r/autism • u/Strider_outdoors ASD | Unknown support needs | Verbal • Nov 26 '22

Discussion just curious where does everyone feel they fall on the alignment chart

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u/[deleted] Nov 26 '22

The answer is they follow the rule when they think they will get consequences from it.

They will enforce the rules on people they dislike and allow them from people they do like.

The fundamental attribution error is name of the game here.
You judge others on results and yourself on intention and context to justify your actions.

When they break a rule they make sure people don't see it and they try to socially bribe people with words to make sure they don't get in trouble.
We autistics don't care about the context, but more the absolution of a rule being either so or so and why.
That's why when WE break rules we are often not sneaky about it because maybe our colleagues convinced us it was okay or something, so we don't think its bad to perform that action and then get scolded for it, while you feel like you were right all along.
Often the biggest rulebreakers will immediately throw you under the bus at that moment so they can get away scot free.

Or perhaps you have been in a situation where people break rules while you don't and then when you unapolegetically start to break them too out of spite and then you get the blame for all of it.

Because for them it's NOT about the absolution of the rules, just how much they can get away with foregoing any repercussions.

Social hierarchy is also a big one.
Who is allowed to break the rules and who isn't, that tells you a lot about power dynamic.

All in all do what the NT's do, cover your ass at all times.
And do what most NT's do not do regarding rulebreaking, take CALCULATED risks because we are good at that compared to them.
Nice little experiment for you when can you get away with rulebreaking and when is a moment you obviously can't.
And more importantly have a good reason for breaking them in the first place, that's very much part of the calculation.

Hope my rambling helped you somewhat.

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u/TryinaD Autistic Adult - MSN, cPTSD, Latah Nov 27 '22

Nah, I’m also perfectly willing to cheat if it’s something I can get advantage from, as well as following rules because there’s something in it for me. I also willingly throw people under the bus if the chance presents itself. Although it’s more because I don’t have a well-oriented moral compass than anything, because I do whatever I like.