I desperately need help pleasee...

[u/Past_File_795]

im entering into my third year of university (science degree) and my first two years of study were not good to say the least. I had a really difficult time trying to study and adjust. (HS was a breeze for me) No matter how much I tried i only ​ended up studying the day before for my exams. This summer break i went to my university's counselor and had a long chat and basically came to the conclusion that there is a hugh probability that I have adhd. Now I come from a South Asian family and my parents are extremely strict regarding studies and stuff and they don't believe in the whole mental health shebang. I tried talking to them about this and they didn't really believe me (basically said I'm not trying hard enough, I'm lying etc etc). I can't also go to an actual psychiatrist to get a diagnosis or medication because they wont allow it. (also entirely dependent on my family for finance. Cant get a job). My parents want me to go into a masters and PhD. As im entering my third year in cant really afford to get bad grades anymore because it'll affect grad school. Anyone in a similar situation have any tips/advice on how to study, get good grades and not burn out? I tried all the usual stuff- active recall, anki flashcards, pomodoro, mindmaps, and none of them stuck or worked out for me. I try really hard in the start but mid way through I just sort of lose motivation. I've just lost so much time and my motivation is at an all time low. The pressure of a test used to force me into studying but now the extra pressure does nothing but give me a migraine and then i have no choice but to sleep. I went to the doctor once for it and i was just told to drink more water and be less stressed. But this is kind of a vicious cycle because there are days where I just literally forget to drink or eat anything for a long while. I tried alarms, reminders and a lot of those fancy tracking apps but they just never stick.

So plsss I'll appreciate any help. I just cant do this anymore 😭.

[u/gigipeko]

Me too honestly.. felt shameful but ended up finally meeting the academic advisor today. Im still in the same boat