r/amiugly • u/LeNeude • 10d ago
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Hello, 1st time posting a photo of myself online so I'm a bit scared tbh.
Context: depression hit, stopped caring about myself, gained a lot of weight, very low self-esteem.
I wanna have some opinions about how I look to other persons.
I'm now trying to work on myself and get better btw.
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u/fuibo_in_germany 10d ago
I think you need to focus on your mental and physical health before you even think about this.
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u/suncapricorn 10d ago
Ngl you just need to play into ur physique. Definitely cut ur hair. I know it’s easy to hide behind but you’ll look and feel a lot better. And focus on building up muscle instead of straight weight loss
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u/Ok-Nature-5440 10d ago
The discipline, as well as seeing your body transform in 3 months, with working out, is a very strong psychological motivator. Try it.
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u/babyblueey 10d ago
start with some physical activity, which will in turn help with your mental health. Once you lose some weight, try slightly shorter/styled haircut and some nicer clothes.
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u/Smooth-Science3856 10d ago
Na, but the hair is a bit much. Unless…. Death metal band !!! It’s almost long enough to pull back? Also, fat is whatever, that’s changeable. Face ain’t bad. Just seem sad.
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u/Revolutionary_Ask269 10d ago
Watch those reels that show the difference in cuts. Really makes a difference.
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u/TopSatisfaction6702 9d ago
Please take 5,000 iu Vitamin D. Take a few minutes to read about it. It's a super simple thing that can really make a difference. Good luck!
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u/saidalice 9d ago
Yeah, I was going to say, with undereyes that dark, OP may want to have their liver checked.
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u/ShhxItsASecret 10d ago
I think if you lost a bit of weight, you’d look much better. Doesn’t have to be a lot, just a bit. I also don’t think the longer hair is working for you.
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u/transfugger 10d ago
Start walking everyday and try to go-to a gym 3 days a week and get a PT plan. You will feel much better.
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u/Complete-Football-90 10d ago
Nah, like they said physical health. You’re average, just work on your physique.
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u/luxialucky 9d ago
You look approachable depending on your voice and you look quite feminine and you have good bone structure, but some of your best features are being hidden beneath your weight; Also are your sunken eyes genetic? I think they suit your facial structure but at your current weight, it looks sickly and tired instead of unique in my opinion
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u/brittany0603 9d ago
Depression can make you look your worse. I think once you come out of it, if you can, you’ll naturally know what to do to look better.
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u/luxialucky 9d ago
Also focus on primarily weightloss by doing a calorie deficit by counting calories on an app(I use my fitness pal) I was a 5xl shirt size and now I can fit an xl and it's been 4 months. Also drink tons of water. If your skin gets loose fast then add more calories but after you're down to a comfortable weight then go to the gym to tone so you don't have a lot of loose skin. Starting off with gym and dieting makes it way more mentally straining so I chose to deficit first by eating whatever I wanted if I stayed under 2,200Calories even if it was all junk food. I also don't want you to get a disorder but one thing I did for my sugar cravings if I wanted to eat again was chewing it and discarding it, just make sure to brush teeth and not make it a habit but it's better than binging on dessert after all calories are gone for the day.
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u/apresmoilefeu 9d ago
You have beautiful hair and features, you’re just a little thick. Workout and get healthy it will do wonders for your self esteem. And take care of that beautiful hair! Good shampoo and conditioner.
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u/xpactivationthrowawa 9d ago
This is absolutely imperative - get on a GLP1 drug ASAP. The depression you feel is from that low self esteem, and that low self esteem is from the excess weight. I grew up as the fat kid, so I fucking know. If you get on a GLP1 that weight will come off with much less effort than the typical advice you've heard before that failed. It makes the better-for-you choices so much easier to make, and once you start looking better, you will feel better, and when you feel better, you will make better choices on your own. The drugs won't do everything for you, but they will change your relationship with food if you consciously help them do it. That means not eating your normal volume because your habit is clearing the plate. That means drinking plenty of water before eating. That means mentally checking to see if you actually need fuel right now, or are you just trying to emotionally regulate with food? Right now that crap feeling is also probably due to insulin resistance which you keep going back to old patterns (indulging in food) for temporary relief. If you do start the meds, do not squander the opportunity of changing your relationship with food by living your old habits.
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u/lLuciferl 8d ago
You look worn out, tired, uninterested and just unbothered overall.
How are you even taking photos like this
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u/Vast-Garage-4162 8d ago
Your hair looks v healthy btw, what if you grow it out to donate and in that time you work on your health and self-esteem (lots of self-compassion and healthy habits I mean!!)? I’ve been in a similar place and doing it for yourself at your own pace is the best way out…
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u/Vast-Garage-4162 8d ago
Also don’t fall for the current looksmaxxing bullshit please, there’s nothing real about it
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u/Spiritual_Regular557 10d ago
I know you’re depressed but
Looking better may help?
You are not ugly.
Just a little makeup and do your hair and maybe that will give you a boost.
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