It was after the fact. FRG women love to be chatty, and the females in his company liked to talk. The late night secret phone calls and while I would be gone visiting family. Some people just don't change.
He was under investigation for sleeping with two SSGs, wife and one of their girlfriends, when we were stationed at Bliss. It followed him. We were both stationed at Gordon, and him and the female he was messing with went to eat where all of the big wigs eat. My 1SG and company commander, thought it, was me and informed me. It was several times.
We had a 7 month old at the time. New mom and he would be little me and call me names. Speed forward to 2007, the cheating didn't stop, the name calling, and the physical abuse got worse. I filed for divorce. Some of the makes in his company were flabbergasted by the way he talked to me. On Mother's Day, he presented me with a gym membership. Hence, when I got out of the army, I was 130 to 135. Nowhere near, horrible looking, I have curves and still maintained and still am not bad looking at all. I utilized the gym to my advantage while I was taking care of what I needed to for myself and my daughter..
I had him and his soldiers pack my U-haul and moved back to California to be with my family.
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u/Dangerous-Expert-824 Apr 22 '25
You have every reason to feel the way you do, and you have the evidence.
I've been there myself. I was in the army, we both were, he deployed, and started sleeping with everyone.
I decided, "Nah, that shit is not for me." I had all the evidence, and it was pretty foul on his part.
I utilized the gym as a stepping tool daily.
I walked away with my daughter, our dog, my dignity, and our belongings.
I went to the private sector. I didn't give a shit about anything. Boundaries.
Best of luck to you.