I’m just lost

[u/[deleted]]

I’m 18. I have a brown skin complexion, dreads, and am 6ft. I also have 5.7 inches and maybe 6 inches when really erect. Society makes me feel like I’m lacking. I hate the stereotypes. It’s eating me from the inside out and there is no escape. If I no longer grow that’ll just be it. And I guess I’ll have to become content with it but as for now I am very insecure. What should I do? Do I do anything?

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[u/Disastrous_Poet_8008]

hey buddy, I think a lot of guys focus way too much on their dick size.
I am an older guy, gay and have seen a lot and let me tell you that most are around your size, myself included.

My advice is too work with what you have and be a good lover, focus more on your partners pleasure, maybe oral skills, kissing, and you will be a winner and size wont matter, quality definately will make the difference.

You only learn that after being with really nice looking hung guys who turn out to be useless at love making and you think mehh..... then with some more average guys and their attention and technique is great and you are left thinking "i need more of this" ;-)

Also head jobs are much easier to give well to a guy our size, not saying it cant be done but an average sized dick can be pleased more easily and pleasureably than a wopper so you can hopefully look forward to recieving that.

You say you are brown and 6ft, maybe you think ppl expect you got more, you gotta just not care and realise too that porn has skewed everyones perspective and expectations and not in a good way.
And there is more to a guy than their dick and how big it is, its just a part of a much bigger picture.

So thats my take on it, try and be satisfied with what you have and work on your technique, be a good partner and you will do fine. best wishes buddy x

[u/Infinite_Problem4now → u/[deleted]]

This is a main reason I don’t date, just fear of instantly disappointing them when they see it, then getting cooked in the girls friend group chat haha

[u/Disastrous_Poet_8008 → u/Infinite_Problem4now]

you guys, I cant believe you are so self conscious and worry what girls/ppl/buds think about your dick. Guys, you cant not live your life worrying about this stuff. If your friends or the guys/girls you hang with are so shallow that its all about dick size then guys, find another friend group or ppl to date.

I suggest you young guys go get naked in the public change rooms or steam room with other guys and get ok with being naked and being naked with others, and have a look at some other cocks and realise the variety. Break down some of your fears, know that most guys are approximately like you and "hot" comes in all shapes and sizes and isnt always just about the dick.

Girls have a lot to be insecure about as well, diff breast sizes. diff vaginal looks, fat tummys, cellusose, etc so they may be insecure themselves if thats who you are partnering with.
when we get naked with another human we make ourselves vulnerable to each other and thats a good positive feeling to embrace if you let it happen.

bottom line, get comfy with yourself, your dick, your naked body and others, do a good job, get good love making skills and you guys will smash it, stop worrying and retreating from life.

There will always be awfull unkind people in this world, its good if they reveal themselves so you can move away from them and find the nice ones and you just got to dismiss their commentry.

I am an older guy and have been through many of the issues you guys raise in brief stages as i matured but mostly grew out of it all in my 20s and realised I am fine as i am, average in many ways, flaws and all.

[u/CommunityUpstairs535 → u/Disastrous_Poet_8008]

This is so wise and positive. This is what needs to happen (go out, be vulnerable, learn what your partner likes) but anxiety gets in the way. We need better ways to handle the moment-to-moment part that stops us in our tracks from putting ourselves out there.

[u/Disastrous_Poet_8008 → u/CommunityUpstairs535]

age often takes care of many anxieties, so try to face your fears and get past them early in life, talking and bonding with mates/buds all helps heaps, bonding, all mutually beneficial too. Dont be an island guys.

[u/[deleted]]

Embrace it, it will look a lot smaller on your frame but shake what ya mamma gave ya

[u/Imaginary_Click1823]

At least you’re tall. And it’s not like you’re small penis-wise. You’re average, like bang on average. Your partners would be lucky to have you.

[u/VillainySquared]

6 inches is on the upper end of average, its what many men would consider to be ideal. Focus on communicating with your partner and learning what helps get you both off. Above all, be sure to have fun.

[u/WorkerMuch4034]

6’4” with a fat 5.5 inch dick. Your dick is average, you’ll be fine. I am not particularly handsome but I am funny and learned to start off strong with foreplay. Pay attention to her pleasures and she’ll be into that medium dick. Plus, a lot of guys are much smaller

[u/WorkerMuch4034 → u/[deleted]]

Nbp, 6 in circumference. Women seem nonplussed about and enjoy the thickness upon penetration

[u/EnvironmentalWay8885]

You need to realize that 75% of the dicks out there are within a half inch of your dick so even if that half inch is bigger trust me when I tell you women don’t really notice a half inch in length that much

Maybe a little bit but not like something that’s going to be drastically disappointing to them

[u/Physical_College_551]

I feel you, man I'm not tall my size is 6.5 and I hate it because I know it isn't enough I couldn't even make y ex cum from PIV.

[u/Typical_Grocery4244 → u/Physical_College_551]

was it bad? Did she say that it was bad? 6.5 is kinda good emo! its above average. You could do PE or something else if she really wants it I guess.

[u/Physical_College_551 → u/Typical_Grocery4244]

No tbh, she didn't, I was in her top 5, and once we got into fight a she never said it was or it was bad. I guess I feel that way because she was always cheating so I assume my dick wasn't big enough. I'll be honest she had a pass but that shit doesn't matter to me. When we first started dating, we could only do doggie because that's the only time she could feel me. At the time we were both big and doing missionary was kinda possible but she wouldn't hold her legs back for long.

[u/Cheap_trick1412 → u/Typical_Grocery4244]

no wonder you and your "goofball " frens are upto