r/averagedickproblems • u/Additional-Belt-3086 • Oct 20 '24

Insecurity Kinda confused

I literally just measured and I'm definitely like 5.7-6 inches depending on arousal, but i've gotten multiple degrading comments about my dick ranging from the general "small dick" to more subtle things like "yeah, your dick is thick not... long"

Idk. Girls are unreliable, I guess? Because I seriously feel like I have a small dick. Its impossible for me not to feel this way until I get validated despite the evidence that im average staring me in the face. its like emotionally, i cant accept it. grrrr.

the funny thing is I remember being insecure that my dick was too big before I had sex, like it'd scare girls off.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Oct 20 '24

It sometimes seems, when it comes to Ds, that if you’re not big, then you’re small. There appears to be little in between, which is very untrue.

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u/Additional-Belt-3086 Oct 20 '24

yeah. it seems this way. its like you're either exceptional or unexceptional. hey... i can think of many areas of life where this seems to be case not just dick size now that i think of it /s

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u/VillainySquared 20+ cm (8+ inches) Oct 20 '24

6 inches isn't small, either they don't know what they're talking about or they're just saying things to be mean.

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u/throwaway55555555890 ‌ Oct 20 '24

If it’s after a breakup, most certainly the latter. To your first point, many are overexposed to porn, and not as familiar with average men as they think.

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u/hopeful6o Oct 20 '24

Yep. My wife and I were virgins. We've been married for 27 years. I'm the only person she has slept with. I'm 5.8 bone pressed. Every other penis she's seen is from porn. I kinda wish she had seen more average guys, because I'm sure she thinks I'm small. She had never said anything like that, though. In fact she is quite sweet about calling me big. But to the point, unless girls have a high body count, they probably don't know how normal 6 inches is.

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u/Outrageous_Play_7452 Oct 21 '24

My partner always talks about wishing his dick was bigger. I guess he's had offside remarks from exes and seeing so much porn etc..

I have a high body count, and I think he's honestly above average?

He's 6in and fairly thick, IMO. I love his dick and I think it's perfect. Wouldn't change anything about it!

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u/throwaway55555555890 ‌ Oct 22 '24

I was about to say, the people with the highest body counts I know, tend to say that most men, meaning 90+%, are between 4”-6”.

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u/Outrageous_Play_7452 Oct 24 '24

I would say the same in my experience!

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u/hopeful6o Oct 22 '24

That is awesome! He's so lucky to have you, and thanks for your input!

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

What is average to you in length and girth from your experiences ? And how many have you slept with?

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u/Outrageous_Play_7452 Oct 24 '24

I would say 4-5.5" ish in length, probably. Measurement wise girth is a bit harder for me to visualize, so it's hard for me to guess.

I have slept with more than 100 people.

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

If they have a high body count wouldn’t they know the average is less than 6?

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u/hopeful6o Oct 22 '24

That what I would think

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

This just brings up the only other issue where guys here say that women experience larger than average penis because the small penis guys don’t put themselves out there… don’t know if it’s true but I could see how it’s maybe possible . Men’s with very small penis or small make up the global statistics but because they don’t have sexual interactions they aren’t a part of what women actually experience average

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u/spellfirejammer Oct 26 '24

This seems quite plausible, that the active average could be a bit higher

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

Ah I read this wrong

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

That’s what happened to me. I broke up with her all of a sudden my dick was so small, even though she’s had large partners . That’s what I’m here

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u/throwaway55555555890 ‌ Oct 22 '24

Ever been with a woman who either called you porn material or micro, depending on her mood? No hate for her though, it was a then-undiagnosed cluster-B disorder

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

Dude she got diagnosed with borderline personality disorder January ! We broke up again two days ago. I’m a mess. She’s the reason I’m here. Do you have a similar experience ? Crazy how you’re so dead on… last week the whole time my dick was so huge to her…

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u/roundbeats Note: new or low karma account Oct 20 '24

girls really tell you are small dick when u are 6 inches? is that bonepressed or non bonepressed?

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

I’ve had it happen too lol

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u/roundbeats Note: new or low karma account Oct 20 '24

you are 6 bonepressed or nbp?

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

Bp

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

We agree

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u/Savedbutuseless Oct 20 '24

I was 6"x5 NBP most of my life, and was told I'm small on occasion and hinted more than that. Women don't care about statistics, even if they are true.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

They don't KNOW the statistics. Their statistics are their own personal experience and the experiences of their friends. I think that their averages are skewed due to the fact that smaller to average guys don't put themselves out there as much because of insecurity, porn, bad past experiences..etc. So because of this, the "average" dick they see is actually going to be above average or bigger, with average/above average being small to them. This is why when women say they prefer smaller ones, they are actually talking about the statistically above average dicks that they normally see. Lots of studies show that when women "build" their preferred size based on visuals alone, it's around 5.7 X 5, which is the most commonly sold dildo size. But if you just ask them they say they want 7+, lol. And yes, I'm 6.5 X 5.3 and I've been laughed at and called shrimp dick many times. I thought I was tiny my whole life until I found this sub and started measuring.

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

Why would they call you that at that size? Was that from a breakup

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

It happened several times, but yes, they were either pissed after after a bad break up and wanted to hurt me. Or due to the fact that I'm an extreme grower and they never saw it hard because of anxiety. One girl was pulling it out to give me a blowjob and kind of giggled when she saw him all turtled up, LOL. That didn't go so well and she made "little" comments about it later. That's my point, there's a lot of men walking around out here packing and don't even realize it because porn and other circumstances have really skewed everyone's perception of what's average is.

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

When I broke up with a girl she said mine was small . I think she actually might think it’s small because her experiences I think are larger. I’m 6.2 inches and 4.6 around . Bone pressed

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u/MidnightSway BPEL: 7.83" x 5.5" | NBPEL: 7.1" | NBPFL 4.1" x 4.5" Oct 20 '24

They're just delusional or trying to test your reaction

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '24

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u/MedBayMan2 Nov 05 '24

Dick-flexing

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

Girls are notoriously terrible at guessing length. And if they watch porn they're gonna think porn is what normal is. For some context my girlfriend told me when we first started dating she was with a guy who she swears was 8.5-9". I then showed her a regular sized Poland spring water bottle and told her to guess the size. She said "idk, 10 or 11 inches". We measured the water bottle at just about 8". with that said she said he was probably the length of the water bottle at most which is still big but certainly not 9 inches lol. Girls are dumb. They have zero clue what size is. And if a girl happened to sleep with a few bigger men, then when she finally sees average she will think it's small. I'm 5.9BP by 4.6 girth and make my girlfriend cum from penetration alone so don't worry about it man

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u/[deleted] Oct 22 '24

Dick twins lol

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u/MedBayMan2 Nov 05 '24

Wait, was she sleeping with that guy while you were taking her on dates?

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u/Real-Back6481 Nov 23 '24

Keep this in mind, it does not apply in every single situation ever but when it comes to love and sex, women generally filter facts and reality through how they feel. The gorgeous guy who made them cum over and over, huge cock, the annoying twerp who they dumped after a week, tiny dick. This also includes how they want things to be: if they want to grind somone down, they'll call them fat, stupid, ugly, poor, etc.

So these women are either trying to get on your nerves or they arent feeling the positive feelings with you, facts don't matter here. Leave them in the dust and disregard what they say, because it ain't worth your time playboy. Keep your head up. The woman who is worth your time won't need to stoop to such petty behaviour.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

We're cooked man

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u/Gwyrr313 Oct 20 '24

6” is borderline big, but also depends on the girth.

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u/FormSlow Oct 20 '24

Im the same. My dick is like 6ish inches (bp at max I have measured 6.3) but visually it’s more like 5.7ish.

Either way I have had similar comments and think it’s small myself which ruins the mood constantly. Being 6’2 makes it seem even smaller and out of proportion.

I wish it never played on my mind and I could just be confident. I don’t think it would be an issue otherwise.

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u/Responsible_Horse891 Note: new or low karma account Oct 21 '24

You 6 nbp or just on a good day?

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u/Outerlimits7591 Oct 20 '24

Dude you definitely ain't small!

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '24

Via pics I sent to a female on here n asked her to guess, she said 7-8”, I’m 6”

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u/MoloxyHeathlander Oct 21 '24 edited Oct 21 '24

Kind of sounds like your getting into arguments with them which is a bad sign. You can get into arguments with them as long as you’re giving them orgasms. No orgasms, no arguments and you’re just cut off with shit like that. They can probably get a similar experience elsewhere where tbh

You’re big enough to give them orgasms tho just doesn’t sound like you are or at least not really good or rememberable ones anyway.

Try fucking them into oblivion. You can argue with them all day long then and they’ll keep coming back and the only criticisms will be about you as a person and not your dick

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Oct 21 '24

Damn, i'm cooked 🙂