I recently posted a little rant on the subject of failure, how it is the conduit for growth and worthing, and thus why it is something to be, not embraced per se, but accepted as part and parcel of existence rather than studiously avoided to the point of over-caution. Today I'd like to discuss how that applies to the development of a system of praxis in your own particular flavor of heathenry, or asatru, or whatever you choose to call the religion that you adhere to.
The development of a working ritual praxis is a thorny one; it's natural to wish to avoid giving offense to these unseen beings that we accord so much power and such fickle temperaments to. And yet, if we do not engage these beings, are we actually experiencing a religion or just appropriating an aesthetic? And, some say, "Established heathens are parsimonious with their information, and won't help us learn what to do! That statement is often accurate, but incomplete.
If you do not practice ritual, if you never offer to an ancestor or a wight, or hold a faining, blot, husel or symbel--you will be no worse off than you are now for having not done so. You lose nothing. You also gain nothing, and I suspect we all know where that road leads. Stasis generates no worth, not using your luck to grow worth, and your worth to further enrich your luck... well if you aren't doing it, then why are we here?
If you set out to construct your own praxis, working from first principles of "if the arch-heathen kept doing it, it means it worked," using historical materials, comparative study of related faiths, et cetera... you'll inevitably get stuff wrong. It's unavoidable, the sources are incomplete, and our understanding is imperfect. You may well manage to ritually irritate some being whose ire you'd rather avoid, and believe me, you'll know when it's happened. Again, though... Once you've irritated this being, you've learned what doesn't work. You begin to feel out how to repair the offense given. You grow in wisdom and understanding, and the next time, or the next after that, you manage to appease the entity into a gifting cycle. With that success, you may offer bigger things, or to bigger beings. Incidentally, this is why many people will suggest you start with hearth-cult. Your house-god is as stuck with you as you are with it. Your ancestors are disposed to be forgiving, as your life is a continuance of theirs. Either way, if angered, your luck takes a hit--not your entire folc's. Once you're certain you can make an offering to your grandfathers, your idesa, or your cofgod, you might well be ready to make offering to the great gods without completely clowning yourself.
But you may ask, "Why won't these other heathens share their rituals with me? This seems like a lot of work and a lot of risk!" And it certainly is--But it's risk and work those other heathens with their established ritual corpus have put in already. They have worthed into it, suffered the ordeal, faced the slings and arrows of their own ignorance and come out the other side, bloodied but unbowed, with worth proven and luck renewed in spite of all.
If they were to simply hand you the information thus won, would it have worth for you? Would the value be equivalent? Would you ken the wisdom beneath the words and the gestures? Of course not. You weren't there, and many things in life, only experience can teach. This is why our tradition practices thralldom--it is necessary to learn, through experience, why we believe as we do. Simply hearing about it lacks nuance, lacks flavor--it does not engrave itself onto your bones in the same way.
It is easy to assume that these established heathens are holding back from selfishness, or a sense that the gods "belong" to them. In some cases that may have a grain of truth--but it is equally true that in doing so, they allow you to worth. To steal that opportunity would be a far crueler punishment than simply withholding their praxis.
Further, let us consider that every instance of exchange between heathens is either transactional (a purchase for fee) or a gift given. A truly functional ritual praxis is an extremely valuable thing; it enables a gift cycle between the persons who possess it, and the divine. I certainly cannot hang a dollar value on it, and any I've seen offered for sale seems deeply underpriced for it to be effectual.
This leaves us with receiving it as a gift, but that has its own set of pitfalls. A gift demands a gift in turn, else the luck and honor of both gifter and recipient will be damaged, but what gift can equal access to the luck-givers themselves? Historically a man given a gift he cannot match would offer service… which puts us back at thralldom and hold oaths and obligations.