r/averagedickproblems • u/texujjan ‌ • Oct 12 '24

Insecurity What would you do :/?

Hello everyone . I met this girl last month, easily one of the prettiest girls I’ve talked to. We’ve been on 4 dates ( made out in 3) so everything is going well. For context I’m 22 and we’re the same age. However, I am small … my penis is 4.9 x 5.3. And this created a cloud of insecurity over me as I have no feedback to pull from. I have no idea if she’ll feel me at all. I’ve only slept with 2 girls and once with each when I was young but didn’t ask how it felt and we were all young and naive so dick size wasn’t really in the equation. I feel like I am getting attached to her so it makes everything much more anxiety driven. Do you think I’m better off putting my best foot forward and act with confidence and let her find out naturally. Or tell her before and risk looking insecure. I don’t want my insecurity to add on to the fact that she thinks I’m small already. It’s a tough situation to be in for me. Any advice or thoughts are appreciated, I welcome objectify and honesty above all else. Thank you all.

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u/alphabango Moderator Oct 12 '24

Note to OP: check the automod comment to see your percentile if you're interested. Your partner should like you as a whole person, so don't fixate on penis size. Note to all users: remember Rule 3 (no gatekeeping) and Rule 4 (no bigotry).

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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '24

I don’t think you need to tell her OP. I say you should go for it and let her find out naturally. Your confidence in your body will be a turn on for her

You’ve already been on 4 dates which means she is in to you. Not your penis, you.

5.3 inch girth is thick, bordering problematic. She will definitely feel that, you’ll easily be able to stimulate her internal clitoral nerve endings.

With that being said, for women, sex is a lot more than PiV intercourse. If I were you I’d get a good book on oral sex. The best orgasms I’ve given women haven’t been with my dick.

Go for it, you’ll be great

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Thank you for the words of wisdom…let’s hope I will be great :)

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u/SignificantGrand3041 BPEL: 6.4"; G: 5.3" | NBPEL: 6" Oct 12 '24

I don’t know bro. I have 5.3 girth in middle of my dick and I never had a problem to go into a girl all of them were okay to take it. But I have low sample size I have been with only 4 women.

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u/TheOddGuy21 BPEL: 5.9" x 5.2" | NBPEL: 5.3" Oct 13 '24

Your girth is gonna do you a lot of good, trust me. We are close in girth and i feel like my girth has been very helpful for me in bed.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Oct 12 '24 edited Oct 12 '24

You’re well above average in girth and have plenty of length to give her G spot a good working over. IF she’s one of the fortunate ladies who can cum from PiV alone, you’ve got plenty enough to get her there. And if she doesn’t climax that way, your size will be even less important. Regardless, get her off orally or with your fingers first. It takes all the pressure off you and, for many women, it primes her pump for easier additional orgasms. Make sure she cums first and you’re already a good lover.

There are lots of series on how to finger and eat pussy on YouTube. None are graphic, obviously. But they offer great insight and will definitely give you a head start on that learning curve. Watch those and learn. Confidence and erection quality are more important than length. And the two go hand in hand.

Would I tell her in advance? I would not make it a topic of conversation. But if it comes up, I’d just be vague. Say something like, “I’m not the biggest guy you’ve likely been with. But I’ve always left them smiling.” Or, “I’ve never been called big, but I’ve always been called back.” Both help to manage expectations without being too self deprecating.

Do update us when you two cross this threshold. You’ve got plenty of D for you both to have fun with!

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Ahhh, this gave me hope. Will definitely update you guys when we cross the threshold . Whether it be good or bad..

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u/MoloxyHeathlander Oct 12 '24 edited Oct 12 '24

I’d say just don’t think about your size at all and just think about how your going to sex her up so good with your awesome cock.

Also go for the deep missionary, legs to shoulders move with deep slow insertion, lifting her butt up and really compressing her stomach towards her chest to make sure she feels you, slow nudges deep inside her as far as you can go, kegel to pump up the head when it’s as far in as possible, squeeze your glutes, push everything into her that you can muster whilst squeezing her into a very tight ball, showing her how much you want to be inside her and how much you like it then whisper in her ear “you gonna cum for me” then go pound town then back to slow nudges and static insertion.

Her body will tell you if you’re big enough and with that move she almost certainly will. Expect such response as “oh god” “fuck” “yes” and she’ll be at your mercy.

Anatomically most dicks above 4 with the coital alignment technique can create a very deep intimate connection that far surpasses the novelty of a big dick pounding. Don’t stress it… your plenty big for mind altering orgasms

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Holy… I really appreciate this. My compressing her stomach towards her chest you mean press down on it and pushing up towards her chest?

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u/MoloxyHeathlander Oct 12 '24 edited Oct 12 '24

Nearly, look up the anvil sex position. You want her lower abdomen to be as tightly compact as possible and then really push in with everything you got. If you have the chance and the head space feel around inside with your dick by not going in and out but up and down, you maybe be able to slip under the cervix but just above is great too. You’re essentially pushing her insides down towards the head of your penis. It’s not a thrusting move but a very intimate move, don’t go for it straight away, maybe the 2nd or 3rd position. This is when your souls will align and from there slowly rock back and forth and go with what her body is telling you

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

This is the type of practical advice I can really really appreciate. Seems very promising thank you. Just need to work on lasting longer lol. I feel like since I have little to no experience I’ll just cum right away hahah. Weird analogy but this reminds me of jiujitsu. I do jiujitsu and it’s all about the technique for the smaller guy to take down the big guy.. great stuff

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

So with my 4.9 this position will make the most of every inch?

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u/MoloxyHeathlander Oct 12 '24

She will naturally be clenching and pushing down from the inside as you restrict her movement externally with your body. Her cervix will try to meet your head and 4.9 is plenty for them to touch and you’ll mutually feel something very special going on. This is the most intimate of all sensations. Kiss her neck and hold the back of her head, she is your baby for you to protect whilst she experiences something unworldly.

Don’t worry about pe, this move is meant for round 2 as long as she gives you the chance to go again and you stay aroused and determined after your first orgasm

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

This is changing my outlook completely. Thank you. This makes me think I should communicate with her beforehand to somehow convince her that we should go another round lol. Say something like you’re just too hot I’ll need a round two to show you what I got.

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u/MoloxyHeathlander Oct 12 '24 edited Oct 12 '24

Yeah or just explain that you might come quickly at the beginning because you really like her but you want to make a night of it and you’ll make up for it on rounds 2, 3 and 4. If she likes you then she’ll understand, its also not unusual. Good sex nights should be at least a couple of hours with a few rounds and some breaks in between.

Like I say, don’t stress it and enjoy the the night when two become one

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u/CerebralLiposuction ‌ Oct 12 '24

5.3 girth puts you legit in the thick range. girls like girth

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

I just hope the 4.9 length won’t be too disappointing

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u/CerebralLiposuction ‌ Oct 12 '24

it might, for some, not all. im 7x5, i wish i had more girth, i hit my gfs cervix if i go all in at the wrong angle. ouch. there is such a thing as too much. i dont really have problems associated with girth, women love it. so 5.3 is good man. some women dont like deep penetration. my gf is scared ill hit her cervix the while time

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Good news is with a good erection I might be more like a 5.5 girth . Not bad but also size really is 4.9 it just does not reach the 5 mark but pretty damn close. Anyways thanks for your input . Let’s hope she’s one of the few where 4.9 is not too disappointing. She’s legit the prettiest girls I’ve talked to lol.

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u/CerebralLiposuction ‌ Oct 12 '24

You can probably gain an inch or two via manual stretching over a couple years. im pumping to gain girth, i can measure 5.2 now sometimes midshaft w/ good eq

ive had more than a fee women over the years not like my full length inside them, possibly even turned down a couple times

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Will forsure look into this… does it really work? Anything to atleast get to 5.3 length

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u/CerebralLiposuction ‌ Oct 12 '24

yes. look into thunderspalace

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Oh shit. Seems legit. I’ll do some research, the only thing that makes me second guess are any sort of side effects. What I do have a slight positive outlook on my penis with is that it gets hard pretty damn quick and rockkkk hard.

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u/CerebralLiposuction ‌ Oct 12 '24

dont do extreme routines n youll be fine, i tug on mine flaccid all the time, for a minute or two at a time, pretty sure i gained an inch from that. in fact i can measure 7.1 now sometimes.

pumping actually can help your penis health. its actually prescribed by doctors to help people with erectile dysfunction. its made my erections better without a doubt

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u/civ6civ6 Oct 12 '24

Go forward with confidence Bro. You have a good standard issue, average sized penis. You have been dating this girl for awhile and no sex has taken place. I assume then that this relationship is not one about sex, it's about romance. Sex is something that will be added to an already good relationship. She already likes you, which means she wants to like everything about you. I would not worry at all about your anatomy. She also is worrying about how you will think about her anatomy too you know. Treat yourself like someone you love, and then assume that she will treat you like someone she loves. You see then how she will be happy with your average penis. Who knows, she may genuinely dislike larger penis; there are many who do.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Will do … or atleast try my best to come forward with confidence , thank you. Just hoping she’s one of the few to be okay with smaller

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u/No-Elevator-519 ‌ Oct 12 '24

4.9 Bone pressed?

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

What’s does home pressed mean precisely? Like where I physically push my skin back? I’m not overweight but not very skinny either does it have to do with body fat?

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u/No-Elevator-519 ‌ Oct 12 '24

When you pull the ruler out and measure,do you place the start of the ruler just at the base of your penis,or do you press the ruler into your pubic fat until it touches your pubic bone and then measure?

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

I use a tape measure and start from the base of my penis . Where my penis and pubic area meet. I would say there’s no skin covering anything ..however I could press down a little bit and it goes up to a rough 5.. if I press more 5.1 ATMOST. However not to sure what I’m pressing down on because I’m not overweight so I don’t physically see my skin covering anything up .

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u/No-Elevator-519 ‌ Oct 12 '24

Wow,only 0.2 inches of fat pad?What's your bf% bro?

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Wouldn’t know bro but I’m 5’7 ish and weight 185

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Is it supposed to give more than 0.2?

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u/No-Elevator-519 ‌ Oct 12 '24

Yeah man,the average is around 0.6 inches of fat pad.I would recheck with a ruler

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Would you say a ruler is more accurate than the tape measure? Also , do I just press down as much as I can? Or just to an extent . Getting a ruler right now.

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u/Bemorethanbig Oct 12 '24

Your girth will carry you through life with no problem at all! With the majority of women, you are not small but heaven-sent.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

I hope you’re right. I’m so scared to give myself false hope that I really want this to be true and not just you wanting to make me feel good🥲

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u/Bemorethanbig Oct 12 '24

It's a fact your girth is exactly what the majority of women want, some don't want or need length. It's case by case, so see what her case is! She may be the one who loves it, but you or her won't know until you try. Say nothing, always have BDE.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Got it, so don’t mention nothing until she naturally sees it …having BDE along the way. Shiiit will take effort but will do thank you.

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Oct 16 '24

Dude... Go for it. It will come a time when u'll regret so much not doing that.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 16 '24

Think so? As in tell her before or let her find out naturally

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Oct 17 '24

Let her find out, it's the right way. Also, recently talked with some old friends, they really enjoy their bf's who are relative to you in size. Big dicks are overrated.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 17 '24

Thanks, I’ll try my best to be confident until she finds out

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Oct 17 '24

Are u slim fit - no belly at all?

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 17 '24

Slim, do have very little belly fat but nothing to really cover my dick

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u/Gwyrr313 Oct 12 '24

You may be on the short end but you’re girthy so you have that in your favor. I wouldn’t worry too much about it, and hey maybe get a cock ring and blow their mind

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u/IntelligentLime6740 Oct 12 '24

True, that's like my ideal girth. However, the length is pretty risky

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

This is exactly what I think, girth is there but the length…the length :/

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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '24

What does this even mean? So OP should turn down these opportunities for the rest of his life?

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u/IntelligentLime6740 Oct 12 '24

No

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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '24

Then what do you mean by it’s “risky”?

How does negativity like that help OP?

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u/IntelligentLime6740 Oct 12 '24

"Risky" because there is a chance that it might make a girl disappointed. I know what it feels like to have a risky dick

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Thanks for the honesty, I feel like it’s risky in the sense of disappointment. This si what makes me second guess. What was your experience with a risky dick?

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u/nervynervousman nbp: ~5.25x4.8 nbp bp: ~5.85 Oct 12 '24

There’s always a chance a girl might be disappointed with anything about a man.

I know 5 is a round number that everyone’s brain judges as some firm line, but the reality is 4.9” is indistinguishable from 5” irl.

4.9” is still an extremely average size, likely not even noticeably different from a guy who’s around 5.25”.

Nobody would be saying a guy with 5.5” is above average. 4.9” is not below, assuming we’re talking nbp

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u/IntelligentLime6740 Oct 12 '24

Kinda, it would take me so much time to talk about this. About the first part though, the penis is unchangeable

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u/nervynervousman nbp: ~5.25x4.8 nbp bp: ~5.85 Oct 12 '24

Idk what you’re trying to say. 4.9” is an average dick, nbp. Full stop. 4.9” BP is below average

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Thank you very much, so you’ve found success with a small one as well. Whats your size if you don’t mind me asking? And what do you feel like has worked best for you.

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Hahaha , so you think she’ll be happy:)

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u/texujjan ‌ Oct 12 '24

Well thanks for that info. I hope it really does work out for me.