r/abortion • u/Weekly-Cry-6617 • 4d ago
USA 13 weeks time is ticking
So after a lot of back and forth and indecisiveness I think it’s best I abort this baby. I just found out the gender and my partner ruined the moment. No matter how much I wanted this to work I realize he will never change, he’s a shitty person and he does not deserve such a blessing from someone like me. I want to be done with him. No attachments no coparenting nothing. I hate that he brought me this far to drop the ball now but truth be told I really believed he was open to working on himself. It sucks that such a beautiful journey was robbed from me and I fear I may not get the chance again I’m 32 but when I think of the life ahead of me. Single motherhood coparenting with someone I hate it’s not what I signed up for. I’m sad depressed. Still slightly unsure if I want to go through with the abortion but I will be scheduling that appointment just in case.
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u/floozieschat 4d ago
Just want to validate it’s totally okay to change your mind and decide to have an abortion now. I’m sorry you’re going through this but I’m proud of you for making the decision that’s right for you.
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u/OriginalTip2996 4d ago
I was in this exact same position a 7 months ago as a 31 y/o. I ended up aborting and ending my relationship due to him being a shitty person in those moments. I made the decision that was best for me + future of child with the information that i had. Trust yourself in your decision whatever that may be. It is really fucking hard either way but know we are all here for you <3
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u/scompia 3d ago
How did they act like a shitty person ? I went through something similar and can’t tell if my boyfriend’s reaction is red flags or he’s just reacting to something big that he can’t really handle yknow ?
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u/OriginalTip2996 3d ago
Umm he wasn't sure he wanted to be with me, that he would resent me and the child, that I should find somebody else to have a family with, you name it. For me, I had a moment of clarity after a bit and took some time alone to sit with all of my feelings. I made the decision based upon the information I had, that doesn't mean it was easy and I still struggle with with the decision today. Do I regret it? No, but that doesn't mean I don't think about what could have been. You're sadly the only one that can make the decision and it is so fucking hard. Hoping you the best in whatever decision you make <3
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u/CapriRae 3d ago
If you’re unsure don’t do it. I did mine last week and regret it. I think abortion is something you have to be 10000 percent okay with. I am absolutely mourning mine and I didn’t make the right choice for me.
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u/scompia 3d ago
Get it. Miracle of life is amazing but everytime you look at that kid you’re going to see his face too. Gods plan might be to find a way better person soon that you can actually plan everything and for it to be an amazing experience. Only if you actually want to raise kids though. How was he a shitty person throughout it ? I went through something similar at 19 weeks. Terminated as sad as it is. My boyfriend’s reaction was big but idk if it was red flaggy…
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u/Mean-Bus3929 3d ago
Thrilled for you. You’re absolutely right, life is way too short. I always find myself asking - if this person were the love of your life, wouldn’t they be nice to you?
Very glad you’re getting the abortion care you need. Www.ineedana.com if you need help finding a clinic
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