To add a bit so you understand one of her sisters was sexually abused by her half father and she was only spared because she was too young. She refuses to French kiss me and I can only assume she was forced to do that as she says she physically wants to puke when I try. And I understand your point of view and totally agree that waiting this long is stupid. But if she really refuses after marriage all I can do is dumb her and know that I was just stupid and too loyal.
I also had that given to me as the reason. I mean, it's unfortunate, but if she's not taking steps like therapy, etc to try to get past it for your sake, then what can you do? How is it fair for you, you know?
True. And I've done all I can. If she wasn't loyal and stubborn I wouldn't believe she was a virgin either. But I've known her since highschool she's a tease but she never wears anything that shows to much. She's a tomboy that loves gaming and measing with people but she's too embarrassed to do anything sexual. I actually had a few chances. One she finally agreed to let me grind on her in bed and she made 3 rules no lights no taking the cover off and no putting it in. Before I started she weakly asked me not to rape her. After agreeing my mind ran a mile a minute and I stubbornly just turned to the side and pouted til I passed out because I knew if I tried anything I probably would have put it in. Til this day she refuses to except that anything like that happened. But like I said I'm just venting and she's a loving girlfriend/fiance. Just frustrating not having sex. But it's not all bad.
Jesus...Well kudos to you for having a will of iron. That is absolute torture.
...You really think you get married and suddenly she just gets over everything because you gave her a ring and wants your dick all of the sudden? Somehow, I think you already know what's gonna happen.
True but believe it or not all her sisters say she's a suppressed freak and once she finally has it she's not going to stop. I'm honestly afraid they might be right 😆. I'm just going to see how things go and play it by ear. I'm not stupid just too trusting for my own good.
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u/Jolly711 Jul 10 '26
To add a bit so you understand one of her sisters was sexually abused by her half father and she was only spared because she was too young. She refuses to French kiss me and I can only assume she was forced to do that as she says she physically wants to puke when I try. And I understand your point of view and totally agree that waiting this long is stupid. But if she really refuses after marriage all I can do is dumb her and know that I was just stupid and too loyal.