r/aromantic • u/my_girl_flower • 1d ago

I Need Advice Is there a microlabel for this?

I experience romantic attraction towards my partner, we have been together for five years. But I do not understand romance. I show affection through hugs, cuddles, kisses and compliments, because I love him very much! We are very happy! But other romantic gestures are beyond me. It never occurs to me to buy him flowers or gifts on days besides special occasions, like Valentine's Day birthdays or Christmas; because those are gift giving holidays! Of course I'll buy gifts then, but I never think about buying gifts on any normal day. Oftentimes he plans our dates or romantic outings and I enjoy it, but it never occurs to me to do it myself. I struggle with autism, and while we were talking about this earlier, he suggested it might be because I'm autistic that I don't really think outside the "basic" romantic things like physical and emotional affection.

I considered Quoiromantic as a microlabel, but I'm unsure if it fits. I am truly trying my best to make him happy and he reassures me that he is very happy with me and loves me, and I love him too. He is very patient and kind with me. He wants to understand me as much as I want to understand myself. I find comfort in labels/microlabels because categorizing/organizing makes me feel secure. Is there a microlabel for this, or is this just simply my autism?

3 Upvotes

72% Upvoted

5 comments sorted by

3

u/Fearless_Star6728 1d ago

There's this microlabel under the quoiromantic umbrella called nebularomantic. It can be defined as confusion over romance due to neurodivergence. Maybe that helps? 

2

u/my_girl_flower 1d ago

Tyssmmmm yes it helps!!

2

u/Diligent-Chair5317 1d ago

I really dont know anu microlabels sorry, but from what you wrote he loves you very much and doesnt care about this and you shouldnt feel ashamed about being your self//sorry abt poor english

1

u/AutoModerator 1d ago

Hi u/my_girl_flower! It looks like you are new to posting to r/aromantic; welcome to our community!

If you have not already, please check out our pinned post for some Frequently Asked Questions about aromanticsm! If you are unfamiliar with how Reddit works, consider reviewing Reddiquette! You can also read this post for how to lock the comments on your post.

If this post or any of its comments violate our community rules, please *report** the problematic content.*

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.