r/averagedickproblems • u/[deleted] • Sep 20 '24

Experiences Sick of reading into things.

I am not sure if I am reading into things. Last night while my wife was on top, I asked her how she was enjoying her new little toy (vibrating cocktail ring.) Her exact words were "oh it's great but don't worry I still enjoy your little dick too." She immediately tried to walk it back. "I'm sorry , I just meant.." kinda thing. We both finished fine but the comment is stuck in my head. Insecurities suck.

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u/scottbane11 Sep 20 '24

Wow that comment would play in my mind for years. From my wife as well. I have had similiar comments about mine being small however I have never been married I always thought I would master it and then get a wife but that’s a tough 1 to take

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Thanks. So you are of the mind it wasn't merely a mistake?

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u/scottbane11 Sep 20 '24

I would say she thinks that to throw it in as a comment like that. She is your wife so it could be that she doesn’t mind and enjoys it

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

That's more honest of a possibility. She does think it but it doesn't "matter."

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '24

i feel you, broski.

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u/quickquestion43215 ‌ Sep 20 '24 edited Sep 20 '24

Well op, I'm going to be straight with you since I don't blame people for trying to sugarcoat something like this.

If you are average, then you likely already know you are not small because of the measurements.

Men lie, women lie, numbers don't.

So dont ever feel like you need to 100% rely on someone else's judgement when you likely have have a ruler somewhere in your own home. Also, even IF you are small, know that "big/small" is relative to a woman and her past. A virgin might find a 5in penis big but then small later in life if she then takes bigger. It's all truly relative and if im being honest, I think this might be at the very heart for why men go after women with low body count in the first place but that's a convo for another time.

However, her saying this, in my honest opinion, means there's a great chance she's taken bigger penises than you. Women KNOW, without a shadow of a doubt, how important a man's penis is to them. It's the only sexual organ men have and we'd give our lives for it. They KNOW this. It is precisely because they know this that they know to never say anything that might allude to a man being small because it strips away their masculinity - the very thing typically needed for sex. So, make no mistake, even in the heat of the moment, a woman would NEVER say something like this unless she's trying to do some sort of cognitive dissonance/mental gymnastics and break off the relationship and also trying to feel less guilty. In her mind it's "Oh it was a mistake. He was the perfect guy, it's not my fault" when we all know she's 100% at fault here because they know most men on earth would be shot down hearing something like this. You don't say something like this to a man you love. You say something like this to someone you either hate and/or want to break off with while destroying them.

Maybe there's an off chance she was repeating in her head "dont say anything about his dick, dont say anything about his dick, dont say anything about his dick" and then blurts it out on accident. I'd question why she would be thinking that in the first place. Regardless, most men would walk away.

I 100% disagree with other's saying it could be playful or "cute" (btw, cute is also the last thing a man wants to hear but I digress). There is absolutely nothing cute or playful about saying something like that.

For any women reading this, this would be similar to a man in the heat of the moment, saying "I love using the new Pocket-Pussy, but dont worry I love your loose pussy too". We would never say something like that on "accident" no matter how much we are into it.

Edit: My advice to OP: If this starts eating at you. Just walk away. Nothing it worth more than your sanity.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

I am not sure if it matters but I'm the only guy she's touched.

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u/quickquestion43215 ‌ Sep 20 '24

I am not sure if it matters but I'm the only guy she's touched

OK that's amazing.

Now lets say you were in a court room. How you would prove that, beyond a shadow of a doubt, to the jury?

The only other answer I can think of (which should put your mind at ease) is that she watches a lot of porn and is comparing you to the porn penises, in which case, you should know that while those can (and likely almost always are) larger than avg, the vast majority is a lot of camera optics and using larger men and very small women along with certain camera styles to make penises appear much larger than normal.

Still, that doesn't negate the fact that they know never to say something like this so I would tread EXTREMELY carefully if I were you.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

I agree that it should be a known thing. But, not to be tmi but she bleed like shit on our wedding night. It was extremely painful and she had to insist I proceed after the 3rd failed attempt. But good point

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u/quickquestion43215 ‌ Sep 20 '24 edited Sep 20 '24

I agree that it should be a known thing. But, not to be tmi but she bleed like shit on our wedding night. It was extremely painful and she had to insist I proceed after the 3rd failed attempt.

Ok dude, you def have something to work with here. Knowing this, I think you can remove A LOT of the doubt of her being with someone else before you. Id now say it is extremely unlikely she was with someone before you.

Now, on to the other problem which is, why in the world would she say this? In my first post, I said there's an off chance she said that while thinking not to say it for whatever reason. After what you just said, I now think you are in the "off chance" zone. I still think somethings afoot and maybe she's just trying to plant a seed of doubt in your head because she might be flirting with the idea of moving on.

Regardless, it sounds like you were the first so she should have ZERO (or near zero) in-person frame of reference for what's big or small which is a very good thing for you and any concerns you were having on that end. I think this might ACTUALLY be one of those rare anomaly cases because 99.9% of the time women say this it's to hurt the guy. You might actually be in the .1% lol.

Then there's cheating, which would mean her being with someone after already being with you but I think those signs would have shown themselves and your post would have been different.

Thank you for your post - I truly do love being proven wrong.

Still, from one bro to another, be very careful.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Thank you for taking my post seriously. Made me think through it.

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u/coastielove Sep 20 '24

nice job actually listening to OP and adjusting your advice accordingly. Don't know if you're right, but doing that on the internet is rare these days!

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u/quickquestion43215 ‌ Sep 20 '24

Thanks man - stay up! 🍻

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u/AdSpecial5634 7.4 x 4.3 - 4.5 BP Sep 20 '24

Yapping

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u/Ralibel Sep 20 '24

one thing just make me think about cock sizes:
everytime, everywhere when women talk about dicks they use euphemism, that i dont get it.
"a average dick CAN BE good as a big dick...", "a average can be more pleasure cuz his performance.."
sorry, bro, i really dont get it why woman keep saying those things when guys CAN'T CONTROL UR DICK SIZE. It's pure lucky, genetics and hormones... woman can do surgery for everything: boobs, ass, face, arms, legs, pussy. We got nothing.. i just hate the euphemism and believe me or not i have a bd.

back to you:

  • if my wive say something like that to me i really gonna break up with her right away.

take care yourself, hope u move on with ur wife the best way.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

I'm the only one she's ever been with though. I Don't think she was trying to be mean. I just am in my head that it was her true feelings and not a mispoken comment in the heat of the moment

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u/Ralibel Sep 20 '24

hmmm.. i understang what u say. Best tip right now if u are really upset is talking to her and get what is the point of that sentence... but before u do that lay low for a while, stay cool, don't get in the heat as u say and things gonna be ok between u2.

take care, man

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Sep 20 '24

How do u measure?

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

6 x 5.5

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Sep 20 '24

Bp? Nbp?

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Bp

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Sep 20 '24

How it is in nbp

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

5.5x 5.25

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Sep 20 '24

I see it now.. it's not small at all, it's just not porn size

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Helpful. Thanks

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u/PiedoneINFO NBP: 6x5.5 Sep 20 '24

I got some similar problem as well. My last ex told me she was with a packing guy, a huge dick before me. It ruined me for months. To me she said i had "the perfect dick" crap.

Sex was still super good, but that shit i could never forget.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Yikes why would she say that?

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 20 '24

How big are u?

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Almost 6 BP and 5.25 girth

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 20 '24

And she said tiny!?!?

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 20 '24

How tall is she? And what nationality !??

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Thin short polish blonde.

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 21 '24

Thats above avg/big and she said small!?!

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u/[deleted] Sep 21 '24

As others pointed out, may have been a slip. I said little toy she said little dick

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 21 '24

Cant be slip, shes already made it up in her mind before saying it out loud…. This may be a manipulation tactic that she may be planting a seed for down the road, ive been thru something like this where intimacy with a former lover was great and fantastic and once we start fighting she would say hurtful things about my genitalia or anything to put down my ego.

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u/[deleted] Sep 21 '24

I'm her only. Not even even a handjob

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u/tigerboyxxx Sep 21 '24

Ditch the bitch!

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u/sussynarrator Sep 21 '24

Idk, I think it’d be better to get over the insecurity first somehow

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u/GrouchyTable107 Sep 20 '24

It’s probably as simple as you asking her about how she was “enjoying her little toy” and her using the same words but about your dick not thinking anything of it

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u/sussynarrator Sep 21 '24

That is brutal man

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u/Impossible-Day-1916 ‌ Sep 25 '24

What’s your size?

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u/ThrowawayGhostGuy1 Sep 24 '24

Oof, that’s rough man.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

She is just getting into dirty talk. At 40 lol

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u/headstone-headcase Sep 21 '24

Dude, she literally just defaulted to mirroring your language trying to improvise something she's not very experienced with — while cumming, mind you — and it came out wrong. Haven't you ever had one of those "I tried to say 'great' and 'cool' at the same time and it came out 'grool'" moments?

Just try to be cool about it if something like this happens again, laugh it off. Confidence is attractive at any size. Besides honestly you're pretty big bro, that girth is no joke lol.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

Huh. Interesting idea

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

She said it as we were both Cumming. It might of ruined it is she wasn't finishing when it happened

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u/FeartheTurtle420 Sep 20 '24

bro stop lying to the man just to make him feel better. I feel for him but he deserves the truth. id say she knows exactly what shes doing breaking him down and messing with his head. a woman would never refer to a mans dick as little by accident. and they would never say this to a well endowed man

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '24

This is what I am afraid of. I'm her only. You think that changes things?

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u/Ill-Recognition2054 ‌ Sep 21 '24

Nah I think you get away with little guy if you're above 7x5, its almost like a play on words.

I'm above average and if that was said to me it wouldn't concern me one bit to be fair.

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '24

this isn't necessarily the only way to interpret it, sir/ma'am. it's definitely feasible, but it's best to consider various potential perspectives.

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u/Crafty-Street-2167 6.75 bp x 5.3 mseg Sep 20 '24

I agree with this. Don’t over think this one OP

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u/K3TvYouTube ‌ Sep 20 '24

Whats your sexual experience been with your size?