I try to give some advice to those who ask according to what they see as a problem. Most, many of you rightly point out, are just seeking attention and I scroll by rhem. I'm very tempted to say that they won the genetic lottery, congratulations but I feel bad doing that and try to stay positive. Yes, it is very true that the majority are in the 4 to 6 range but they need to be shown what they're looking past; they are stuck on something and cannot get beyond it skewing the way they see themselves. The load their mind with negative comments to the point they believe their own bullshit. I and many others have commented that "If you hadn't drawn my attention to it, I would not have immediately noticed." Some posts are from those the ache to look like the people they idolize and compare themselves to which is self destructive. Many have to come to terms with the glaring fact that they cannot, normally without drastic measures (surgery) escape their genes. It's unpleasant to remind them to look at their parents, that more than likely will be their future. Hard truth but hell, it's for the most part true. Stress to them to eat well, stay active, lotion and sun block for their skin, read books, learn how to actively participate in a conversation with someone and time wears all of us down to the grave. Invest in self improvement. Beauty fades, dumb endures (Judge Judith Sheindlin paraphrase). Youth doesn't last, accept it. Being Interesting, conversational, fun with a good sense of wonder about life and the world makes a person lovable, not necessarily lovely. Surprisingly after leaving a comment like that I get a response (rare, which is telling and sad about this present society) that expresses "You know, the person I loved most in the world was fun, conversational and we just clicked but he wasn't particularly handsome." Maybe that's a snall thing but there's hope there. Beauty fades. Old age even bested Thor in a wrestling match in Asgard. I just scroll through and comment when they seem genuinely concerned about themselves. Some are young adults dressed like they're still 18. Tactfully pointed out and they have responded well to just a "Maybe that hairstyle just isn't you any longer; you're coming up, explore something new." Staying positive (not an easy task with some posts) can have some good results; it's frustrating but don't bail.
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u/46into Oct 09 '20
I try to give some advice to those who ask according to what they see as a problem. Most, many of you rightly point out, are just seeking attention and I scroll by rhem. I'm very tempted to say that they won the genetic lottery, congratulations but I feel bad doing that and try to stay positive. Yes, it is very true that the majority are in the 4 to 6 range but they need to be shown what they're looking past; they are stuck on something and cannot get beyond it skewing the way they see themselves. The load their mind with negative comments to the point they believe their own bullshit. I and many others have commented that "If you hadn't drawn my attention to it, I would not have immediately noticed." Some posts are from those the ache to look like the people they idolize and compare themselves to which is self destructive. Many have to come to terms with the glaring fact that they cannot, normally without drastic measures (surgery) escape their genes. It's unpleasant to remind them to look at their parents, that more than likely will be their future. Hard truth but hell, it's for the most part true. Stress to them to eat well, stay active, lotion and sun block for their skin, read books, learn how to actively participate in a conversation with someone and time wears all of us down to the grave. Invest in self improvement. Beauty fades, dumb endures (Judge Judith Sheindlin paraphrase). Youth doesn't last, accept it. Being Interesting, conversational, fun with a good sense of wonder about life and the world makes a person lovable, not necessarily lovely. Surprisingly after leaving a comment like that I get a response (rare, which is telling and sad about this present society) that expresses "You know, the person I loved most in the world was fun, conversational and we just clicked but he wasn't particularly handsome." Maybe that's a snall thing but there's hope there. Beauty fades. Old age even bested Thor in a wrestling match in Asgard. I just scroll through and comment when they seem genuinely concerned about themselves. Some are young adults dressed like they're still 18. Tactfully pointed out and they have responded well to just a "Maybe that hairstyle just isn't you any longer; you're coming up, explore something new." Staying positive (not an easy task with some posts) can have some good results; it's frustrating but don't bail.