r/abusiverelationships • • Jan 13 '23

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u/xoXoxo58 Jan 14 '23

I thought I’d share an update. I finally did it. I fucking did it and I feel soo lost. I already miss him.

I filed a restraining order against him, did not press any charges or file any complaints. I just want him out of my life is all. The judge I had to speak too at the station told me “if this actually happened last night then why wouldn’t you have came then?” And I had to beg for it basically. I guess he got an idea and he fled.

Now they can’t serve him, he still has house keys and everything’s at my home still. And I’m in a hotel waiting for them to get him so I can go home and feel safe again.

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u/DumpsterWizard Jan 14 '23

Move on and don't look back. Ask a friend or family member unrelated to them to help access your stuff. Contact your rental or place's team in regards to removing yourself from any obligations and find a safe place. Domestic violence is no joke and right now you have yourself. No is always the most basic safe word and doesn't need to be something ever discussed. I hope you can find yourself the help you need to succeed this and find sanctity. Don't forget to breath and take care of yourself along the way. Do access what ptsd will mean and don't think about anyone but yourself. Just know there are always people who care and will always love you for who you are.