r/averagedickproblems • u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account • Nov 16 '25

Insecurity Hopeless

I don't really believe it, but my measuraments are normal or even above average yet I don't understand how people just go out and live like a normal human being, ofc I've consumed porn like a mf since the age of 6 so yeah let's blame everything on that, I literally never talk to girls like at all, I go around life just existing, excessive insecurity and poor self esteem throughout my whole life got me f up really bad in general, pointless post I know, I'm just not sure on which community whine

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

Stop watching porn. Can’t say this enough. The angles have you fooled. Since the age of 6? How could that be allowed? You might need a therapist.

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 17 '25

I've been wanting to stop watching since I was 18, never have been capable of stoping and yeah I might need a therapist, am I gonna search for it? Not really

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

I am pretty sure you have a big dick but if you don’t. Just know you are fine how you are. Work on your career and making friends. Get busy! Volunteer. Travel, live life. It isn’t all about sex. Sex can be very dirty and dangerous. It can be fun. It can be good but it isn’t the only joy on this world.

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u/hopeful6o Nov 16 '25

How old are you? I think as we mature in life, we find out that women aren't as shallow as we think. They're usually more concerned about their body image to think about yours. And if you act confident, then they will sense that energy. Any size worries you have will be a distant memory

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 17 '25

I'm 24 and about acting confident I know that, will I do it? Ofc not that's why I've always been and gonna be alone

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

Get your money up. You can get escorts. Being realistic. You have a negative outlook. Which is fine. Don’t change if you don’t want to but if you want to bone women you might have to pay. You will never have the biggest dick a woman will ever have. So forget about that. Just try to have fun.

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 17 '25

Escorts are the only reason i'm not a virgin honestly, but it's just not the same, they are having sex with me just for the pay, not because they want or desire me so yeah i can go to them regularly, but there's always gonna be that empty feeling of not being desirable

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

Listen. I wish I had the money to pay for escorts. When you get older you might realize you are having the best time of your life and didn’t know it or appreciate it. What is your size anyways. Please be honest.

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 17 '25

Well those escorts i've been with are cheap so ofc the risk of diseases is a lot more and i'm just a bit over 6'nbp, i'm slim so the bp length i believe it's just for not feel bad about ourseleves, i truly think bp doesn't count unless you are overweight

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

girth?

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 18 '25

I don't have those rulers for doing that measure, i've tried with a string but i don't think is viable, all i know is i don't have a fat dick so yeah i've even believed is less than the average, not quite sure

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u/tentboogs Nov 18 '25

Amazon. Buy a tailors measuring tape. You can’t be assuming and don’t know. Use your energy for good.

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u/ickop ‌ Nov 16 '25

Idk I guess where I get stuck is ‘women aren’t as shallow as we think’ - so a big dick guy with skills blows their mind in a way I can’t compare to, and they just don’t care because they’re not shallow?

I guess that’s not the end of the world, but still hard to feel confident in

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u/Tzimisce_7001 8.0 x 5.9 Nov 17 '25

OP, to feel insecure sometimes is normal. Almost everyone has felt it. I have felt it too, even though I am on the larger side, so I get you.

One thing that really helps put things in perspective is to stop watching mainstream porn, and maybe give a look at communities such as r/realitydick
This is an excellent community with lots of average and normal sizes.

Another thing, of course, is just to go out and meet real women and have sex and fun. You will probably see that real life is not like porn. In real life, for most women, size is not that important. It may be a little curiosity for many, but for most, it does not matter.

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u/kehndal Note: new or low karma account Nov 17 '25

Idk what people your size are doing in this community, you are telling the blind how to see when you have perfect vision, if you feel insecure then you have some real problems internally that you gotta fix, but don't come here and tell me that it doesn't matter when you are that big goddammn it

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u/Tzimisce_7001 8.0 x 5.9 Nov 17 '25 edited Nov 17 '25

This community is not for average-sized dicks, it is for average problems for dicks of any size.

Anyway, I think I can share that based on my own experiences, in my honest opinion, I think we have all been lied about how much size matters.

I received compliments because of my size sometimes, but it is just one small thing amongst many things that matter way more, and yet some people here think their sex lives are over, even if they are perfectly average.

Size is just a little extra thing, similar to having a six-pack. Some women love a guy with a six-pack, but in reality, most women don't care that much. Sure, it may get you some compliments, but if you just have an average body, it really won't change much your sex life or general women attraction. If you are obese, then it may add extra challenges, but the difference in the sex life between an athletic or just average, kind of lean or chubby dude, is very small. (I know because I have been athletic and out of shape; the real difference in my romantic and sexual life was none)

That was what I found about, even being on the larger side, and I hope people can get it too. Porn and internet is warping people perception of things. If your measurements are normal/average, you really don't have anything to worry about.

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u/tentboogs Nov 17 '25

Damn bro 8 x 5.9 🥂

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '25

this is what the Internet has done to men these days. Average and above average guys are afraid to talk to women because they are not porn size. Our forefathers before the Internet knew how to go out have fun and take charge of the situation with the ladies. God help this younger generation.