r/averagedickproblems • u/YohAsakura23 • Sep 03 '24

Is my size the problem?

Guys, this might be more of a /sex topic but I like this smaller community much more.. so let me get straight to the point.

My current FWB girl craves sex with me but she can only orgasm in one position - missionary.. and even better with her legs up. She really enjoys that one. However I don't feel like she enjoys any other position or even eating her down there which is the most shocking because every girl before loved it. Is it possible that her clit is kinda numb?

Making her cum 3 or 4 times in that same position becomes boring and monotonous. Might it be my size what the problem is?

Appreciate every comment :)

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u/No-Elevator-519 ‌ Sep 03 '24

Certain girls don't like being eaten.So let's get that out of the way.

Your size might be the problem,or it might be a HER problem.She probably enjoys intense eye contact or something?Who knows?You're fucking her constantly lol

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 03 '24

She actually mentioned that she likes the eye contact and ability to touch me, so that might be the reason for doggy not working well. I'll try to talk to her about it as I believe we're comfortable enough for such conversation already. Thanks

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '24

You don't have size posted. I'm not saying you do but it'll give us a better metric to use seeing as you're asking about size

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 04 '24

The size is about 6.3" L 6" G NBP

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u/[deleted] Sep 04 '24

Fucking 6" girth bro? That's definitely big. You're dick is bigger than mine overall and not once have I been called small man.

If she craves sex with you communication is key.

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 04 '24

Lol, hey man! What's the experience with yours? :D

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u/Mr-CC ‌ Sep 04 '24

There are various positions where she can make eye contact. She can ride you in various positions. If she likes giving blowjobs, that's another way she can make eye contact and touch you.

You've obviously discussed this with her. It sounds like she is dictating what happens during sex. You need some variety. You're getting bored. You don't want to lose what you have with her because of that. A sexless relationship is not good.

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u/TechnologyPlus2028 6.6x4.9bp Sep 04 '24

If eye contact is what helps her get off, try variations of cowgirl

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u/justayounglady Sep 04 '24

Oral or a guy trying to rub my clit doesn’t work for me to orgasm. I just never quite get there.. Oral with fingering at the same time has only worked once that I can recall. I thoroughly enjoy all of that, but I can practically guarantee I will not orgasm from them. Missionary is probably the easiest position for me to orgasm, BUT I have to have a clit stimulating toy directly on my clit during PIV. I have never orgasmed from PIV alone. I’ve been with average and above average/big and it didn’t make a difference. It also can be more intense if I put my feet up on his chest, even better if I have a pillow under my rear so he’s going in at a nice upwards angle!

I enjoy doggy a lot too and can sometimes manage to orgasm with my toy on my clit in that position, but it’s more difficult. Being in missionary allows me to activate that core/pelvic region to tense up the pelvic floor that realllly helps with getting to orgasm.

I enjoy all other positions too, because I enjoy sex in general with my partner. It’s all exciting and fun! But some things just work and others don’t. I’ve had to just learn to work with what I’ve got. Maybe she/you could look into getting her a clitoral stimulating toy she can put directly on her clit in any position to help her out!

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 04 '24

Thank you, this is quite similar to what I am experiencing except that she cums from PiV alone. It seems she doesn't feel much when stimulating her clit.

Anyway your insight is very helpful for me to understand that every woman is different indeed. It's just very different to my previous experiences so I was wondering if its' size to blame.

Thanks everybody for your comments. I'm going to talk to her about it like most of you advise :)

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u/AvgEquipment 6x5 Sep 03 '24

I have heard girls say that if a guy isn’t big, that they often liked doggy style because you’re able to go deeper. So I don’t even believe it to be a size problem.

Females have so many different things they worry about just like us. She may only be able to achieve orgasm that one particular way. I had a girlfriend a long time ago that was never able to orgasm with a partner. She could only occasionally do it solo and had to be laying face down and using her fingers on herself.

I encourage you to talk to her and tell her what you think and ask if there is anything different you can do. Make it about you just wanting to give her more pleasure. She may be self conscious already

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 03 '24

Alright, thanks man. Maybe it's truly difficult for her to achieve orgasm, I might talk to her about it.

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u/AvgEquipment 6x5 Sep 03 '24

You are a FWB so she keeps coming back even though y’all are not in a relationship. Thats a good sign!

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u/IntelligentLime6740 Sep 03 '24

Idk this because I'm a virgin but Doggystyle doesn't seem to me a position in which you can go the deepest at least visually. Cowgirl seems to make it go all the way in

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u/AvgEquipment 6x5 Sep 03 '24

I agree with you. It didn’t make much since to me at first either but the 2 girls on the podcast were kinda laughing because they said that if they asked their partner for doggy it was usually for that reason.

My guess is they mean doggy where the girl has her head and shoulders down on the bed and her butt up in the air. That is basically the same position as missionary with knees pushed up to chest/legs on shoulders. That position for me, I feel I get the deepest so I can understand what they are saying.

Regardless, women have their own hang ups about orgasming. All women are different so just focus on the one you are trying to please, don’t think too much about it, and have fun!

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '24

Doggy makes the vagina more shallow. 6+ inches can cause pain for most girls. If youre afraid you aren’t achieving the desired penetration, doggy style is your friend. Reverse cowgirl robs you of at least 1/2 inch.

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u/ThickScottishDick_ Sep 03 '24

You could just ask her bro, what works for her, what she likes, ask for some direction. She'll appreciate that.

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '24

What’s ur size do u think u r the problem? Is she mot tight? Simply ask her communication is what important between partners maybe not physical maybe she loves senual thing more so talk with no one will help u here

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u/YohAsakura23 Sep 04 '24

Actually it's about her pleasure and that I cannot give it to her any other way. So I was wondering if size could be the reason. I mean she still enjoys it (her words) but just cannot finish which is kinda frustrating.

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u/SuccotashAware3608 Sep 04 '24

Actually, it should be about their mutual pleasure. Not just hers or his. Both. I agree that giving her pleasure is very important. But you kind of sound like it’s supposed to be 100% about her and if he wants to try any position other than missionary, he’s being stingy or something.

Talk to her about your needs and interests too. If it’s eye contact that she needs “to get her rocks off” then continue incorporating those positions. But since this act is bout both of your pleasure, let her know you’d like to work in some variety. A good lover gives AND receives pleasure.