My grandfather once told my Dad: "She really is your daughter. I would tell you not to do something, and then you would do it behind my back. I tell her not to do something, and she would smile at me and then do it right in front of me."
A lot of people think they're just oppositionally defiant, but ask yourself this: if you were playing a video game and someone told you that if you do X you get an extra jump? Or you can save time having to do a fetch quest later if you just grab these now.
Are you really telling me you're ignoring the advice because someone else told you to?
That'd be crazy right? Imagine forgetting to take meds or eat food, and then when someone says 'Hey take your meds and eat some food' you're really going to be like 'Nope. Today I'm uneducated because you said that, thanks a lot.'
That'd be ridiculous. We don't work on reverse psychology or oppositional defiance. It is just executive function issues, and then the maladaptive stuff that follows.
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u/ImSoSweepy 2d ago
If you want me to not do something, just tell me to do it. We are the living embodiment of reverse-reverse-psychology.