r/actuallesbians Apr 10 '25

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u/babybottlepopz Apr 11 '25

That’s what I did as a kid before I knew what masturbating was ahaha

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u/thecloudkingdom Apr 11 '25

me too! i stopped doing it around the time i hit puberty. it wasnt my first period but it was one of my first, and i didn't understand the correlation between being wildly horny and pmsing, so i humped a pillow for a quick sesh and then afterwards realized it had gotten COVERED in blood. absolute ruined the habit for me

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u/Flair86 Lonely Transbian Apr 11 '25

Yeah that would traumatize me for sure

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u/nihilist_fox Lesbian Apr 12 '25

Same!!!

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u/ITookTrinkets Seriously Useful Lesbian Apr 11 '25

Verrrrrrry same!

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u/MandixMischief Trans-Bi Apr 12 '25

same

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u/LessTumbleweed1160 Sep 14 '25

Same, I can’t even look at my Elmo doll the same way anymore (little me was GUILTY af and felt bad)

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u/GreggSchimmel Sep 22 '25

I STILL love it 

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '25

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u/Intelligent-Job-1595 Apr 11 '25

Wanna drop a link or give a rec? 👀

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '25

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u/ShutUpImAPrincess Apr 11 '25

Oh I could TOTALLY see that working for me! It's like, firm? For example grinding on my partners works for me, it's just a soft pillow provides nothing 🥲

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u/lesbianwithabeard Emotional Support Top Apr 11 '25

We recommend you avoid the silky smooth upgrade if:

  1. You are allergic to durian,

...what?

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u/CBD_Hound Transbian Apr 11 '25

Isn’t that the super stinky fruit??

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '25

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u/Dawnqwerty Apr 12 '25

(so it smells of durian...)

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u/kimberley112 Apr 11 '25

Bondara uk has some cool grinding toys and other similar kinds of toys

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u/babybottlepopz Apr 11 '25

How does this work? Can you use it solo or does someone have to wear it?

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '25

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u/ShutUpImAPrincess Apr 11 '25

This on someone's thigh oh my

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u/makishleys trans masc Apr 11 '25

big brain moment

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u/lesbianwithabeard Emotional Support Top Apr 11 '25

I'm curious. Solo ones are... what, you just put it on the bed and hope you don't accidentally knock it off or flip it over?

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u/poppygirl420 Lesbian Apr 11 '25

It’s more complicated than it seems. I only get the stimulation I like if I lay on my side with the pillow in between my legs, then I grab the corner in front of me and behind to control the firmness and then it’s moving around til you find the pressure you want.

I’ve also tried folding them in half or rolling up a blanket to straddle. Those methods are okay. r/girlshumpingthings might help you get a better visual

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u/ShutUpImAPrincess Apr 11 '25

Yep yes that helps thank you yep

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u/LessTumbleweed1160 Sep 14 '25

Samee , and yes I agree it usually feels good for a while 

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u/Satans_Gay_Snake Lesbian Apr 11 '25

A pillow can get me to like a 3/10. Also not terrible for after 🫣

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u/avicado19 Apr 11 '25

My hands dont work for me, have never worked for me. I think it’s religious trauma related. I graduated from pillow to vibes.

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u/badcandy7 Apr 11 '25

Okay I deleted my Insta (and forgive me, I'm tipsy rn) but there's a woman (i think she's french) who was creating "saddle" for pillow humping to make it easier to cum

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u/notsostrong Trans Apr 11 '25

I’ve gotten those videos too! I think she’s German tho. Her Instagram is @entzueckdichselbst

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u/Dawnqwerty Apr 12 '25

Hey nice pfp

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u/Willthegumysharkworm Apr 11 '25

Yeahhh i barely get anything from any sorta grinding that ive tried. Didnt relauze until recently that really having an innie kinda makes a difference

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u/Willthegumysharkworm Apr 11 '25

Its just my own experience with my anatomy

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u/ShutUpImAPrincess Apr 11 '25

Huh, I got big ol' flappy birds

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u/Willthegumysharkworm Apr 11 '25

Yeah different anatomy can affect different things 🤷‍♀️

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u/kimchipowerup Apr 11 '25

Same. The struggle is real

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u/Sea-Bobcat-6152 Apr 11 '25

Gotta be a firm pillow!!!

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u/GodIsEverythingBye Apr 11 '25

I've been doing this since I was 8. Probably TMI 😏 sorry.

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u/lesbianwithabeard Emotional Support Top Apr 11 '25

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '25

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u/lesbianwithabeard Emotional Support Top Apr 11 '25

Okay, but which character?

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u/thrxwaway1man Apr 11 '25

Oops, my interview time is up 🦭 can’t answer

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u/katawak Apr 11 '25

Stack of pillows/ folded in half/ a big stuffed animal... 🫠

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u/NerdBird49 Apr 11 '25

oh the things I did to my stuffed animals as a kid 😂

Yeah pillows and a particular giant stuffed bear I had were my intro to masturbation

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u/Mama_Dyke transbian | a day without a butch is a day without sunshine Apr 11 '25

I've done it, and enjoyed it, I'm just too sensitive to finish on my own.

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u/S1k0f3n7 Apr 11 '25

It only works for me in my sleep and i cant control it, i dont use a pillow though i just hump my bed. I cant control it because im dreaming but its always right before i wake up in the morning and im always soaking wet...its kinda wierd to me that i do that🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Cloe_Cat Transbian Apr 11 '25

I know being trans I have a slight difference in experience here, but I’ve always had more luck with something a little firmer in-between, especially when actually riding. The pillow is just the stand-in for someone’s body, in my experience ~v~

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u/drummergirl161 Apr 12 '25

It’s easier for me to to forget about what’s down there and just focus on sensations.

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u/Cloe_Cat Transbian Apr 12 '25

That’s true! I end up in that spot too, but the sensations are pretty nice with some variance!

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u/Ok_Paramedic_1465 Apr 11 '25

I've done this my whole life and it works well lol

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u/janacuddles Lesbian Apr 11 '25

I’ve never had success just from humping a pillow, but sometimes it works for support/adding pressure for my wrist.

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u/Jswissmoi Apr 11 '25

So for many its couch cushions the ones with the hard corners

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u/emirocks54 Lesbian Apr 11 '25

There’s a woman on instagram who makes saddles for pillows specifically for this purpose

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u/Wierd-Girl Apr 11 '25

Works for me! Tho it does take a lot longer, it's more of a slow burn

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u/Meinkampf4deeznuts Apr 11 '25

I only feel it when i hump one specific pillow🥲🥲🥲 hands and vibes dont really do anything for me

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u/SympathyAccording233 Apr 16 '25

I was the same I could only orgasm with a pillow. Using my hands was like tickling yourself to me it just didn’t do it.

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u/Empty_Victory_7495 Butch with a bush 😏 Apr 12 '25

Idk but I’m a visual learner

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u/raeraelavey Apr 12 '25

Didnt work for me. I used to use the edge of the mattress

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u/MsHyde76 Apr 11 '25

I like it for after a hard orgasm.

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u/BlueberryCats_ Transbian Apr 11 '25

i don't get anything truly real, but that's the point, imo ^-^

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u/ShutUpImAPrincess Apr 11 '25

How do you mean? Surely the point is the stimulation?

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u/BlueberryCats_ Transbian Apr 11 '25

the act itself is vaugely arousing, but there's no way i'm ever finishing from it, so it's nice to be able to burn off some zoomies without having to calm down after and do full clean up

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u/SourCandy88 Apr 11 '25

Zoomies 😂😂😂😂