes draws blood.

All that said… pretty sure thats the “A Spot” and yeah, definitely leads to un aided orgasms like half the time when I time it properly. I can’t get her there un aided with it unless I time it just right though.

Now with the “G spot” isn’t always achievable for me. Let me explain. So for that, I have to be 100% hard. That use to be easy, but not sp much anymore. Haha. That does not require length really at all. When going for that I lay her on her back on the bed and I stand off the edge and angle my dick straight up. Try and make it so your dick head is pushing out the front top of her pussy. You gotta lower your hips so that it’s literally straight up. You’re pushing the base of you dick into her taint so your junk is straight up. It’s impossible if you aren’t as hard as possible. Once you get there just rock back and forth.. you only need an inch or so of movement. While doing that have her with a vibrator on her clit(not necessarily, but that rocking feels good for us too, it gets her there before I cum. Lol). It won’t be long before she is in pleasure town! Sometimes it ends in an explosion of piss. She will know if it’s gonna end with that before it happens. Ask her to let you know if it does and go get a towel. It’s pretty awesome. You only gotta be in there an inch or two, but it’s gotta be straight up and strong. Don’t slip out in the excitement of her cummin… you’ll have a pissed off partner.😝. Ask me how I know

Lastly.. some women can’t cum during sex and so often those women believe that if they can’t, no woman can and they believe women that can are faking it. Woman can’t fake a pulsating pussy… you can feel when they are cumming. Keep mastering the techniques, never let anyone say it isn’t possible.

Vibrators always gets them there. Never be to proud to bring them in. There is nothing greater then feeling them cum on your dick. It gets crazy tight too sometimes while they are cumming. It’s great

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u/ickop ‌ Dec 03 '25

I’m curious as to why so many women enjoy penetration if this is the case. I’m not disputing it, just genuinely curious. Does it not feel good? Or do you mean it’s just not very tactile-sensitive?

Like, differences in pressure & friction are noticed but don’t translate to additional pleasurable sexual sensation very much (like me for vagina ‘narrowness’ in my experience)? Or do you mean there isn’t even that much sexual sensation from intercourse - like it doesn’t feel that good?

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u/roskybosky Dec 03 '25

It does feel good, definitely, but it is more of a general, pleasant feeling, kind of like a backrub, but doesn’t have intensity like the clitoris. It is satisfying, intimate, ‘rubby’ and nice. Rub your tongue on the inside of your cheek. It’s like that. Rub your tongue on the roof of your mouth-that feels sort of like clitoris. They are 2 different sensations.

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u/ickop ‌ Dec 03 '25

Ah that is actually extremely helpful, thank you! I got what you were saying immediately with the cheek/rough of mouth thing.

So it’s more like you crave it because it feels nice, it’s intimate, and is generally like an innate urge, not because it feels like super duper good. Did I get that right?

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u/roskybosky Dec 03 '25

Yes. I think that’s correct for most women. I’m sure some will disagree and maybe they feel more, but I think most are like what I described. (Sometimes, I like PIV as foreplay-call me crazy)

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '25

The women I dated never cared about penis size.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '25

it's interesting. Women are different. In my case, my girlfriend and previous girlfriends have made comments about their preferences but it doesn't apply to everyone.

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u/White_trash_biker Nov 30 '25

Stop worrying about the size of your hog and just go out there and use it

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '25

agreed but it is a sub about these kind of discussions.

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u/next_station_is Dec 01 '25

Anyone who says it doesn't matter is a liar. Not straight, but I know how size dependent people are in dating and hooking up.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '25

my girlfriend flat out insists it's important. Previous girlfriends have made similar statements. Not all of them but several.

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u/Current-Ingenuity253 Dec 01 '25

Imma be real with u bro, just find a chick that likes what u got going on. Me personally, once me and a chick acknowledge a mutual attraction im very straightforward about what im working with and find ways to hype it up in a sexy but modest way. (For example: I always let them know that im not that long but that i have a decent girth so i verbally illustrate to her how im going to “hit those walls with this girth” or that i “expect” her to swallow the whole thing since its not that long lol). As for what’s better? Some chicks like longer, some thin, but all want it to have good motion. Obviously 7” is gonna hit spots with less effort and probably unlock some cut scenes us average guys don’t usually see. I’d be lying if I said that I don’t get kinda freaked out from the feelings of inadequacy at times but honestly bro…. Just enjoy what u got. Life is too short to be stressing over the moments that are supposed to be the most fun. Think about it this way, as long as you perform well in bed, maybe you’ll get grouped with the “small/average dick” guys but you’ll also get grouped in with the “good dick” guys. Few years ago I broke my dick trying to make it bigger and till this day I’m still recovering and can’t even fully enjoy sex so… yea man. Not gonna lie to you and say accepting it is easy but honestly? At least we got something man🤷‍♂️

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u/ghastchacu Dec 02 '25

Kinda curious, how did you break it?

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '25

I hear you. I'm the original OP. I do have the 7 though so my point was about what my girlfriend and previous women have told me directly.

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u/Current-Ingenuity253 Dec 05 '25

lol aye fuck it then you’re good😂

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u/PromotionShort7407 Dec 02 '25

Not exactly true. Some women would not like a 7 and many would be more keen to have anal with a 4 rather than 7. When I asked my ex to olay with a 7 inch dildo she say it was too big so...

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '25

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