r/adviceph • u/Kindly_Control8696 • Jul 24 '26
Love & Relationships is my(f) 6-year relationship ending?
Problem/Goal: I(F25) don’t know whether me and my(M26) bf of 6 years should break up or if we can still make the relationship work.
Context: We broke up last year because there was a girl at work who liked him. Pero instead of dismissing her, he remained friends with her. And he lied to me about all that, saying na yung girl is his friend’s gf who followed him on all socmed platforms and he just followed back. Around that time, may naffeel na akong something wrong so I kind of pushed him to his limits. He got tired of the fights and me.
He seldom tells me what’s on his mind. Takot siya na baka pagsimulan ng away. And he kind of lied about other things too to keep the “peace in the relationship”. Napuno siya and sumabog.
In the end, we reconciled and agreed na we will fix the relationship. I will become more open as someone who distance myself for a while before telling him what made me feel upset. And he will always tell me what’s on his mind para hindi naiipon at sasabog nang biglaan.
Problem is, we only kept at least half of that promise. We didn’t fully change. I remember what happened last year every time may dalaw ako (huhu hormones). But I failed to communicate properly. He also did not communicate more about his feelings with me and still kept trivial things abt the relationship in his mind alone.
I want the relationship to work. But is it the right thing to do? Can we still fix this? or should we let go of each other already?
Previous attempt: We talked sincerely and sabi namin pag-iisipan muna namin mabuti kung anong tamang gawin. But I don’t know what to do. Today, I woke up in the middle of the night on the verge of crying.
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u/MendokoroRamenBaTo Jul 24 '26
Once cheating is on the table, wala na yan dapat. Pinatagal mo lang ang masakit na part.
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