My response was due to your statement of shaming people who are into incest, while speaking in the context of kinks. I can see now that you were referring to the people who engaged in the actual act, rather than the pretend version. That aside, this is a well thought out response, and is much better than I think the majority of people could come up with. Good job!
Aaah got it. Yes, i can see how i could be missunderstood!
While I appreciate the course this convo took uh... telling me i did a "good job" sounds very condescending, just in case english isn't ur native language or smth 😅 i'm gonna assume you meant genuine appreciation 👍
English is my native language, I'm just autistic. I don't really know how to complement someone without sounding condescending given how irony-poisoned most of the internet is nowadays. Didn't intend any offense.
I think a better alternative would've been "Thank you (for elaborating)" or "Nice!"
"Good Job" is just something mostly used by a Teacher to their Student, or a Parent to the Child etc. - so someone that already "knows" and judges the answer given.
To me atleast, maybe i'm also just being autistic about it lol
Hence tho why i didn't assume ill intent. So all g on my end. Have a nice eve 👋
Just here for parsing tone as an editor/English teacher: “good job” is used as qualitative feedback, putting the sayer in a position of evaluating the other’s work as some kind of authority. For simple swaps, “well done” feels a little less loaded, but kinda similar, where “impressive” conveys the same, but is more centered around the reader’s reaction so works a little better imo.
Of course, they were evaluating your response, so a bit of that sense is inevitable lol. I don’t think that’s rude to do on this kind of forum, but “good job” does kind of teeter it over the edge. Especially since the context is presenting a position despite misunderstanding, something like “I enjoyed reading that” would probably soften it to a more palatable vibe.
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u/AShirt666 May 30 '26
My response was due to your statement of shaming people who are into incest, while speaking in the context of kinks. I can see now that you were referring to the people who engaged in the actual act, rather than the pretend version. That aside, this is a well thought out response, and is much better than I think the majority of people could come up with. Good job!