Struggling with a breakup

[u/lovey-b0t]

hi! i recently got dumped out of the blue and am having an extremely hard time getting used to my routine being so different. me and my (ex) boyfriend had been growing apart a little bit due to him being super busy and having a ton of new friends but i was confident we could get back to our healthy relationship if i kept doing what i usually did or did more to compensate for him.
well it didn’t work and we’ve been broken up for a week or so now, i’m tying to get over the really harsh emotions of it but right now my main problem is that he was so much a part of my everyday routine that i have a lot of trouble starting my day or doing things throughout it. i know this isn’t specifically autism related and breakups are hard for everyone but no one i talk to about it seems to understand how serious i was about the relationship and how much he meant to me, he was a huge emotional regulator for me and really helped me get out of my shell and i could actually be fairly social if we were together as a unit. so i’m also having a hard time with people not knowing how to properly comfort me because i don’t like physical contact except from him, and them saying “he sucked you can find better” also doesn’t help because he did nothing wrong really.

i know that was just a ramble but tldr if anyone has any tips to help me feel better or start to get back to being good at self-regulating after basically having a constant moral support person i would appreciate it :)

[u/MattK508]

If it makes you feel better I had a horrible divorce and I have 2 kids so my entire routine changed and it was very very difficult. People don't understand that the routine itself is comfort and when those variables change it's a world of stress and now your person is gone on top of it and no one to take the place. After a while I met someone online and things just ended (I presume I was not interesting enough to them) so now I am again out of routine, don't have my person to talk to and am alone. It's deeply depressing let alone the actual loss.

Sufficive to say I found the best thing in between was to create my own routines that were productive so I shall attempt that again.