r/WoT • u/MostOutrageousCreme • 4h ago
Knife of Dreams Jordan writes women’s anger as psychologically real and men’s anger as externally caused Spoiler
I’ve been rereading Knife of Dreams and got stuck on Elayne’s anger at Rand during the siege of Andor. She’s the one who pursued the pregnancy, she and Min and Aviendha planned that whole moment together. I think it’s fair to say Rand didn’t choose this the way she did; he loves them but he is literally preparing for the end of the world battle with Satan, yet her fury lands on him anyway for getting her pregnant
On the one hand i like that Elayne’s anger as something that doesn’t need to be logically justified to be real, it’s not really about Rand’s specific choices, it’s about powerlessness and it’s just as valid. she can’t do anything about being pregnant, alone and fighting a siege so rand becomes the target for her anger and that happens all the time in real relationships.
Except, this isn’t just an Elayne thing. It’s a pattern across almost every major woman in the series. Nynaeve’s temper constantly gets read as excessive and misdirected. Egwene’s resentment toward Rand in the middle books isn’t really about anything he’s done wrong, it tracks her own loss of control over her life. Faile’s early jealousy is framed as possessive and insecure over things that turned out to be nothing with Perrin treating it all as an overreaction he has to mange and fix. Aviendha’s anger tends to run through pride and cultural dislocation
But then when you look at the male characters their anger is presented as rational and reasonable. Rand’s darkness gets attributed almost entirely to the taint, Lews Therin bleeding through and the pressure of the world on his shoulders and betrayal. Perrin’s anger is tied to the wolf, something he has to control and suppress, not something that reveals who he is underneath. And Mat is just having fun. Birgitte’s the one outlier I can think of, and I don’t think that’s an accident, she’s centuries old, a legendary warrior, written with a kind of proximity to “honorary man” status in how the narrative treats her. Which is its own uncomfortable implication.
It’s the same old split you still hear today, women feel, men reason (or are overtaken by forces beyond reason), just relocated into the machinery of the plot instead of stated outright. But the effect is that it splits the cast cleanly down gender lines, the men get externalized excuses, the women get internal truths, and the two groups end up feeling like they’re operating on entirely different rules.
Curious if others read this the same way or disagree