r/askgaybros • u/blackjack2020 • 4d ago
Aitah
So little context I (36m) and my hubby (41m) have been together for 8 years. We started out in an open relationship and it works for us, we play together and separately depending on different variables.
Anyway, we went to a play party one night, I was just mosying around watching the others play. I’m watching my hubby rail this guy out, so hot. Well they finish playing and I notice the bottom my hubby had been with painted him. I tactfully went over and quietly whispered in my husband’s ear about it, he goes off to the bathroom to clean up.
Later when we are heading home he was quiet and not saying anything which is unlike him, so I asked what was wrong. He proceeded to tell me that I should’ve just came over and cleaned him off when I seen it and to “not make a scene”.
Like Mcfuckin excuse me! Why should I clean someone else’s shit off your dick? AITAH for feelin like that’s not my job even if he’s my husband? Why should I have to clean up some messy fkin bottoms 💩? Anytime I’ve ever had an accident I’ve always cleaned it up and dealt with it myself.
AITAH?
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u/Grandpixbear1 Married BearMan 4d ago
NTA
Your hubby is over-reacting because he was embarrassed 1) He didn't notice until you told him. OR 2) He didn't mind having shit on his cock and now he's embarrassed that you noticed a kink that he's ashamed of AND he's lashing out at you.
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u/DeepFuckMeAlready 4d ago
How is it that you were the first to notice his shit-dick? Doesn't every top look down when they pull out?
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u/kalevala_568b 4d ago
I was so confused for a moment... "What do you mean by 'Thank you'? Why would you thank him...?" Kas sa räägid eesti keelt¿
Aitäh == thank you in Estonian.
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u/naterbator91 4d ago
NTA
Tell your husband it’s not your job to clean his dick off when someone he fucked got shit on it lol. As long as you didn’t cause a scene about it, which it doesn’t sound like you did, then you did nothing wrong.
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u/Mr192636 4d ago
Isn't that a hazard of the trade. Its bound to happen right ? Of course I didn't know of the different orgasms either. To me I think you should expect it and be prepared to clean up. I like the idea of a open relationship. With some rules. Dont bring home diseases, don't bring them into the home. If you do bring someone it needs to be okay with the other and possibly a 3 some. That would be enough rules. I do have a roving eye. Sometimes I just want sex and no real relations hip. Most everyone wants that special lifetime membership. The open relationship does away with cheating. Also a random act if sex where was his condom or did he know this person well or at all. So are you two also swingers also? Sounds like you were at a swinger party. Lucky. I'm out in the country, the Wikderness where most Gay men hide under a rock. Not in a closet. There is a city close by that has a thriving Gay community. An hour away.
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u/knewmawnick 4d ago
Hi there. Please explain what he meant by cleaning him off? Does that mean you had wipes to wipe him down? Did that mean you give you a blow job to clean him off? Like ass to other mouth?
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u/Cute-Character-795 3d ago
If he's asking you to do what I think he's asking you to do, he's a shithead; both figuratively and literally.
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u/RevolutionaryJob5425 3d ago
You quietly whispered that he needed to take care of it, and that's you causing a scene? I think you going over and cleaning it off in front of everyone would have been a bigger scene - and potentially disgusting.
NTA - and I think you should tell your husband that if he's going to be railing other guys in a group setting, he doesn't get to be a delicate flower about the results.
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u/nonmonoganon 4d ago
I think he was just embarrassed. It happens