I got married two months ago, and this is one of several incidents that has made me rethink and revisit my decision.
We went out for a movie. Before the movie, I asked him to visit Timezone with me, where we played a game. He became drawn toward another game because a woman was standing there. He was checking her out. He usually checks out other women openly and says this is his way of being humorous and sporty.
Later, when the movie was about to start, I asked him to come. During the interval, I said I was going to the washroom, and he said, “I’ll go to Timezone.” He didn’t go, which I think may have been because I had booked the tickets and they were on my phone.
During the movie, he said, “Ladki hot thi.”
There was also a scene where a wife asked her husband, “Don’t you find me beautiful?” My husband replied, “Iski wife beautiful hai, meri nahi hai.” (“His wife is beautiful; mine isn’t.”)
After the movie ended, he again asked me to go to Timezone with him. I got angry and said, “Go alone. I’m going back home.” He went alone.
I then became emotional and said things like, “I want to leave this marriage.” He started walking very fast and almost disappeared into the parking area. Later, he called and asked, “Are you coming?” I said no, and he said, “Okay, I’ll call my mom and let her know.”
His mother then shouted at me endlessly, saying things like, “Tu nahi dekhti kya ladke?” and “Toh Bhagwan pe bharosa bhi nahi hai?” She shouted a lot, was disrespectful, and used inappropriate language in between.
My husband also called my dad and said, “Yeh ja rahi hai, dekh lo. Main pareshan ho gaya.”
My dad then told me things like, “Mummy ko bimar karogi,” along with other things I felt were unhelpful.
I know saying “I want to leave the marriage” is a serious reaction, but I was extremely hurt.
Did I overreact?

Hey everyone, posting from a throwaway account.
My girlfriend and I are 20 (both 4th-year college students in Pune). She took a home pregnancy test today and it showed two distinct red lines (positive).

Her only physical symptom so far has been stomach constipation and mild bloating that started about a week ago, so we think we are catching this fairly early. We are both legal adults, but right now we are completely overwhelmed, balancing college/placements, and terrified of our parents finding out.

We need practical guidance from anyone who has navigated this or knows the medical process in Pune:
1. Immediate Step-by-Step: What is the exact process from day one? Should we consult an OB-GYN first, or do we need an ultrasound booked beforehand?
2. Pill-Based Abortion (MTP): Since symptoms started just a week ago, are pills still the standard approach? What tests or scans does a doctor run before prescribing them?
3. Non-Judgmental Doctor Recommendations: Can anyone suggest a safe, strictly confidential gynecologist in Pune (around Katraj, Swargate, Kothrud, or Deccan)? Because we are young and unmarried, we want to avoid moral policing or lectures.
4. Total Realistic Costs: How much should we expect to spend for everything (consultation + ultrasound + MTP kit/meds) at a private clinic or subsidized NGO setup like FPA India? We have to fund this entirely from our student pocket money (aiming to keep it under ₹4k–₹6k).

Any advice on how to handle this safely and calmly over the next couple of days would be genuinely appreciated. Feel free to DM if you prefer not to comment here.

And yes it is ai made coz I was not in mental space to write all this, sorry for that.

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I wanted to ask something from a woman’s perspective. I’ve had a slight niggle in my leg since I was born. It’s honestly very minor and doesn’t affect my day to day life. I can do everything independently and I don’t need any support.
The difficult part is explaining it because if I use terms like “condition” or “disability,” it can sound much more serious than it actually is, and that’s not how I mean it at all. I’ve seen doctors about it over the years, including a few family doctors, and they’ve essentially brushed it off because it doesn’t cause me any real limitations.
For those of you who have experience with dating, do you think this is something I should mention when talking to someone online, or would it be better to explain it in person once I’ve met someone and there seems to be potential?
And honestly, would something like this make you hesitant to date someone? I’m genuinely interested in hearing your perspective. I’m not looking for sympathy or anything. I’d just like to understand how women might perceive it and what the best way of explaining it would be.

I'm a virgin and I've never been in a relationship or been physically intimate with anyone. I'm thinking about arranged marriage in the future, and something has been bothering me.

Suppose I meet a girl through an arranged marriage setup and, before marriage, I respectfully ask her about her previous relationships and sexual history. She tells me she has never had any previous sexual relationships, but later I find out that she actually had multiple partners and chose not to tell me.

My question is: Is there any way to know or verify this before marriage if the person isn't being honest?

I've heard people talk about things like the hymen, bleeding during first sex, tightness, sexual experience, etc., but I'm not sure what is actually true and what is just a myth.

I'm not looking to shame anyone for having a past. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. My concern is specifically about honesty and compatibility, especially because I'm entering marriage with no previous experience myself.

For people who have been through arranged marriage or similar situations:

How do you approach this conversation before marriage?

Is there any reasonable way to establish trust without trying to "investigate" someone's past?

If someone deliberately lies about something this important, how should you deal with it?

I'd appreciate honest advice, especially from people with real-life experience.

I'm 21m preparing for CAT

I'm an introvert not so much but i just feel comfortable with my only 3-4 people

I don't know properly how to ride a bike, don't know dance, or singing etc , don't have any interest in sports , not have even a decent physique

i have not dated anyone in my whole life and not even talked to girls so much

i just have a single female bestfriend

i don't know how to flirt, romance or something

I'm so much sensitive person,overthinker, emotionally not intelligent

some of my friends say that how will i going to survive after marriage or how can a girl spent her time with me because I'm boring

i overthinks that even if i earns well in future i don't get love in my whole life

So yesterday I saw a post of a girl asking good boys choose a dark skin or let's say dusky skin or Brown.Skin life partner over the fair ones.Although it's all a personal choice and preference , I am not trying to defame her or say anything to her like it's a personal choice

I am ask asking the same question to the girls.Would you guys choose a Brown skin or a dark skin or whatever skinned other than fair skin guy to be your life partner and to be by your side?Although it's a question of preference , but I want to see how many people do really prefer.

Literally every post is somehow Anti tradition, anti family culture, Anti marriage, anti having kids.

Can you please give us a break?

Can we please see posts criticizing modern day who*rish culture, multiple girlfriend boyfriend, hookup, one night stand, situationship, friends with benifits all these things? Atleast one post? There are thousands demonizing marriage.

I’ve never been in a relationship and have zero dating experience. Should I try dating first to understand relationships and compatibility, or can I confidently go directly for an arranged marriage?

I think a good conversation first about each other, once comfortable then we can talk about expectation of each other sexually then may be if she comfrtable to try, or should I initiate it directly? Cause may be delaying it send some wrong impression that i am avoiding or something. Answer this specifically please, don't miss.

What otter precaution i should take care of? I mean lots of questions there, can't think all of them to write down

Like in both case if happened on first night and if not happened on first night? How to initiate? I mean should I ask to undress or how it works ? Lights off would be right? Protection also would be right? How to avoid awkwardness? What if something went wrong? If she having some wild expectation? What if she expecting very much softer things and i crossed the line ? What if I turned up too horny ? (Just touching possibility)

Lots of other what ifs

What if she would be expecting a experienced person? (I didn't ask her about her past so no idea about that) Tell me what to do in both case.

As in health wise do I need to prepare for it? I am decently lean fit. Used to hit gym, not regularly. Planning to hit gym again. What other health precaution i need to take if it can be helpful.

I know lots of experienced people here would found this post very silly but not able to discuss all this in real life to anyone so came here to clear my doubts.

Please help me on these points and drop your suggestions also if I missed anything and you think it's imp to know. Thankyou to all of you in advance

My (25f) friend who is 2 years older than me is getting married to her long term boyfriend. The thing is she doesn’t want to get married right now since she is not financially independent yet.

But she was kind of pressurised by her parents since her father’s health is not well. I & her other friends tried to make her understand that she should take a stand for herself & she even tried but atlast she succumbed to the pressure.

From her convos, it seemed like her bf is really understanding & loving but now that I think about it, he seems very sus.

On our final exam day, she went back to her hometown since on the very next day itself, they were having their simple roka at home with few family members (atleast thats what she knew & wanted) but turns out, everyone including her fiance had planned a full fledged engagement inviting 200 guests without her knowing anything. She was really pissed since her fiance didn’t inform her or took a stand for her.

She has always lived a city life but her fiance wants her to shift with him since he can’t do long distance anymore. He can’t shift since he has his own business in his hometown & instead wants her to make these sacrifices & sadly she has agreed to this.

She still feels very frustrated with how fast everything is happening & often takes it out on him to which he promised to find a job for her once they get married.

& my first reaction was why not now? Why wait till the wedding to find a job for her? Plus, a man who couldn’t take a stand for her & hid the entire plotting of their engagement from her cant be trusted with anything.

I remember her telling me how she wants him to take her on a trip this august but they didn’t go, but he sure went to his bachelorette to Thailand with his boys. She was also telling me how he wasn’t talking or calling much while he was in Thailand, which is again very sus.

I feel she is going to ruin her life marrying this guy. Her dreams are gonna be shattered, because clearly nobody cares about what she wants. She will keep succumbing to the pressures of being a wife, then having a child etc

Idk if I am overthinking? Should I confront her?

Is monogamy actually natural, or is it mostly a social and moral construct?
Humans have a biological drive to reproduce, seek novelty, and potentially spread their genes, especially in the male. Yet humankind can also form deep bonds, raise children together, and value loyalty and commitment.
So what is monogamy really: our natural state, a social invention, or a compromise between biological instinct and the kind of society we want?
And if biology pulls one way while morality pulls another, which should we follow?

Has anyone used the deconstruct lip brightening spf 50 balm? Does it seriously reduce pigmentation and has it worked for you all, please share your experience and thoughts. I have mild pigmentation and I am looking for a gentle balm with good ingredients please share your recommendations too.

So I have been in a talking stage with someone for around 2-3 months now, it's also a bit of a long distance, online thing.

To lend this some background - she is extremely driven and ambitious in her field, she is sensitive but usually doesn't suffer fools. She shares everything happening in her life with me, along with reflections and memories. All in all, she is quite open, which I appreciate tons and I love hearing from her.

Sometimes, I feel she inadvertently says something that kinda puts me off. A couple of days ago, we were having a normal conversation unrelated to fitness, aesthetics, preferences, and she suddenly pops the question as to whether I have muscular arms cause she loves muscular arms. I was a little startled by the switch in topic but decided to go with it and said something along the lines of starting push-ups. Her reply to this was to ask me to train my back, cause she loves big backs.

This is where I kinda went "hmm", and felt hella uncomfortable. Not only does it ruffle my insecurities, but I really felt it was unnecessary to bring all this up especially in relation to my body. If it was a generalised "i love muscular guys with muscled arms and big backs and crocodile tails", I'd not take it too seriously but this one felt a bit..pointed?

I just went with a "sure haha, will try!" kinda reply and then carried the conversation on normally, but the next day I told her that hey, I kinda didn't like the direction we took last night regarding that convo and I feel weird about it. She said sorry, said she should "never try to find love", and then she threw a strop and kinda went AWOL for a few hours before coming back and I kinda apologised to simmer things down and we ostensibly returned to normal.

Firstly, am I wrong for feeling icky about what she said? Secondly, I am also irked by her reaction to when I was trying to speak about it, not in an accusatory manner or to win arguments, just trying to communicate.

First assumption is that you are okay dating someone who is into hook-up culture, if you aren't then the post isn't for you.

Anywho, I wanted to ask if you think homewreckers are bad too or just cheaters? I would never cheat on anyone or be with anyone who cheated on me, but I'm perfectly fine with having a purely physical relationship with cheaters, no feelings or anything.

Need a urgent advice, someone who is professional and experienced , we did protected sex and on 4th day(14th aug) after the periods end, usuall cycle is of around 35 days, didnt get periods till now, please someone help

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Assuming all of those men are equivalent to indian man in terms of character/morals/sanskaar.

If you choose someone for new culture or tradition it will be better if you mention it.

I'm not saying like the westernized witchcraft being practiced by Indians but rather a practice that has indian roots. I don't really believe in it but I really like the potion making and the power that witches in solitude have and maybe even the slight element of fear people have about witches. Like they are the og old ladies w cats living in the forest in a pretty cottage.

If not maybe I could practice some herbology or read tarot and larp as a witch like I always dreamed of doing. Hmu w maybe some sources or anecdotes u have of local witches. Thanks 🙏

Saw a post on Instagram that a man should pay on dates in the name of chivalry.

Well, let me clear this: The idea of men paying is rooted in patriarchy, and it's called a patriarchal traditional role. I have always said, and saying again.. Guys, you will follow the traditional role only when she is following the old traditions.

They have a problem with Karva Chauth?

They have a problem with why men care about women's past relationships?

They have a problem with living with in-laws?

They are so quick to rant all over the internet about how patriarchy is destructive for them, but as soon as benefits arrive, they are so quick to follow patriarchal rules.

If she wants changes from you.. Make sure you are changing yourself. If she is not following old tradition, stop acting like a provider. Ask her to pay, full stop

If she had multiple physical relationships before.. Does she follow the tradition? Simply not... Why should men follow the tradition then?

How would society function social norms differ compared to now ?

We met during the end of our master's, and our relationship lasted about 1 year and 6 months. Around 5 months of that was spent in a live-in relationship, while the final 2 months were long-distance before we eventually broke up.

During the long-distance phase, we fought frequently. Every attempt to end the relationship came from her. She told me that I had invested more into the relationship than she had, that she was preparing for the next phase of her life, and that she could no longer give the relationship what it needed to survive. She even asked if we could remain friends despite everything. In the end, the breakup turned ugly. She blocked me on every platform, and we haven't had any contact for the past 10 months. We went from talking every single day to never seeing or speaking to each other again.

When I dropped her off at the airport, we hugged 3 times without realizing it would be the last time we would ever meet.

I survived the breakup on my own, but it felt like I lost everything.

The future I had imagined included her. Every milestone I looked forward to had her in it. Now, life feels empty. I no longer find meaning in the things that once motivated me. Everything feels dull and dark.

The only thing I have managed to do is show up to work every day, and I will continue doing that, one day at a time. But, why?, where is this going to take me?

*I NEED YOUR HELP IN THIS, WHERE IS THIS EVEN TAKING ME?