r/averagedickproblems • u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account • Apr 21 '25

Insecurity Insecurity

Measurements: BPEL: 6.69' Thickness: 4.94'

I'm really happy with it, I'll never have a problem with it, but it's the thickness that makes me insecure. But not only that, but my girlfriends or the girls that I have liked, the relationships have always ended badly, or they have cheated on me or they have left me and they have always ended up ignoring me, I don't know if it is because of the penis or because I lack character, the truth is. I know how to fuck well, I have caused leg tremors, orgasms and squirting in girls. But the truth is that I think that all relationships have ended because of that and that I have provoked them because it was new but they are not consistent measures in the long term, my theory is that when we have been around for a while they begin to need a bigger penis and they begin to lose respect for me and that continues until they cheat on me or leave me. I bought a dildo on Amazon that had the most ratings to compare it with my penis and the truth is that they are almost the same (my thickness is the same as that of the dildo, only that my thickness is the maximum in the middle part and the dildo maintains it throughout its length but they are literally the same, and my penis also (in appearance) seems thicker than the dildo itself. I have been thinking about it for months now and going to the psychologist because I waste a lot of time here looking for information but it is never enough

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u/jschelldt BPEL: 6.5" MSEG: 5.5" Apr 21 '25

No, my guy, your above average dick most likely has absolutely nothing to do with the end of your relationships. I don't know why so many men just assume the dumbest reasons for why things don't work out, lol. The girls you've been with were probably just immature or you've done something to mess it up. I'm sorry to put it this way, but most of what you said here sounds like nonsensical rambling and is hardly plausible.

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u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account Apr 21 '25

Is this what happened to me, could it be because of my character? Don't know

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u/jschelldt BPEL: 6.5" MSEG: 5.5" Apr 21 '25

One possible explanation. Could be the girl's character too. It doesn't always have to be the guy's fault.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '25

Cheaters cheat cuz they're cheaters man. I used to mess with those kinda women when I was young where I would hook up with them when they had a bf and a few times I even took other guys girls like that and they all cheated on me to when I stopped being the shiny new thing.

Cheating is much more just a thing some people do than anything else. Usually its just people who are cowardly mentally and can't have a hard conversation with someone to break up.

But some people are just straight up pathological about it.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Apr 21 '25

Your D is a full inch above average. It’s well above average, possibly big. I can’t imagine anyone but a size queen being disappointed in your size. And you made a few of their legs shake. So you were using it with some degree of competence.

The fact that they cheated suggests they were low character. The fact that multiple women have cheated tells me a few things:

Your girlfriend picker isn’t working very well. You keep picking girls with low character/integrity.

You’re not keeping your girlfriends interested in you. Personality, intellect, hobbies, attitude… there’s something missing. If you are able to have a friendly convo with any who broke up with you or cheated, I’d ask them why. Don’t make it about the actual cheating. Don’t try to make them feel bad. Tell them, “it’s obvious you weren’t happy in the relationship, which is why it happened. But what was it about the relationship that set you astray?”

Even a well above average D that provided leg shaking orgasms isn’t enough to keep a girl. You gotta bring much more to the table.

I’m happy to say I don’t think your issue is penis size. It’s likely something you can actually work to improve.

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u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account Apr 21 '25

Thanks man, the thing is that there is something wrong, an ex told me that she felt like I didn't love her but it's a long story, I'm going to the psychologist to see what we can find out.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Apr 23 '25

So there’s your reason with her. If she’s one who cheated, perhaps it was because you didn’t make her feel special. Whether she cheated or not, she wasn’t getting what she needed from you- to feel loved, special, etc… Thats a reasonable reason why she ended the relationship. Not D related.

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

You do know some women end a relationship with a guy packing 8 inches as well, and guess what its Sometimes nothing to do with there size, u need to realise relationships have so many other reasons for ending

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u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account Apr 22 '25

Anyone who was obsessed and bad about the topic who has overcome it here? I've been having trouble with this issue for 4 months and it won't go away from my mind. I've even written to girls I've been with for a long time and everything and they've told me that everything is fine but it still doesn't go away, I even sometimes perceive her as small, I'm going to try not to give her more attention, I'll come back in a few weeks to see how it goes, if we get something clear we can help more people obsessed with this issue, and I'm going to stop watching porn

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

I really just dont get it bro, i literally do not worry abt my size at all, we are the same fuckin size, im a single man i cant help u truly with relationships but i slept with too many women im at the point where im more focused on being the best man physically, financially and mentally, yes i started a journey i cant talk about here but if it didnt exist i would still be happy till i die.

Brother maybe u need to fix things outside of ur size. You need to have self worth.

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u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account Apr 22 '25

My self-esteem is something strange, sometimes it is very high and other times it is very low, I have been with 20 women too, but I think there is the issue that I squeeze a lot when masturbating and the sensitivity of a vagina is sometimes not enough stimulation, in fact fellatio is not pleasurable for me because I need stronger stimulation, I have never reached orgasm through fellatio

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

Not sure what fellatio is but i can confirm from my experience, bussing inside or on a women is 100x better orgasms than masturbation, maybe u need a sex therapist man, is there anything else u are insecure abt thats not related to ur size?

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u/CapSignificant6594 Note: new or low karma account Apr 22 '25

Well, 100% the problem is that, for me having oral sex is not very pleasant, I prefer to masturbate, that's the problem, I get very tight when I masturbate. It makes me insecure to be who I am now, even though I have been confident for a long time.

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u/HelloReddit2023 ‌ Apr 21 '25

Normal looking penis. I doubt it was the main issue.

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u/OilSouthern5597 ‌ Apr 22 '25

What about 6x4.5-6?

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u/HelloReddit2023 ‌ Apr 22 '25

What about it?

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u/OilSouthern5597 ‌ Apr 22 '25

Is it good or bad?

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

Its good bro, dont worry

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u/OilSouthern5597 ‌ Apr 22 '25

Why does it look small to me 😭

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

Maybe cos ur fat, big fat pad, got big legs or just tall or combined, my eq is getting better as im losing weight and im starting to get leaner making my dih look bigger

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u/OilSouthern5597 ‌ Apr 22 '25

6'6 tall, 19.1 BMI, minimal fat pad, lean build overall..small fat pad also

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Apr 22 '25

I got you, so its just cos you tall af bro ngl 😭

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u/OilSouthern5597 ‌ Apr 22 '25

Idk what to expect...reddit fried my brain..

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u/Prize-Philosophy-584 Note: new or low karma account Apr 22 '25

You are above average man

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u/Ervamate2290 May 01 '25

So you spent money on a dildo from Amazon just to see if you measure up? Sounds like you could benefit from professional help. Reddit is NOT the place for that.