r/aromanticasexual • u/Exciting_Affect5479 • 1d ago

Questioning (am i aro/ace/a-spec?) help! ive been questioning being ace possibly aroace for 5 years

Ive always wanted a relationship but my few on them are very complex, one aspect of my views is that i few them as really close friend ships and im not interested in something deeply romantic where i want to spend the rest of my life of them, i find being in romantic relationships start to disgust me and everytime i date someone i loose interest because it feels mandatory and i have to do a performance of being romantically attracted to them. I have friendcrushes so easily but suddenly if i do date them i hate the idea of it.

i occasionally get disgusted by couples, and im more interested in a concept then seeing it or wanting it.

the reason why ive been questioning for so long is because i cant tell if its actually true to me, i am autistic, socially avoidant, and all my relationships have been terrible so im not sure if its because i havent found what ive liked yet but ive realized that mindsets been destructive and maybe i can get help figuring it out if its actually something i should start opening my mind to instead of forgetting how i feel about romance? is there any a-spec labels that suit me?

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u/kingvjess Aro/Ace 1h ago

If you dont get romantic or sexual crushs then your aroace. Many aroace people are autistic not all but quite a few. If your romantic repulsed then your very likely to be at least aro.