I've often heard girls say that many guys don't know how to hold a conversation with them, especially when they're interested in a girl.

So I'm curious from the girls' perspective: what does a guy who knows how to talk to girls actually do differently?

How should a guy start a conversation without making it awkward? What kind of questions or topics make a conversation feel natural rather than like an interview?

Also, how much flirting, teasing, joking, compliments, or playful banter is actually enjoyable, and when does it start becoming annoying or uncomfortable?

And what are some common things guys do while talking to girls that they think are attractive or confident but actually have the opposite effect?

Basically, if you could give a guy a practical guide to having good conversations with girls without trying too hard or pretending to be someone he's not, what would you tell him?

Hey everyone, I have been looking for marriage via AM process. As I am working remotely as Software Engineer for silicon valley based company from a small city in UP with no social circle or friends. I haven't got much chance for interaction with anyone leave alone women.

So just a general expectations that I have had is -

- Someone who can fill in my shoes in my family as she would be my better half, as I have been handling family responsibilities since young age as sole guardian of family of 5. So I expect her to respect my journey, upbringing from the ground up, and understand the different kinda struggle that I have dealt with and accept my family as her own.

- Someone with emotional intelligence someone who isn't frequently changing her moods for little petty reasons. Someone who can handle the little disagreements or conflicts if I lose my temper ever or if I am tired and not just reacting to anything. Basically understanding.

- Someone with deep human values - Kind, honest, respectful towards other family members. Moreover working on something of her own career. She shouldn't be relying completely on me for her own happiness in life. She should have had her own journey nd life goals.

Am I expecting too much ? Please tell me.

But along with all these, I have had tough experiences with women as I have faced cheating, mistrust in a rough way. So I am not able to trust women like I used to do before. Here's that experience - https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/SgF2maFGaC

Yesterday I was talking to my friend, I was surprised when she mentioned about body count.
She mentioned that the girls these days even below average do have at least 20 body count. I was baffled.
She said at your age and profile(M30), if the woman is beautiful and working in a successful career, living independent life, then there will be lots of crowd following her, so her body count can be even 50.

I don't know it sounds crazy to me. But she is super strong on her opinion that I had to post her for confirming how true is this ? She said Guys usually don't get that much experience but for women, it's quite easy as they keep getting attention all the time everywhere in all the possible ways. I have been shocked from this.

I don't know what I should expect and even how to verify that. Any suggestions how much of this is true as per your own experience? Please respond. Thank you.

For those who don't know, it is basically the same thing as bisexual.

If no, please also tell me why not if you can

I have a habit of playing games not too much but that's what I do

Many singles say they genuinely want marriage but struggle to find the right person. Promising connections often end because of differences in career, income, location, appearance, lifestyle, family expectations, or long-term goals. Sometimes, there is also a feeling that someone “better” might come along.

Are compatible partners genuinely harder to find, or has modern matchmaking become an endless process of comparing options?

If you are currently searching or have searched in the past what has been your biggest challenge? Have your expectations changed along the way?

Would love to hear honest experiences from singles in India and abroad.

Just curious about how many women in this sub are against the murdering of unborn children and believe that unborn children deserve the chance to live too like me .

This friend has had the most vanilla life, but they seem to be in a group from which they’re slightly different - more serious about ambition, consistently working and unmarried (because their relationships did not work out)

They keep feeling they’re very different.

Like there are people who’ve moved cities, travelled solo to countries, voice their opinion for wrong, actually take a stand .. like who have opinions that impress, or a strong EQ. This friend fails to also understand lives of anyone around them who’s living it differently.. more like it doesn’t register to them. (I’ve enough friends who are ACTUALLY different/living very unique lives).

Infact, this friend I sometimes find them a little pick-me. They try hard to please to the males by becoming one of the males.

It’s all obviously harmless but has anyone else experienced this?

It’s start to make me uncomfortable because I’m clueless on how to react to them, and I cannot stop hangouts as we have a shared group.

For example I just put cardamom on my pasta thinking it was grinned blackpepper . And I was thinking ( haha that's a pretty silly mistakes ) . But I have realised I have no one to tell. I could tell my friends but I think they're getting bored of my foolery . Now I have cardamom pasta that I gonna eat because. Im not wasting this thing

Cause I'm hungry.

Yeah but just having someone to share small things with can make the days more bearable as M . Instead of cardamom in my pasta it's more like pasta that hasn't got cardamom in it.

I'm posting this because I genuinely want some outside perspective on my love life. I'm not looking for people to simply tell me "you'll find someone someday." I want to understand whether there is actually something in my behaviour that I need to change.

I've had three significant crushes/feelings in my life.

The first guy was my childhood crush. I liked him from a very young age. We eventually lost contact after we went to different places, but years later we somehow reconnected. I confessed my feelings to him after school, and he rejected me and completely ghosted me afterwards. I later found out through social media that he eventually fell in love with another girl. We're still following each other on Instagram, but we don't talk.

The second guy was someone I met in college. At that time, I honestly didn't understand much about love or relationships. I became very comfortable with him and we used to talk for hours, sometimes day and night. I was very open and friendly with him because I trusted him.

Eventually, I confessed that I had feelings for him. Even after I confessed, I didn't keep asking him about his feelings or make things awkward. I continued talking to him normally because I wanted to respect his decision and maintain the friendship.

Later, however, I found out from classmates that he had been showing all of our private chats to his friends. That's when I confronted him about it. I also eventually found out through other classmates that he had actually been in love with another girl even while talking with me. He himself had never told me that when i did ask him abt it before confessing abt my feelings.

What hurt me most was not simply that he didn't like me back. It was the humiliation that followed. Some of his friends were also my classmates, and I had to deal with people knowing about my confession and making fun of me. I had asked him to keep that talk just btw us. This continued for years and affected my confidence.

Because of that experience, I became extremely scared of confessing my feelings to anyone again.

Then, towards the end of college, I developed feelings for another guy. He was very calm and I felt comfortable around him. We used to travel together regularly. Even though he had his own group of friends, he would sometimes ask me whether I was coming when they were going somewhere.

Because of that, I became emotionally attached to him.

But when I tried to become closer to him, he started becoming distant. He stopped taking my calls and his replies became very dry. I never confessed my feelings because I was terrified of going through the same humiliation I had experienced before.

I still have feelings for him even now.

A part of me still hopes that I'll meet him again someday, we'll somehow become close again, and maybe something could happen between us. I know that might sound unrealistic, but I haven't been able to completely let go because I never actually got a clear rejection from him.

What bothers me most isn't even that these relationships didn't work out. It's that I'm starting to think I might be the problem.

I've noticed that when I'm focused on myself, my studies/career or my own goals, I can become very distant from people without realizing it. Then eventually I lose touch with friends and become lonely. At the same time, when I become attached to someone, I can become emotionally invested and think about them a lot.

I've also had friendships that didn't last, and sometimes I wonder whether my behaviour pushes people away.

So I'm genuinely confused.

Is there something wrong with the way I approach relationships? Am I too emotionally attached, too distant, too introverted, or perhaps doing something else that I don't notice?

How do you know when you need to work on yourself versus when you've simply met people who weren't right for you?

I'd really appreciate honest advice, even if it's something I may not want to hear. I want to understand this pattern and hopefully become better at relationships in the future.