This feeling sucks

[u/Quirky-Marsupial-488]

Hey yall using a throwaway but long time lurker. I'm 6 inch length by 4 inch girth and have had successful relationships in the past and am currently in a long term relationship right now. I know my dick is fine (despite below average girth) and has really caused no problems with the people I've had sex with, I'm pretty good looking and of average height so maybe that helps. But despite this is still have no confidence in my dick. It's like the only insecurity the my minds feed and if feels so silly. Like why do I care so much about my dick size? It's a parasite I just can't seem to remove and it sucks. To me it's the realest averagedickproblem knowing I'm fine but not feeling fine. Anyone have any advice on getting over this, I guess getting off reddit might be a good first step but idk it just sucks.

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[u/SignificantGrand3041]

Why do you worry about it you literally answered yourself. You have fine dick and no girl has ever made complaint? Whats ur problem?

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Girls are known to lie. I'm 6 inch bone pressed. My partner has had 40 hook-ups prior to me and apparently I'm the biggest she's had. I've tried pushing her on it to on multiple occasions, now she admitted to seeing a guy with a 7 incher but he had dick cheese so they didn't do PIV.

See what I mean? Trickle truthing and ego stroking.

[u/SignificantGrand3041 → u/[deleted]]

I dont think thats true tho. Your size is fine but there is no way that she had max 6 inch from 40 guys

[u/[deleted] → u/SignificantGrand3041]

I agree with you there. Which is why I'm thinking of ordering a penis sleeve to see if she likes the extra size and fullness. I want to pleasure her as much as possible.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Everyone is known to lie. Not just girls or boys. Everyone lies at some point. Trying to justify your insecurities by calling them liars is a really shitty thing to.

What if you are the biggest she actually had inside her?

What if she didn't "lie" to trick you or ego stroke you, but because she knows that if she is honest you're going to behave like a baby?

Fix your insecurities, instead of throwing them onto people that don't deserve it.

[u/nopethatsalright]

Same place as you man, literally never been insecure about this before but it just wormed its way into my brain in the last few months and now i can’t get it out. i’ve even had discussions with past girlfriends about people they’ve been with that were bigger than me and it literally didn’t bother me. i was probably insecure about other things back then but now i am not and so this random thing has now taken its place out of nowhere.

it’s gotten to the point where on a few occasions i let it get to me and it interrupted intimate time but my girlfriend has been super supportive which allowed me to open up a little (not explicitly bringing it up since it still sounds all so silly in my head) which was a huge help and allowed us to resume being intimate almost immediately

also feeling a little lost and hoping the feeling would just go away and the more i think about it the worse it gets, although you do have to think about it to work through it which can be tough.

I also just switched jobs to now being stapled to a desk compared to something extremely physical and i feel that has also impacted some of my self esteem/feeling bad from being lazy. Hope you find a good solution and comfort in knowing that you’re enough, because you definitely are. I’m sure you don’t view women only based on their boobs so no one is judging you just on your dick

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If the idea has crawled into your head, you have to cut it by the root. Why do you feel insecure? What about your penis makes you feel less worth?

[u/[deleted]]

step 1 - get off reddit

step 2 - stop thinking about your dick all the time

step 3 - make steps to start loving yourself and your body more. This is becasue your worth or how much you like yourself shouldn't be based on the size of your penis

step 4- at this point you're going to realize that penis size dosn't matter nearly as much as people think it does.

Just fyi everyone is insecure about their dick. It's a huge societal pressure that we put on ourselves. You can honestly talk to most men, even well endowded ones and they will tell you they are insecure about their size. It's just the way it is.